"Kuti ufare, iwe unofanirwa kuwana murume anozoda iwe uchave mudiwa wakanaka uye baba vane hanya, vobva vaita kuti vatatu ava vasasangana ..."
Quote haisi chaiyo, asi inokodzera kurwadza musoro kune chinyorwa ichi.
Vazhinji vedu tinofanirwa kurota munhu wedu, nezvehafu yechipiri, iyo ichazadzisa zvakakwana. Tora mabasa atisingade kusarudza uye nekuzvipira nemaune. Kazhinji unonzwa zvakadaro: "Ndipe izvo manzwiro eshungu."
Muenzaniso wakanaka kwazvo ndezve muenzaniso wakanaka, umo murume akavharwa sebhokisi, uye mukadzi muromo mutete waanochengetedza. Munhu anowana, uye mukadzi anopa vaviri ava manzwiro. Bvumirana, iwo mufananidzo unodiwa kune vakawanda. Munhu murume mudiki, mukadzi - Amai nemukadzi, hostess kumba. Uye mumwe nemumwe mu "cage" rake, mukati mebasa rake rinotakura zvisungo zvaro uye kubhadhara. Vakadzi vanopomera varume kuti vanodzikisira rusununguko rwavo, kudzvanya uye tiranny, uye varume vanoisa chikumbiro kuti vanoita zvese zvevakadzi, uye avo vanoramba vakaodzwa mwoyo uye havana kukoshesa zita remhuri. Uye avo nevamwe vanotanga kurota rudo uye kuyemurwa, kazhinji vachiwana icho nemumwe munhu wechitatu. Iyo pikicha yakajairika.
Saka, usarota rudo? Kune here chinhu chisina kunaka mukuda kusangana nemunhu wako?
Iko hakuna chinhu chinosunga muzviroto izvi, izvi ndizvo chaizvo zvine hutano uye mabasa akasimbisa hupenyu. Nekudaro, kana isu tikarota zvatiri, zvakakosha kuti tirambe tichiziva kuti haaite chero chinhu. Usauya kuzotungamira mutoro wemari kana kupora maronda apfuura murudo. Kana vakaroorana vachizove mumwe nemumwe psychotherapists, vanopora zvakakuvara mumwe nemumwe mukukuvara kwemumwe neumwe kana kufunga nezve chiitiko chinorwadza chekare, kubatana pakati pavo kuri kukura, uye kufarira uye nekufarira zvepabonde kuchawedzera. Vaviri vacho vanova shamwari dzinodziya, asi hukama hwevadikani hunonyungudika. Uye kubuda kwemutemo - kuti uwane mumwe munhu kuti azadze gomba rinoputira muhupenyu. Kurota kweHeroine yedu kuri kutaura naye nezve idzi nyaya:
"Ndakaenda kune rumwe rudzi rwechiitiko chekudzidzisa, kune vanhu vakasiyana-siyana vanonakidza, vakadzika, uye vakasangana nemurume, kunyange zita rechimwe chikonzero ndinoyeuka - max. Munguva yekudzidziswa, takabatana, ndakaziva zviri nani uye ndakaidanana. Kana zvasvika pakuenderera mberi kutaura, ndakati ndakave nemurume nemwana kuti neimwe nzira asingatarisirike zvishoma zvisingatarisirwi kwaari. Sezviri pachena, hurukuro pamusoro payo haina kumuka. Ini handitomboyeuke kuti, asi ini ndakazova padziri "redare revanhu - muvateereri vevanhu, makanga mune nhoroondo, Hupenyu, hwaive hwakatadza uye hune rudo rwekuda, uye kuwana bonde chete. Uye zvino murume aripo akazova murume akandikomberedza hanya, uye yaive chaiyo yandaida. Ini chekutanga neimwe nzira ndakasimudzirwa kutaura zvese, asi nekuda kwechimwe chikonzero chaive chakakosha. Uyezve chinhu chinonyanya kukosha chakaitika chandaida - iyi max akaramba achindinzwa, asi atowana zvandiri, nyaya dzangu dzese uye ruzivo. "
Zviri pachena kuti kurara hakuzi kwechinhu. Kurara kunomuudza kuti anorota zverudo muhupenyu hwake. Rudo isimba, vanomutsa hupenyu hwakasimba kupfuura dzimwe dzakawanda dzimwe nyika. Rudo chirwere chaunorota kurwara, saIrwine akanyora. Kurota kunoratidza kuti anorota rudo rusina magumo kwaari, kuti aidiwa uye atorwa sezvazviri. Zviri pamusoro peizvi zvaakataura pa "Court" izvi zvinoenderana naye anodiwa fananidzo.
Rarai mhombamu kune iye anozvida iye mukushomeka muhupenyu hwake. Paari kutsvaga kubva kune zvimwe zvinhu, kubva kuvanhu. Asi iye haasi kurara, mukuru, anogona kudzidza kuzvida ivo vakadaro zvisinei nemunhu.
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Maria Dyachkova, Psychologist, mhuri yekurapa uye inotungamira kudzidziswa kwekuwedzera kwekudzidzira kudzidzisa Center Mika Kika Khazin