Momwe mungadziwire ngati mukudalira chikondi
Ndi malingaliro ati omwe akuwonekera ndi lingaliro lanu lomwe wokondedwa akhoza kutha? Ndipo ndi lingaliro, ndibwino bwanji iye ndi iye bwino ndipo atha kuchita bwino? Ngati mukumvetsa zomwe mukuwona pakuimira kwa alendo, omwe akufuna kuzungulira; kholo, amene akufuna kulira mu vest; Mwana amene mukuyesetsa kuwongolera, ndiye kuti mutha kulankhula za kudalira kwanu kwachikondi.
Kodi zimabweretsa chiyani
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani munthu, chidaliro chomwe moyo sukumveka ngati palibe "chinthu cha chikondi" chapafupi? Pali kumverera kwa zopanda pake, kudzipatuka, chiyembekezo, mantha ...
Olga Romaniv
Momwe mungachotsere
Gawo loyamba: Zindikirani kuti ndinu odalira. Ngati pofotokoza za kudalira chikondi, munaphunzira nokha - adayamba gawo loyamba lothana ndi matenda awo.
Gawo Lachiwiri: okwanira kumva. Ngati panali chidwi chokhumudwa, chisoni, mantha, kudziimba mlandu, kupweteka - musatsutse izi. Kufunika kwa munthu wina ndi wamphamvu kwambiri. Timadzikhutiritsa tokha kuti zingakhale zoyipa ngati mnzakeyo ndi wankhanza, musalole malingaliro omwe angamutsutse. Povomera zomwe mwakumana nazo, mumandithandiza ndekha.
Gawo Lachitatu: Dziperekeni. Kuyambira ndili mwana, timayesetsa kukwaniritsa zofunika zokhazikitsidwa kuti tipeze chikondi cha makolo ndipo sizimatha. Popita nthawi, malangizo a ozungulira a kunja kwa mawu athu amkati. Kufunitsitsa kuyesedwa chikondi chomwe timachita pambuyo pake "wankhanza" wolumikizana ndi mnzake. Ntchito yanu ndikudzikumbukira muubwana wasukulu. Kukumbatira mwana m'chifaniziro chanu, kumusamalira, chikondi. Chitani izi tsiku lililonse - ndipo mudzazindikira kuti padziko lapansi chosangalatsa kwambiri, kupatula chinthu chomwe mudapatsidwa kutchuka.
Gawo Lachinayi: kudzidalira komanso kudzilemekeza. Kugwira ntchito pazinthu zakale, mudzafananiza ndi mphamvu zanu. Mudzakhala osavuta kuyankhula za momwe mukumvera, tsatirani zikhulupiriro zathu, tengani malingaliro anu. Nthawi yofunika: Dziyang'anireni nokha, sangalalani ndi zomwe mwakwanitsa, kumwetulira moona mtima komanso anthu oyandikana nawo.
Katswiri wazamisala wotchuka wa mikail Littwak analemba za phunziroli lomwe limaperekedwa kwa mnzake wogwira naye ntchito. Pakafukufukuyu, azimayi adapempha kuti asankhe kufotokozera kwa chikondi chomwe amakonda kwambiri. Zosankha zitatu zomwe zinaperekedwa: "Sindingakhale ndi moyo popanda iwe," "sindidzakupwetekani," tiyeni tikokoke moyo wokhazikika. " Malinga ndi zotsatira za 75% ya akazi, kusankha "sindingakhale opanda inu."
Litakakyo anazindikira kuti malongosoledwe oterewa m'chikondi ndi achilendo kwa mwana kapena chidakwa. Nthawi yomweyo, zowona, kutengera kwathunthu ndi udindo wokwanira: "Tikoke moyo wokhazikika palimodzi" - palibe amene adachita nawo phunziroli sanafune.
Chifukwa chake, asanalengeze kuti "mathedwe adziko lapansi popanda wokondedwa," Ganizirani kuti mwakwanitsa - chikondi kapena kusuta.