Ndikukhulupirira kuti funsoli likufunsidwa nthawi zonse m'moyo wanu. Ndipo zonse ndizosiyana. Wina amabwera nthawi zonse, wina amasokonezeka "zomwe ndapeza." Kapena "sizowonekeratu chifukwa chake timadali limodzi kuti nthawi zambiri timalumikizana.
Kupatula apo, chisangalalo chachikulu kwambiri m'moyo mwa anthu ambiri chimalumikizidwa ndi banja losangalala kapena maubale okondana. Malinga ndi katswiri wazambiri za England, John Bollly, chidwi chofunafuna maubale ndi kusamalira kuyanjana ndi zolimbikitsa komanso zolimbikitsa komanso zoyendetsa moyo wa anthu. Tonsefe timayesetsa kuyanjana. Zili ngati njira yachilengedwe yopulumukira ndikulimbana ndi ma alarm ndi mavuto. Koma nthawi zina ubalewu umakhala gwero lalikulu la chisoni komanso kukhumudwa.
Atakumana ndi tsiku limodzi kapena nthawi zambiri, sitimaganiza chifukwa chake mumasankha anthu awa paubwenzi wapamtima.
Chosangalatsa chowoneka patsamba lino chimaperekedwa ndi ntchentche ntchentche. Amakhulupirira kuti lingaliro la momwe tiyenera kukhalira achikondi, timapirira kuyambira ubwana wathu pomwe makolo athu ndiye gwero lokha la chikondi ndi chisamaliro. Posonkhezeredwa ndi momwe amasonyezere malingaliro awo, tili ndi "malingaliro athu" - chithunzi cha mnzake chomwe tikuyenda, akukumana ndi chidwi komanso chidwi. Ngati mukuganiza, potizungulira ali odzaza ndi nkhani zokongola, osaganizira mtsikana, ndipo amamukana naye, akulowa muubwenzi ndi mnyamata wina yemwe adayamba kugwira ntchito komanso zosangalatsa. Ubalewu umawonongedwa pambuyo pa nthawi, chifukwa sagwirizana ndi mtsikanayo. Koma atsopano amabwera kwa iwo, ululu usanakhale wofanana ndi akale. Ndipo nthawi zonse. Izi ndichifukwa zinali kuti makolo ake ankakonda. Mwina bambo ake anamwalira msanga. Ndipo amayi anga adagwira ntchito ndi mphamvu zake zonse kuti atsimikizire kuti ana aakazi amayenera kukhalapo. Zotsatira zake, mtsikanayo anali ndi chilichonse kuchokera ku malingaliro am'munda, koma kunalibe kulumikizana. Atalowa mu moyo wachikulire, chithunzi chake cha mnzanu chidapangidwa, chomwe sichimawonetsera chidwi, kudekha ndi chisamaliro. Apa ndikukoka pa ortaholics. Ndiye kuti, mosadziwa timafika muubwenzi wolimba ndi anthu amene amatikonda monga momwe makolo athu ankakonda. Tikufuna kuchiritsa kuvulala kwa ana, pezani zosowa, koma sizikugwira ntchito. Bwalo zoyipa? Mwanjira inayake, inde. Koma pali njira yopulumutsira limodzi ndi mnzanu motsutsana ndi kuvina, komwe kumatembenukira ku chifuniro chathu. Yesetsani kukana kwa wokondedwayo kuti sangatipatse. Kupatula apo, samachita izi kukhala cholinga, koma chifukwa chakuti sadziwa momwe anali ndi kusiyana komwe kumachitika. Ndipo kusiyana kumeneku kumatha kudzaza. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kutanthauzira zofunikirazo ndikufunsa zazing'ono. Ndipo sanachitidwe chifukwa, koma chifukwa tikufuna kukondweretsa munthu wapamtima, uzipereka mphatso yachilendoyi kwa iye. Kusinthanitsa ndi mphatso zotere, pang'onopang'ono timadzaza zopinga za wina ndi mnzake, kumva kuti ndi zopatsa thanzi komanso zolimba mtima. Ndipo ubalewo udzakhala wabwino ...