Tabbas, ana buƙatar wani yanki a cikin dangantakar, ba tare da wanene yake da wahalar kafa haɗin ra'ayin tunani tsakanin abokan aiki ba. Koyaya, mata galibi yakan zo da nisa sosai, suna ƙoƙarin gano ta mutumin da yake game da ita, kuma suna yin tambayoyi waɗanda zasu iya nuna kunya da abokin, kuma wanda ya same shi da wuya a amsa. Mun tattara yawancin tambayoyin da maza kawai ba su jimre ba.
#one. "Ni kyakkyawa ne?"
Tambayar da ke sanya maza mamaki. Ka yi tunanin cewa kana kawai hutawa ne kawai, ka yi aiki shi kaɗai, kuma ba zato ba tsammani: "Kuna tsammani na yi kyau?" Tabbas, wani mutum wanda kake cikin dangantaka mai kyau za ta ba da tabbataccen amsa, amma a lokaci guda zai zama baƙon abu, yana tunanin abin da ake bautarku. Idan kana buƙatar samun tallafi lokacin da kuka ji rashin tsaro, zai fi kyau a tambaya game da shi.
# 2. "Kuna shirin canza ni?"
Me ke amsa lissafi don samun mace? "Ee, amma ba tukuna yanke shawara lokacin" ko "wataƙila"? Idan a wannan matakin dangantakar ba ku da matsala, amma kuna jin cewa tsananin so ya faɗi, babu buƙatar dumama ji a wannan hanyar. Babu wani abu da bai dace ba kuma ya sa ba ku samu ba, kamar yadda ba kwa samun amsa gaskiya, wanda yake mai ma'ana.
Karka ƙirƙiri ƙarin matsalolin da kanka.
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# 3. "Kun gamsu da jima'i?"
Mata kasa da maza ne, yana da ban sha'awa ka san yadda abokin tarayya mai kyau a cikin sharuddan jima'i. Kuma kuma hasken jin daɗin kishi baya ba da hutawa: "Shin wani ya fi ni kyau?" Amma a nan ya cancanci tunani: Idan kuna da lokaci mai yawa tare kuma a gare ku, babu abokin tarayya ba shi da jin daɗin ra'ayi, tabbas game da jima'i babu matsaloli. Don haka me yasa ya halicci su?
#four. "Shin wani ya fi ni kyau?"
A mafi kyau, wani mutum zai lura da kaina, me yasa kuke buƙatar wannan bayanin da abin da bai dace da ku ba, kuma a mafi munin, zaku sami amsa mai kyau cewa zaku iya amfani da gaskiya don Allah. Kowannenku yana da abin da ya gabata, ba gaskiyar abin da abokin aikinku ba su sami irin wannan mai haske ba, kuma wataƙila ma yana da haske fiye da ku. Shin kun tabbata kuna son sani game da shi, kuma har yanzu tana yaudarar kanku game da wannan? Muna shakka.