M'dera lathu, kumverana kotuku mtima, zamphamvu, zasayansi, kuti titengere ena, kulolerana ndi zapamwamba, kumangidwabe kwa anthu omwe pazifukwa zina sioyenera kulongosola za "zolondola". Kunenepa kwambiri, kuchuluka kapena kusakhalapo kwa ana, kupezeka kwa mnzake ndi zifukwa zonse zotimvera. Makamaka kuyambitsa anthu kusungulumwa. Pakadali pano, palibe matenda okhala payekha. Tikuyesera kudziwa komwe mizu ya kusungulumwa, momwe mungalithandizire, chikondi ndi kuthana ngati mukufuna.
Tiyeni tiyambe ndikuti aliyense wa ife ali ndi lingaliro lake lomwe munthu wosungulumwa. Nthawi zambiri, polankhula za izi, tikutanthauza mkazi kapena bambo wopanda "theka lachiwiri." Pakadali pano, kusungulumwa kotereku ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi boma, pomwe palibe wina wokuzungulirani. Anthu - zolengedwa zachikhalidwe komanso popanda moyo umodzi wamoyo zimadza, zimayamba misala, ndikuwonongeka, osakhala osowa (kumbukirani kuti Robinson Cruise Yopanga Dzina Lofanana). Mwamwayi, zochitika ngati kuwopsa kwamphamvu kumachitika, dziko lamakono silikusamalirani: munthu yemwe mungathe. Ndizosiyana kwathunthu - kusungulumwa pakati pa khamulo, pakakhala kuti anthu ambiri ali odziwana, abale ndi abwenzi, komanso munthu wapamtima yemwe ndikufuna kugawana naye ntchitoyo komanso mtsogolo. Mawu lero adzatha.
Zoona
Mdziko lapansi, pali anthu ambiri omasuka ku maubale omwe sakuvutika kwambiri. Dziperekeni nokha ngati muli m'modzi mwa omwe angakhale nokha.
Menya
Choyamba, ndi zovuta ndi tsankho. Ndikosavuta kuvomereza kusungulumwa kwanu ngati gulu lafuule: khalani ofedwa, khorani ana! Udzipereke tokha ndi kusagwirizana pa miyeso yolunjika ya maulendo, kumbukirani: Kutalika komwe mumaphunzira zomwe mumakonda, mnzanu wabwino kwambiri.
Kuchitika
Kusungunula wina ndi mnzake, osawona chilichonse ndipo palibe, ndiye lingaliro lokayikira komanso loyenera kungokonda zachikondi. Pofuna kuti musaope mkati mwa awiri, kapena kusungulumwa, pezani maziko anu - makalasi anu omwe amakupangitsani kukhala munthu wosangalala.
Chifukwa chiyani kusungulumwa kumawachititsa mantha? Zonse ndi za mbiriyakale
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M'munda si wankhondo
Chifukwa chiyani kusungulumwa kumawachititsa mantha? Zonse ndi za mbiriyakale. Popeza makolo athu akutali, mdera lanu komanso kukhala wina ndi mnzake anali chinsinsi chopulumuka. Msanje wina sanathe kudzaza mphamvu, kuweta moto m'phanga ndikukonzekera kuchokera ku migodi ya nyama. Wosamalira wina wazomwe amayang'ana sakanakhoza kubereka ndikuteteza ana ndipo nthawi yomweyo amapeza chakudya. Ngakhale zinali zowonekeratu kuti banja, lolani osatinso zomwe tinali onenedweradi, ndizofunikira. Anthu amalumikizana ndi kuyitanira kwa mtima kapena mzimu, koma kuchokera ku ichi chosowa kwambiri ndikufuna kusunga moyo wawo. Kusungulumwa ndiye kuti kumayambiriro kwa chitukuko, kunali kofanana ndi imfa.
Popita nthawi, zinthu zinasintha, koma osati kwa akazi, tsoka. Munthu wokhala m'gulu la makolo, omwe adapatsidwa maufulu ndi maudindo, akanakhoza kukhala ndi bachelor, chifukwa anthu "adam'phimba". Kuchokera kwa mmodzi, kapena awiri, pafupifupi palibe chomwe chimadalira. Maukwati anali kokha kuchuluka kwa chuma cha makolo. Kupatula kumatsimikizira lamuloli. Koma ngakhale ngati mnyamatayo akaganiza kuti banjalo silinali kwa iye, iye adasungabe ufulu wopindulitsa banja lake. Ngakhale kuti tsogolo la atsikana limayang'ana, makamaka osadandaula. Zomwe zingachitike kwa azimayi oterowo akufotokozedwa bwino m'mabuku akale, Russia ndi akunja.
Onse adayamba kusintha pafupi ndi zaka za zana la makumi awiri, ndikuyamba kwa Emanciption, chitukuko cha kuyenda kwa akazi ndi kusintha kwa anthu. Akazi adalandira ufulu wogwira ntchito, kuvota, mu Mawu, pang'onopang'ono, pang'onopang'ono adakhala mamembala onse am'mayiko ndikumvetsetsa kuti nthawi yake chisangalalo chawo simadalira munthu pafupi.
