Vepfungwa vanowedzera kutarisana nekukwezva vaine vanhu vakave vakakuvadzwa navo, uye izvi zvinowanzoitika zvinokonzerwa nemhedzisiro yePsychological Blackmail, avo vanobatana nehafu yavo yechipiri kuti vavake hukama Sezvo zvaizove zvakavanzika. Isu takasarudza kurongedza mhando dzekunyepedzera kwepfungwa mune zvimwe zvakadzama.
"Ndichagumburwa kana ukasaita sekukumbira iwe"
Pakutanga kutarisa, mamiriro asina kukuvadza zvachose. Asi chete yekutanga. Kazhinji, vakadzi vanobva vaita hunyanzvi hwekutuka - varume vakaoma kunzwisisa kuti "vakatora ruzha", uye saka vanokurumidza kuenda kuhukama hwevakabatana, kunyangwe izvi zvirongwa zvinoshanda kune rimwe divi. Ehezve, mune chero ruremekedzo pane dzimwe nguva apo mhosva yacho yatsanangurwa zvizere, asi kusvikira nguva yacho yave iri nzira yekuwana iyo yaunoda. Semutemo, mushure mekunge mubatanidzwi unonzwisisika kuti zvakabatana, pakarepo hukama nehutau hwehupfu, saka hazvidiwi kufunga kuti iwe uchakwanisa kununura kubva kumatambudziko nerubatsiro rwezvakaipa.
"Ndiri, Chii, chinditora"
Ehe, hazvigoneke kuchinja munhu mukuru, tinobvuma vatariri vake nezvose zvakanaka, zvisinei, zvakakosha kuti tisanzwisise kana mumwe wako wechipiri anotanga kuwana kusagadzikana muukama. Kazhinji kazhinji iwe unzwe kubva kuhafu yechipiri: "Ngatitorei mumwe nemumwe kuti tine - uye nehungwaru - asi pasina: Achangodaro achigutsikana, anokurumidza kukurangarirai hurukuro iyi : "Takabvuma, unondiramba kutora here?" Uye zvese mumudzimu akadaro. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, zvakaoma kuramba pane chimwe chinhu icho Manipulator.
kutuka - nzira yekuwana iyo yaunoda
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"Ndichava newe, asi iwe unofanirwa /" ... "
Mutemo mukuru wehukama hwehukama - mumwe wako haakwanise kuita kuti madzishe azvifarire uye kodzero dzehafu yechipiri dzaizotambura. Zvikasadaro, manipulator anogamuchira simba risingaperi pamusoro pesimba remumwe - kubva pakugutsa fungidziro dzebonde dzisina kugadzirira kuti mumwe wako asina kugadzirira kudiki-diki, achifa hupenyu hwevaviri vaviri.
Semutemo, nokudaro mudiwa wekunyengedza ari kuedza kupa nekuda kwemudiwa asina kusimba mupfungwa, uye izvi zvinoratidza chikamu chakakwana chinogona kupihwa chokwadi. Chenjera.
Kana iwe ukaona kuti kwakadaro kuiswa chinhu chinozivikanwa kune yako, haufanirwe kuregeredza, nekuti kushamwaridzana kwakazotevera kana kuguma kwekufa, kubva kwazviri nyore kubuda. Hazvibviri kufonera hukama hwakadaro nehutano, uye saka edza kubvunza nezve psychologist yemhuri, pamwe chete zvaungaedza kuwana mhinduro yedambudziko uye udzidze kuratidza kurwiswa kweshamhu, kana nekuda kwechimwe chikonzero hachisi Kugadzirira kuputsa hukama uhu.