"A cikin tsarin dangantakar soyayya mai kyau, maza yawanci suna ba da fifikon bayanan da suka danganci abokin tarayya, yayin da mata suka fi son yin zaman abokin zama (wannan ne , Albarkatun na ruhi a cikin tsayayyen biyu, "Nazarin 2017 zai yi barazanar bambance-bambancen jima'i a cikin halayyar sulhu bayan rikici na soyayya. Masu ilimin halayyar Adam sun bayyana cewa hadin gwiwar jima'i yana ba da damar abokan hulɗa da sake jin kyawawa da kuma masu ƙauna ba za a iya kiran lafiya ba. Yana bayyana dalilin da yasa matsayinsu ya bambanta da yawan mutane.
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Yayin jayayya a cikin jininka, matakin adrenaline awo, wanda aka samar cikin amsa da haushi da zafin rai da sha'awar ka tabbatar da matsayin sa. Mutanen da suke yin la'akari da jima'i tare da ɗayan ƙananan hanyoyi na hadin kai bayan rikici, ba daidai ba. Ilimin halin dan Adam a yau mujallar ta yi imani cewa laifin kyawawan motsin zuciyarmu yayin wannan tsari ya keta ma'auni a cikin dangantaka - bayan yin jima'i da ka koma rayuwar da ta saba da alama. Masu ilimin kimiya suna kwatanta sha'awar jima'i tare da jarabar kwayoyi - mutum a zahiri samun sabon abu, ba kawai haramtattun motsin zuciyarmu. Ga wasu mutane, zai iya zama babbar matsala, saboda ba za su fara neman wani dalilin yin jayayya don maimaita lokacin maimaitawa ba.
Jefa motsin rai mara kyau kafin sauya zuwa jima'i
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Watsi da mummunan motsin rai
A cikin ilimin halin dan Adam Akwai ajalin "tashin hankali", yana bayyana ka'idar aikin kwakwalwa bayan an yi jayayya da abokin tarayya. The tattara motsin zuciyar da ba a canza shi ba daga jin haushi game da jin farin ciki - shi ya sa ba ka son tsoratar da ƙaunarka. A shekara ta 2010, menene farin ciki idan muka samu agry? Hormonal, cardivascular amsoshin kwakwalwa »yana bayanin irin halayen fushi da kuma irin tunanin da ba a sani ba, kuma a cikin cikar aikin da suke tafiya, kuma a cikin kammala motsin rai Sauya tare da tabbatacce - Shadawa na adrenaline yana ba da ji na euphoria. Koyaya, matsalar, saboda abin da tashinsa ya faru ba duk yanke shawara ba - wannan shine babban kuskuren biyu. Da farko dai dole ne ku kwantar da hankali kuyi magana da rikici, kawai bayan haka, lokacin da kuka ware gafara kuma ku san komai, yana da daraja magana game da ance.
Rashin fahimta tsakanin abokan tarayya
Idan ka yi jayayya, sannan ka katsewa, sannan ka katsewa da kuma a cikin munanan sha'awar fara yin jima'i, da za a iya samun rashin fahimta tsakanin ka, wanda zai haifar da wani mummunan jayayya. Har zuwa yanzu, mutum ya ɗauki ƙarshen rikici, ɗayan zai magance wannan jima'i ne kawai hutu wajen tattauna batun, kuma zai so ya dawo masa daga baya. Mafi sau da yawa, matsayi na farko shi ne m ga maza, kuma na biyu - mata. Yawancin lokaci 'yan mata sun fi zurfin gaske kuma suna daɗe da ƙira da ƙaunataccen ra'ayi, suna nazarin ta a cikin' yan kwanaki.
Jima'i ba zai magance matsalar ba, amma kawai ƙara mata
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Alamar halayyar sigina
Ofaya daga cikin matakai masu ilimin halayyar dan Adam ya tsaya a cikin dangantakar gida tsakanin azzalumi da wanda aka cutar da shi - "amarfarwarsa". Yana bin mai gabatarwa, wanda a dangantakar al'ada ce a cikin tsarin tattaunawar batun a daukaka, kuma a cikin rashin lafiya yana tare da zagi, da barazanar har ma yaƙin. Tabbas cin mutuncin zai kasance mai ta'azantar da yawan jima'i don ɓoye fuskarsa na gaskiya da "don canza laifinsa" kafin wanda aka azabtar don kiyaye shi a ƙarƙashin kulawa. Idan cikin dangantakarku, babu wani jayayya da ba ta da jima'i, tuntuɓi masu ilimin halayyar dan adam da tunani sosai, babu wasu alamu suka nuna keta psyche da psyche a cikin ƙaunataccen.