Nthawi zambiri, tili ku ukapolo wa mikhalidwe, sizotheka kusintha china chake nthawi zonse m'moyo wa chifuniro cha Akhristu, komabe, molingana ndi ziwerengero zathu zolephera zathu nthawi zambiri zimagona m'malingaliro athu mkhalidwe. Tinaganiza zopezera zifukwa zomwe nthawi zina timadzitengera okha chisangalalo kukhala theka lachiwiri la munthu wina.
"Zabwino zonse zasokonekera kale"
Zachidziwikire kuti mukukumbukira bwenzi lanu kapena bwenzi lomwe lidadandaula za kusowa kwa anthu ndi mtima: "Izi, zabwino, zimapeza moyenera, koma ndimafunikira?" Kapena "Uwu ndi wokongola, sakwatirana konse, sindikhala nthawi yocheza." Kapena mwina malingaliro otere amakuchezerani?
Vuto la azimayi oterowo monga momwe mungaganizire, pakusiya munthu amene akufuna chibwenzi. Zabwino zomwe palibe munthu weniweni sangavomereze mutu "Miyoyo", chifukwa chake] choyamba ndi zophophonya, ndipo chifukwa chake mkazi ndi vuto lodzalake? Ngakhale kuti sikuyenera kupatula zochitika komwe bambo sayenera kuti akhale oyenera chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa chilengedwe, zachilengedwe ndi zolinga zake.
Muzochitika ngati izi, mutha kuwalimbikitsa kuyesa kusiya kubisala anthu. Inde, ubalewo sungathe kubweretsa malingaliro abwino nthawi zonse, koma sichiri choyenera kutaya mtima kwa munthu amene angakuchititseni chidwi, chifukwa palibe amene anganene kuti: mwina munthuyu asinthe moyo wanu wonse.
Lolani bambo kuti alowe moyo wanu
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"Wokwatira" wokwatiwa "wandikopa.
Komanso, mkazi amatha kugwedezeka malo a mbuye wake, ngakhale safuna kusiya kumanga ubale wokhala ndi munthu wotanganidwa.
Pankhaniyi, mayiyo amalandila malingaliro kuchokera kulumikizana ndi kulankhula ndi mwamuna, koma nthawi yomweyo sayenera kutenga udindo wokhudzana - palibe aliyense amene ayenera aliyense. Nthawi yomweyo, maubale oterewa amabweretsa zovuta zambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri amalephera, chifukwa bambo wina yemwe wasankha kupanga mbuye, satha kusudzulana ndikugwiritsa ntchito mkazi nthawi yake momwe amakhalira nthawi .
Zoyenera kuchita? Ingoganizirani kuti chotere komanso chosasangalatsa chingakubweretsereni banja komanso kukhala paubwenzi wolimba ndi munthu. Mwina muyenera kudzipereka nokha komanso munthu amene angakhale wokonzeka kucheza nanu.
"Sindikondedwa ndi zomwe ndili"
Ndiponso kukhazikitsa koipa. Mkazi, osatetezeka mwa iye ameneyo, sakupeza munthu yemwe amamuvutitsa. Kuchulukitsa nkhawa, kukayikira kumapangitsa khoma pakati pa mkazi ndi kunja kwa dziko lanja. Mwamuna aliyense ndi ngozi yomwe ingachitike kulingana ndi kudzidalira.
Zachidziwikire, ndizosatheka kusiya chilichonse. Ngati simungathe kupeza vuto lanu, mudzalandira katswiri amene angapeze chifukwa chomwe mungasakhulupirire, ndipo mutatha kuthetsa vuto lanu lomwe mukuwona momwe malo omwe mukukhalira amayamba kusintha.