Masiku ano, udindo wanu - kaya inu kapena kusankha chosungulumwa pare - pafupifupi palibe chifukwa pa zomwe mukuyembekezera. Ndipo komabe, pamene sitifunikira kumenyera nkhondo ndikumenyera ufulu wogwira ntchito, kuyenda ndi kusangalala, tisunga tsankho kwa iwo omwe amakhalabe okhaokha. Zaka mazana ambiri, ngakhale mbiri ya zaka chikwi yamitundu yathu inatipatsa malingaliro abwino ogonjetsedwa. "Chomwe chimatanthawuza kuti sichikugwirizana ndi aliyense, zikutanthauza kuti pali mawonekedwe oyipa," "Stock Stock", Kodi mukudziwa mawu awa omwe amanunkhira pano, ndiye kuti m'magulu athu otukuka? Kalanga ine, koma ndi malingaliro okhudza anthu osungulumwa kuchokera kumbali ya anthu omwe ali nawo pagulu amapanga mawonekedwe omwe ali owopsa komanso osavutikira. Ndipo nayi imodzi yomwe sinakonzekere maubale, timayesetsa kuti tipeze munthu wina woti athetse matenda oyipa, tag yakuda. Kodi ndiyenera kunena kuti ndiowopsa?
Lero mawonekedwe anu - ngati inu kapena kusankha osungulumwa - pafupifupi palibe zokhudzana ndi malingaliro anu
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Nambala imodzi
Kukakamizidwa kwa achibale ndi malo oyandikira nthawi zina kumatipititsa ku zochita zawo, zomwe timanong'oneza nazo bondo. Mwa zina, zopangidwa ndi banja la banja silichokera ku chikondi ndipo zimapangitsa kuti chidwi cha wokondedwa wanu, koma chifukwa chimavomerezedwa ndi zabodza, zoyipa "zabwino zomwe zimakhala" zoyipa "imodzi komanso zowopsa". Mwa njira, azimayi ambiri samangokwatirana kumene kuchokera ku chikhumbo chokwatirana, komanso kubereka mwana kuti abereka. Khalidwe ili limapangitsa kuti mayiyo ndi mwamunayo, ndi mnzake, ndi ana ake omwe amawonekera kwa amayi awo okha. Chitsanzo china chowala ndi zokambirana zakale, osati chifukwa cha chikondi chaunyamata, koma chifukwa ndikanati ndikanapeza wina. " Tikuvomereza kulekerera kusungidwa ndi kuchititsa manyazi, machitidwe awo mwadongosolo komanso zachiwawa. Ziganizo zonyoza m'ma adilesi a omwe adaganiza zosungulumwa, osawonjezera kutsimikiza ndi chidwi. Monga tikuwonera, momasuka kapena mosavuta, koma anthu amatsutsa iwo omwe sathamangira kukapeza angapo kapena mwachangu kuti athe nawo. Kodi Mungapewe Motani Nawo Kuti Akhale Ndi Ngongole Yake Kuti Aphunzire Kusangalala ndi Kusungulumwa Kwanu?
Gawo loyamba ndi lalikulu ndikuzindikira za mbiri yake komanso mizu ya zigawenga zonse zomwe mudakumana nazo. Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa bwino momwe ziliri mwa ife poganiza mwamantha izi kukhala nokha. Tsoka ilo, chikhalidwe cholumikizirana ndi munthu wofunika kwambiri komanso wofunikira m'moyo wanu (nanu,) amakhalabe otsika kwambiri. Chidwi ndi chikondi cha iwo zimawonedwa ngati egamentrism, komanso osafuna kudzipereka kwa aliyense ndikupereka zofuna zawo za munthu wokwatira kapena wokwatiwa. Chifukwa chake muyenera gawo ili kuti liulitse ndi kuyisunga pamalo abwino. Phunzirani kumvetsera ndi kumva nokha komanso zokhumba zanu. Pangani matchulidwe osangalatsa ndikukulimbikitsani. Yambani ndi osamvera chisoni, ponyani zosangalatsa zomwe simugwirizana. Phunzirani kukhala osamala ndi kudzikonda nokha. Dzisangalareni ndi kudziwa kwanu. Ndife abwino kudzichitira nokha, anthu abwino ndi osangalatsa amakhala pachimake cha chilengedwe chanu.
Kodi Mungapewe Motani Nawo Kuti Akhale Ndi Ngongole Yake Kuti Aphunzire Kusangalala ndi Kusungulumwa Kwanu?
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Ndikofunikira kukumbukira kukumbukira kuti kusungulumwa kwanu sikukutanthauza kuti simuli ofunikira (ndipo nthawi zambiri lingaliro lokongolali adadzozedwa ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi ife -), ndipo kusankha kwanu mosamala. Kumbukirani zishango zotchuka za wolemba ndakatulo wa Omar Khayama zozunza zonse: Malamulo awiri ofunikira okumbukira: ndibwino kuti ndife ndi njala kuposa zomwe ndili nazo. Ndikwabwino kukhala wabwino kuposa wina aliyense. " Kuganiza mozama komanso mwanzeru za katswiri wa katswiri wa Kummawa nthawi zonse udzakhala wothandiza.
