Zomwe simukufunikira kuchita munthu wokondedwa wanu?

Muzochita zanga zamaganizidwe, ndimakumana ndi vuto lakukhulupirika. Kalanga, lero, monga kale, wokwatiwa ndi zinthu wamba. Palibe anthu osewera omwe amauza anecdotes, kuwombera makanema, lembani mabuku pamutuwu. Zifukwa zosinthira zitha kukhala zosiyana kwambiri - kufunitsitsa Kusamutsidwa, kusakhutira kwakukulu ndi ukwati, kufunitsitsa kudzidalira Zotero. Ndipo kotero, pamene anthu akumana ndi chochitika chosasangalatsachi, funso limakhalanso malo odabwitsa - chotsatira? Kodi Mungachite Bwanji? Kuchotsera kapena ayi? Chiwembu chosokoneza, chifukwa ichi ndikuwopseza kwambiri ubale, mwa kudzidalira, mwakumva kupadera kwanu. Ichi ndi vuto, kuti mukhale ndi moyo womwe siophweka. Ndipo chinthu choyamba choyenera kuchitika ndikuvomereza kuti ndili pamavuto akulu ndipo pakufunika thandizo ndi kuwamvera. Inde, inde, ndipo osati winawake. Thandizo lingathe kucheza ndi okondedwa. Kapena, m'malo mwake, pakubwezeretsa mwachangu, mankhwala abwino kwambiri amatha kusungulumwa. Wina wothandiza amapita ku zisudzo kapena mu kanema kuti athetse. Mwayi wodzithandiza okha, ndipo onse ndi payekha. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuzindikira chisoni chanu ndikudzimva chisoni ndi njira yoyenera.

Kenako ndikofunikira kuyesa kuyang'ana momwe zinthu ziliri, kudzipatula nokha ku zomwe mwakumana nazo. Musafunikire kunyalanyaza ndi kusokoneza malingaliro anu, koma siziyenera kumvela kwathunthu ndi iwo. Kutenga udindo wakunja kuchitika, kumakhala kosavuta kumvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kuziyanjana. Mutha kuyesa kulingalira kuti chibwenzicho chatha, ndikupulumuka ululuwu. Kuthandiza kukukumbukira zolinga zomwe muli nazo muukwati, zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo ngakhale zitakhala kuti sizingachitike, ndikuganiza ngati mungathe kukhalabe ndi moyo popanda chibwenzi. Kuzindikira kuti simumabalalitsa, kumatha kukhala thandizo lalikulu pakubwezeretsa mgwirizano wanu. Ndikufuna kutsindika kuti sitikunena za malo owonetsera "osandifunira kwambiri," zomwe zikutanthauza "miliri ine."

Ndipo pamapeto pake, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri (chisanakonzekere) ndikukamba nkhani yotseguka ndi wokondedwa wawo. Kambiranani za ukwati, zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri posachedwa, zomwe mukumva zomverera za zomwe zachitika, mukawona zotsatira zake. Nthawi yomweyo, yesani kulankhula momasuka, kupewa otsutsa ndi kunena, amangopanga bwenzi kudziteteza ndipo sangathandize kuthetsa vutoli.

Ndikufuna chenjezo pazomwe simuyenera kuchita:

- Sakani thandizo kuchokera kwa mnzake. Sadzatha kukupatsani inu, chifukwa iye ndiye kuti ali ndi mtima wotsutsana;

- satsatira komwe amuna anu / mnyamata wanu ali ndi chiyani. Komanso nthawi zambiri amafunsa zomwe akuganiza. Izi zitha kutsogolera kumbali yotheratu, monga momwe ubalewo udzawonedwe ngati wolemetsa nos;

- Kambiranani za Cwendereza - komwe, liti, komanso ... tsatanetsatane ... tsatanetsatanewo adzakumbukiridwa kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo kwa zaka zambiri adzakupweteketsani.

Inde, yankho lachilengedwense pa funso ilizi: "Chochita chiyani tsopano?" kulibe. Koma, m'mene adachita ntchito yomweyo, kuti ayankhe yekha ndi kupanga chisankho kudzakhala kosavuta.

Maanja osiyanasiyana amagwirizana mosiyanasiyana ndi WOPEREKA. Wina ndi wosavuta kumupulumuka, wina ndi wovuta kwambiri. Monga ndalemba kale m'nkhani imodzi yapitayo, zovuta zimatha kuwonongeka chifukwa cha ubale, ndipo mwina mwayi wokula. Pankhaniyi, yachiwiri imatengera momwe omasuka amathandizira kukambirana nawo, kuloza mosamala malingaliro a wina ndi mnzake komanso kudzidalira pa nkhaniyi.