Nzvimbo ye "hanzvadzi" yakavambwa muna 1994 neboka revakadzi vakaziva kuti vanhu vakapukunyuka chisimba vanoda kutsigirwa chaiko uye kwepfungwa. Musoro wenzvimbo yeMokhova Maria ndivo vane basa remubvunzo.
- Maria, ndeipi huru basa repakati pako, rinoitei, unogona kuumba?
- Basa guru repakati rinobatsira kune vanhu vakapukunyuka chisimba chebonde. Tinoda kuti vatsigire vatangezve kutenda musimba ravo, chiremerera, vakatanga kubata hupenyu hwavo zvakare. Center nyanzvi dzinopa rubatsiro rusina ruzivo kuvanhu, zvisinei nekwavo, zera, zera, chinzvimbo chemagariro, chitendero. Isu tine mapoka ekutsigira, psychologist, gweta, rubatsiro rwemagariro, zvirongwa zvedzidzo.
- Ndiudze kuti nei achiri mukadzi achigara nemudzvinyiriri wechibharo uye anodzvinyirirwa kumba, achitambura kwemakore mazhinji emhirizhonga? Zvimwe izvi zvinokonzerwa nepfungwa kana chishuwo chepamusoro chomukadzi anoteerera murume?
- Unoona, hazvibviri kupindura zvakajeka kumubvunzo uyu, asi ini ndichaedza kupa mienzaniso. Semuenzaniso, kune mhuri dzakarambana, mushure mekurambana, rambai muchigara pamwe chete mukamuri rimwe chete, nekuti hapana mukana wekuparadzira, asi hapana munhu anorova chero munhu. Saka vanhu vanobatwa nevanhu vanehungwaru uye vakabudirira, vane chero kutaura nezve chero chisimba uye mudzvinyiriri wemhuri. Asi pane zviitiko kana zvasvika pakati pehusiku murume akadhakwa uye anotanga kurova mukadzi wake, uye vana vadiki vanorara mukamuri rinotevera. Mubvunzo unomuka: "Kumhanya kupi?" Anoshandisa mapurisa kunyora chirevo kumurume wake, uye vakati kwaari: "Eka nedhal. Murume anorova mukadzi wake. Ndipo paunouraya - huya. " Uye anotaura, mashizha, anomedza chinyararire misodzi, nekuti inomanikidzwa kune imwe nzira ichirarama, uyai nevana. Nekuti Amai vanoti: "Zvakanaka, zvekuita mwanasikana, iwe unofanirwa kutsungirira. Iwe une mhuri, iwe wakatora chikwereti, uye anowana imwe neimwe, uye kana iwe ukagara wega nevana, haungapona. " Naizvozvo, mubvunzo, kunyangwe zvese zviripo mumusoro muvakadzi vari muvakadzi vanotsungirira mhirizhonga, hazvina kukodzera pano.
- Maitiro ekuita seizvi. Ndeupi mukadzi anofanira kuita?
- Vakadzi vazhinji kwazvo, vachipukunyuka kekutanga kuita zvehasha, vari kutsvaga chikonzero nei ari kupomera. Uye kuongororwa uku kunoitwa mukati mese: uye vabereki vake, nevabereki vemurume wake. Wese munhu anobatanidzwa mukuita kwaaifanira kuita kuti murume wake asadaro achirova. Uye nguva dzese dzaanofunga kuti haazohure nanhasi, nekuti akabvisa furawa, akagadzirira kudya kwemanheru, isa kurara munguva. Asi zvinoitika soichi chinoti: "Mukadzi, mutendeke mwenje, mukadzi anodzima chiedza. Unoshandira zvimwe zviratidzo here? " Iyo poindi haisi mhando yemhando yepfungwa, asi kuti chibharo chinogara ichiwana simba uye kutonga mumhuri yake. Nepo isu tisinganzwisisi kuti kuchinja munhu akabatwa, isu hatineti iyo chibharo, hapana chekuchinja. Mukadzi anofanira kunzwisisa kuti kunyangwe akazvibata sei, murume achamutsvaka kuzviisa pasi pake chero nzira. Kana akasauya nenguva kune nyanzvi, hapana anogona kumubatsira.
- Ndeipi nzvimbo yako inoitira vakadzi vakadaro?
