Mumaguta makuru, chimiro ichi chehukama chinogamuchirwa kazhinji kupfuura mukudzokera kumashure. Rwiyo rweguta, kuvakwa kwebasa, kutorwa nehurongwa uye mazuva ezvemitambo sekunge ivo vachiruramisa "hukama hwemahara" uye kuvaita kuti vawedzere kuenzaniswa nekusikwa kwemhuri.
Wechipiri unoonekwa senge mhinduro yevanhu vaviri nezvekurarama pamwe chete, iko kuberekwa kwevana uye kutsigirana, sekutakura pamwe nevadikani.
Hukama hwemahara hunobvumira vanhu kuchengetedza rusununguko rwakakwana kubva kune mumwe nemumwe uye rusununguko. Iye anorasa mari yedu, kuita zvavanofarira kuita, asina kuvhiringidza kurasa nguva. Kubatsirwa kubva kune urwu rudzi rwehukama huwandu. Zvinoitika kuti vakaroorana vakadaro vari vanonyatsogara makore, shamwari dzakanaka, shamwari dzekufambisa, kuzorora, varaidzo uye kuita zvekusevha, kugara pamwe, dzimwe nguva kune mhuri yemumwe neumwe.
Asi hukama hwakadaro hunemabwe avo pasi pemvura. Statistics anoti vaviri vaviri, vane hukama hwousina kunyoreswa, maakaundi matanhatu ekuchinja, ari pamusoro pehafu. Muwanano iyi muzana inoderedzwa: kubva pamakungu gumi ezvidzidzo zvekuchinja chete mu5 vaviri vaviri.
Uyezve, hukama hwakadaro hunoguma nekuchiva kweumwe wevakaroorana kuti vagadzire mhuri, kubereka vana. Pane chikamu chetsika uye chakasimba, kutaura idi, hukama uhu hunovakwa pane husina husina hushamwari hwevanhu vane mumwe nemumwe. Vese vaviri vakaroorana zviri pachena kumisikidza muganho mukuvandudzwa kwehukama hwavo (kazhinji kazhinji zvinoitika vasingazive), izvo hazvisi kuzotama. Kana uchiedza mumwe wavo, ichi chibvumirano chakavanzika chekupwanya, hukama hunorega kuve hunofadza uye hunogutsa.
Mhuri Psychology inoti kuti chishuwo chekugadzira mhuri hachisi chete chitambi chetsika uye nhoroondo yenhoroondo. Mukati memhuri ine miganhu yakashongedzwa zvakajeka, nhengo yega yega yemhuri inogona kugutsa zvido zvaro zvakakosha: Mukuvimbika, kupora, etces, inozivikanwa, kuti mhuri inoonekwa seyakaonekwa seyakajeka maumbirwo. Vabereki / vakaroorana vakagamuchira chisarudzo chekuziva kuti vave pamwechete uye vachipfuura nemakungwa anokosha uye pfuti dzakasangana navo.
Muhukama hwemahara, ichi chikamu chakakosha hachipo. Kunyangwe nekuvimbika kwekuvimba kune zvakawanda "zvisingaite" nguva kana kupinda nguva kana pekugara, kuomerera pakuzvarwa kwevana, godo pakuzvarwa, kuve nekuvhundutsa, kuvaka zvirongwa zveramangwana riri kure. Izvi zvese zvinokanganisa kunzwa kwekuvimbika uye kuchengeteka. Muchokwadi, varoorani vanogara mune urwu rudzi rwehukama vanogara vakangwarira: kamwe kamwe zvese zvese zvinopera izvozvi?
Kazhinji, hukama hwakadai hunoguma mune iro raiye mitezo yematare kune zvakasikwa zvemhuri uye anowana akakodzera munhu uyu.
Nekudaro, hukama hwemahara, kana usingaise kwenguva yakareba, semubheya wekare, chiitiko chinobatsira kune vanhu vazhinji. Kutenda chimiro ichi chehukama, iwe unogona kudzidza kuremekedza miganhu yemumwe, kuti uzivise nezvechishuvo chedu uye zvinangwa, kukura padivi, edza kusimbisa kwavo uye kuita zvishuvo.
Kunyangwe zvese izvi zvichi zvikwanisika muhupenyu hwemhuri, kunyanya kana iwe ukabvisa ngano pamusoro pemaitiro, hupenyu uye kutsamira kwakashata kwevakaroorana kubva kune mumwe nemumwe. Asi sarudzo ndeyokugara yako!
Maria Dyachkova (Zemskova), Psychologist, Mhuri Therapist uye anotungamira kudzidzisa kukura kwega kwega kweMary Khazin Kudzidzisa Center