Idan ka lura da wani yanayin, ya zama yana buƙatar cewa wani ya yi mana abin da ba a buƙata ko kaɗan. Muna bukatar, amma kar a tambaya. Misali shine halin da ake ciki a cikin jirgin sama, lokacin da wurare suke cikin mutane, kuma babu wanda ya kasa zuwa ga wurin da yake kusa da matar. Menene amsawar ta? Mafi sau da yawa - zagi da haushi, gajiya da rabin maza na mutane, wani lokacin shuru, har ma a bayyane. Duk da cewa halin ɗan halaye dangane da saurayi, koshin lafiya ba wajibi ne, amma bayyanannun ɗalibin yara, alheri da Halansery. Abubuwan da ake buƙata, Matsakaici da kuma zargi ba shine mafi kyawun hanyar kiran waɗannan kyawawan halaye ba.
Waɗanda suka saba da yarda cewa dukansu ya kamata su fusata, "ba cikin gaskiya ba, kuma, a matsayin mai mulkin, kada a kai maƙarƙashiya. Me za a yi? Koyi don tambaya, yana ba da shawara ga ɗan adam. Neman ba wulakanci bane, amma mafi yawan lokuta ƙarshen wanda bai san cewa dole ne ya "sami wani abu ba." Musamman, yana damuwar maza da kananan bukatunmu. Zai yi wuya a nemi ya fi dacewa da yadda aka yi daidai da ƙi. Amma wannan fasaha zata taimaka muku wajen gina fahimtar juna da kyakkyawar alaƙa da wasu.