- Nyika yese iri kukurukura mubvunzo wekuti nei munhu akabatwa anofanira kubva pamba. Iwe unofanirwa kutora chibharo uye kushanda nazvo. Uyezve, maererano nemhedzisiro yebasa, sarudza kuti udzorere kumhuri kana kwete. Uye isu tinowanzo famba nevanobatwa nevana, nekuti vanorenda vanochengeta varimi vane mutoro, uye mukadzi anogara nemwana mudiki uye asina mari yekubhadhara pekugara.
Asi hazvigoneke kukanganwa kuti isu tine zviuru gumi nevane chiuru vanogara musungwa mongororo nekuda kuuraya varume vavo uye cohabitants. Vatongi veAmerica vakashanyira majeri aya, vakanzwa nyaya dzoga dzemunhu kubva mumiromo yevakadzi. Nhamba huru yevakadzi vanovanza vakarohwa kubva kuna vanachiremba uye vanyadziswe, vanofarira zvirema uye vavanda, nekuti zvinongonyara, zvakanyara nekuda kwevavakidzani, vatinoshanda navo. Uyezve, apo simba risina kushivirira pasisipo, vakadzi vanokwana mapanga, demo, cak-simbi-mapani uye kuuraya vakatendeka vavo.
Uye zvakange zvakafanira kuti uende nguva yekuenda kunzvimbo dzekutambudzika, kutaura zvataurwa kumapurisa, bata masangano evazhinji, shanda nepfungwa, nekuti mhirizhonga yemusha uye yebonde maitiro anoita nguva yakareba. Uye zvakakosha kuti mukadzi anzwisise kuti anogara sei. Kana iwe ukarohwa, kudzora zvachose, kubatwa chibharo, zvakakosha kuti ubvise stereotype uye unzwisise kuti uku hakubvisirwe mberi kweiyo futhu, asi mamiriro ezvinhu aunoda kukumbira rubatsiro! Uye izvi zvichakudziridza mamiriro ezvinhu aya, iro chiitiko chinotevera chechisimba chichava.
- Unoshanda nevana mumhuri dzakadaro here?
- Vese vana vakapona uye vachiona chisimba mudzimba, pasina mubvunzo, vanoda kubatsirwa. Aya ari kuita mune edu anokwanisa psychologgists. Kana ivo vari makore gumi nemaviri, ivo vanoshanda nesimba kuna amai vake, izvo zvakarohwa, vanozvidemba, vanotaura nezve rudo rwavo. Mumakore 14-15, vakomana vari kutoedza kutarisana naBaba, uye nemakore gumi nemasere vanototora papa stereotype uye maitiro akafanana, uko murume anogara achirova mukadzi. Zvakare, vana vazhinji vanoda kukura uye kutsiva madzibaba avo kuna Amai, nekunyadziswa kwavo. Maitiro avo anofanirwa kururamisa uye, kutaura nezvekudzivirirwa kwevana, iwe unofanirwa kutanga kuita izvi. Kazhinji, pasina kuwana rubatsiro, munhu anenge akuvara anogona kukanganisa munhu wacho, izvo zvinounza munzira yekukanganisa. Munhu mudiki haagone kutsungirira kushushikana, kwakawira pamusoro pake.
- Vasikana vadiki havawanzo kunzwisisa kuti ndiani, achifarira rudo neChidoon, usasiyanisa godo kubva mukudzvinyirira kwemangwana uye kuvhara maziso mazhinji evarume vazhinji vevanhu. Ipa zano, kuti kusasunga hupenyu hwako neTyran?
- Kune vasikana vadiki pane bvunzo dzakakosha: Vakatsanangura kuti ndiani mukomana wako. Acharamba achikutsvaka here? Kunyangwe iwe uchida kuramba uchirarama nemunhu anoshandiswa kugadzirisa matambudziko nezvibhakera. Kana godo rezvipenga rakatanga, kutsamwa kusiri kusinganzwisisike panguva dzakasiyana usati waroora, akasimudza ruoko, hazvishamise nemunhu akadaro hazvigoneke kubatanidza. Zvinonzi mushure mekukakavara bonde rakanaka. Asi kana meno ako akagogodzwa kunze, mbabvu dzakaputswa, dzikanganisa bvudzi, nditende, hauzove wakarara. Ipapo achatanga kukurova pamberi pevana, achivatambudza hupenyu hwavo. Kamwe chibharo kamwe chete zvachose.