Chena chipfeko, Bouquet, chitsitsinho cheshangu uye chinodziya zhizha mhepo inotamba neyechi yako yekupfeka .. Uye kutakura kuseka kwako kwekureba kwemwoyo yevanhu kuchiri kumirira kana kuti ndawana ruzivo rwechinhu izvi zvekuzvarwa kwe mhuri nyowani.
Zvese izvi zvaive zvakanaka uye zvaiita sekunge zviri nekusingaperi, asi mushure memuchato unogara uchiuya, iyo inokonzeresa uye isina kupokana haisi murume kana kuroora kana kuroorwa.
Isa pfungwa uye chipingamupinyi kana kutaura uye dzidza kugara pamwe, munzwe mumwe, rudo, kukanganwira, ita humbowo paukama?
Kazhinji kazhinji iwe unogona kudzivirira kurambana.
Izvo zvakakodzera kunzwisisa uye kuongorora izvo zvinhu zvinotungamira kwazviri kana zvinogona kutungamira.
Psychologist Tatyana Bilenko
Kurambana kazhinji kazhinji kunoitika mumatambudziko ehukama hwemhuri.
Kune akati wandei yenguva idzi.
Iri igore rekutanga rehupenyu hwemhuri, kana vachangobva kuchata vanotanga kuziva mumwe nemumwe sevanhu chaivo, uye kwete zvinhu zvakadaidzwa.
Mushure memakore matatu, dambudziko idzva rinouya - apo mwana paachaonekwa. Mumwe nemumwe wevakaroorana anopa kune chimwe chinhu chakawandisa zvinotarisirwa, anonzwa kushomeka kwekutsigirwa.
Mushure memakore manomwe - dambudziko rinotevera. Kana mwana achipinda mukirasi yekutanga uye kutanga matambudziko echikoro.
Pakupedzisira, matambudziko akaoma kwazvo - makore 17-2 ekugara pamwe chete, apo vana vanokura uye vakasiya mhuri yemubereki, uye vakaroora vakatodzidza kugara pamwe chete.
Mumwe nemumwe wavo anotanga kunzwisisa zvaakange asingararame pachezvake, uye saka ini ndoda kushandisa makumi emakore ekupedzisira anobatsira iwe pachako.
Ini ndaizodaidza kurambana, uye chero kukakavara chibvumirano chakanyoroveswa chakanyoroveswa mune kodzero uye zvisungo zvemapato hazvina kujairika.
Kana vechidiki vakaita muchato, vanotungamirirwa nepfungwa yekuda mumwe nemumwe, vasina kufunga nezve kana vachiwirirana kana kwete kukosha kwavo kwakakosha uye masaini.
Chikamu chikuru chekurambana chakangobatanidzwa chisina kubatwa nehupenyu hunhu. Kana mwana aoneka, vabuki vane mibvunzo ichasimuka kwaari usiku, nzira yekushandisa kwavo zororo avo vanozoita zvidzidzo naye.
Mubvunzo wakaparadzana ndehwevanhu vevana mumhuri: zvinowanzoitika kuti maonero evana vevanaro pane iyi nyaya anodzikirawo. Uye mubvunzo wakakosha pamusoro pekuvimba uye kudzora, izvo zvinowanzorasikirwa nemuchato.
Kana aya nemimwe mimwe mimwe mimwe mibvunzo yaifungidzirwa nevakadzi vasati vamboitika, haungatadza kukahadzika: Kurambana kungave kushoma, uye mhuri dzakawanda dzingave nerunyararo uye dzinofara.
Ini ndaive nemutengi uyo aive nemurume ane tenzikadzi kwemakore gumi nemashanu muhupenyu.
Kunyangwe vaive nehukama hwakanaka. Yakanga ichishungurudza uye yakasimba kushushikana.
Panguva iyoyo, mwanakomana wavo anga atofamba kuchikoro, hupenyu hwakaomeswa uye zvese zviri muhupenyu zvakadzikama.
Kumubvunzo, Iye anoda murume wake, anoshamisika anopindura "makore 15 atove pamwe chete."
Ehe, heino idambudziko. Mwanakomana akakura, pakanga pane nguva yake iye noupenyu hwake, asi iye kwete.
Saka kazhinji zvinoitika, ivo vaigara pamwe chete kwemakore gumi nemashanu uye vakaona kuti hapana kana chimwe chinhu nezveumwe neumwe vanoziva. Mumwe anoshaya kupisa, uye kumwe kutariswa. Uyezve kukuvara kwevana uye pakupedzisira, usatombonzwa mumwe nemumwe, nekuti vanotaura nendimi dzakasiyana dzerudo. Murume wangu anoda kubata kuti anzwe anodiwa, uye marina pachayo ane hanya.
Saka akapa murume wake, amuyore nguo dzake, aive aine imba yakachena uye akamirira zvakafanana kubva kumurume wake, uye akamirira hugs, kubata uye nekukurukurirana nezverudo. Uye haana kunzwisisa uye akamunyora, akafunga kuti yaive isina tariro.
Kana iwe uchiziva zvinopiswa, unogona kuwana chiyero uye upe mumwe nemumwe rudo izvo mumwe wako anogona kuverenga uye kunzwa. Uye kana iwe uchiri kushandira nzvimbo yevabereki uye kukuvara kwevana, ipapo iwe uchararama kwenguva yakareba uye nemufaro!
Mhuri inogona kuzochengetedzwa nguva dzose kana ikaratidza zvikonzero uye kushanda nenguva.