Kudziyimira pawokha ndi kuthekera kupereka zikhumbo zawo ndi zosowa za kusungulumwa kosangalatsa komanso kosangalatsa, komwe kudzakhala chinthu chovuta komanso maphunziro, osati kukhalapo koyipa. Kukhala ndi chidaliro kuti muyenera kukhala ndi wina - makolo, abwenzi, okonda, amuna kapena akazi - amatanthauza kuti muzigwirizana ndi kusamalira. Ndikofunikira kukhala molingana ndi mphamvu zawo ndikutanthauza kuti, ndikuyimilira cholimba pamiyendo ndikusiya maubwenzi omwe akufotokozera gawo lililonse lodalira. Amayi omwe amadziwa zomwe zikuvuta, chifukwa "ndinakwatirana," zitha kugwera pamalo olakwika, komabe, komanso amuna.
Ngati mwachita zonse zomwe tapereka pamwambapa, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti zikusoweka chifukwa cha kusungulumwa kwanu, kumbukirani abwenzi anu! Zomangira zabwino, zolimba, anthu omwe nthawi zonse mutha kuwatembenuka, kulira, kusangalala, kwa omwe mungawathandizire, ndiye kumbuyo kwanu, komwe kumachitika kokha Osakhala amodzi.
Chifukwa chake, mukudziwa momwe mungakhalire ndi kusungulumwa kwanu, mumadziwa kuti mungakhale ndi nthawi yocheza ndi inu nokha, kondani nokha komanso nthawi yanu. Mukudziwa chomwe gawo lotsatira lidzakhala? Yankho likhoza kukhala mzere wodzipereka kwa kalasi iyi: "Chikondi chimathamanga kwa iwo omwe amamuthamangitsa. Ndipo iwo amene akuyendayenda akuyenda, natuluka pakhosi, "analemba pa nthawi yake, ndi momwe anali kulondola. Ngati mungalowe pachibwenzi pamtengo uliwonse sicholinga chanu, monga lamulo, munthu wofunikira amangowoneka yekha m'moyo wanu omwe mungakhale osavuta komanso omasuka. Mwambiri, pambuyo pa mankhwala, ubale wopatsa mphamvu kwambiri umapezeka ndi kusungulumwa, chifukwa tsopano mukudziwa mtengo, wowona mtima komanso wina, amadziwa kukana malire anu, zikanagwirizana ndi mnzanu, zikanavomera aliyense. Kusungulumwa ndi zosefera zabwino kwambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ozunza komanso daffodils, mahule ndi omwe sadziwa momwe angakhalire omvera komanso omvera chisoni.
Ndipo bwanji ngati munthu wofunika sakuwoneka koma sakuwoneka? Palibe. Palibe chowopsa, palibe choyipa, chigawenga sichidzakuchitikira. Kupatula apo, tsopano muli ndi mwayi wamtengo wapatali komanso wothandiza kuti mukhale nokha, ndipo nthawi ino siyikakamizidwa kusamalidwa kwa kalonga, koma mphindi ndi maola odzipereka, kudzoza ndi kuyeretsedwa , kuphunzira kwa dziko lapansi ndi iwo eni. Mwina, titha kulangizira kusungulumwa kwa aliyense amene wasokonezeka, wotayika ndipo sadziwa momwe angakhalire. Mankhwalawa abwino amakhala ovuta.
Reven Evtushento
Rege Evtushenko, mphunzitsi wanu:
- Gwirizanani ndi nkhaniyi. "Kukhakha, aliyense amadziona yekha," anatero Arthur Schopernauer. Munthu ayenera kukhala ndi chidwi chokha ndi iye, ndiye kuti, ayenera kukhala wodzipereka. Yekhayo sangathe kutaya mtima, ndikofunikira kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yodzikuza, kukulitsa zopinga zanu, pezani phunziroli kwa mzimu. Chilichonse ndi chosavuta - Dzikondeni nokha, ndipo mudzayiwala za kusungulumwa, ndipo mukakhala kuti mukusungulumwa kwambiri, mwadzidzidzi mudzakhala ndi moyo ndi anthu abwino. Momwe mungathanirane ndi kusungulumwa? Khalani pano. Tiyenera kukhala pano ndipo tsopano. Yambani kuwonetsa mwayi wolumikizana, koma kumbukirani kuti ubale sumangidwa tsiku limodzi. Khalani odzikweza. Phunzirani Kusunga Zabwino munthawi iliyonse!
Masitepe atatu kudzera (c) kusungulumwa:
imodzi. Timachotsa mantha. Izi nthawi zina zimakhala zofunika, koma nthawi zambiri zimawononga komanso zosasangalatsa. Kuopa kusungulumwa, mumatseka mipata yambiri kwa inu.
2. Chikondi Wothandizira wake wamkulu yekha. Kukhala pawokha kumatanthauza kukhala pafupi kwambiri. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi imeneyi podzidziwa.
3. Sinthani malo ozungulira, Amene akukuwuzani za kutaya maola ndikuyika zopondera zina zovulaza.