Rashin hankali mai ban sha'awa shine ra'ayi mai ɗaukar nauyi. An yi imanin cewa waɗannan yanayi ne waɗanda, duk da lafiyar jiki, ciki bai faru ba. Za mu bincika abin da ya fi kowa.
Tsoro
Masana ilimin ilimin halin dan Adam na Perinatal suna jayayya cewa matar ta fara "ciki" kai, sannan kuma tare da jiki. Idan ta ji karfin gwiwa, a cikin abokin tarayya, a nan gaba, to, kwakwalwa tana aika sigina na haihuwa - "zaka iya". Kuma ciki ya faru. Amma idan mace tana cikin yanayin damuwa ko kuma tsoro ga kansa da kuma rayuwa, to adrenaline fara bunkasa a jiki, wanda ke lalata babban hormone iyaye - ocecitocin. Kuma ciki baya faruwa.
Rashin Soyayya
Tsara mutanen da suke a zamanin haihuwa, watau da ke da shekara 30-40, an haifeshi a wani dabam, wani lokacin da kuma m ba mai gamsarwa ba da gamsar da soyayya, fahimta da tallafi. Kuma ga macen da ta ce, bari mu ce dangantakar matsala da Inna, wanda a cikin yara bai sami ƙaunar da cewa wannan kwarewar na iya zama mai raɗaɗi ba. Wannan shine mafi kyawun yanayin rashin hankali wanda ke buƙatar bincike na musamman.
Ekaterina Barskaya
Ayyukan latsa kayan aiki
Muhimmin aiki
Abin sha'awa, wani ɓangare na marasa lafiya da nake aiki yana da nasara a cikin aiki kuma in san yadda ake samun kuɗi. Koyaya, aikin da ba za a jefo shi ba ta kowace hanya, a gefe guda, yana ba da haushi da rasa shi, a ɗayan - "layin" ayyukan haifuwa mace. Ta rasa asalin mace ta mace, ta daina ji da sigina na jiki, saboda idan rai yayi kuka, to, jikin da ke ba da rahoton shi. Aiki yawanci mahimmanci ne ga kamala da aka gaya wa yara - koya, aiki, sami, samar da. Kuma waɗannan har yanzu suna ayyukan maza da suke cewa, tare da matsayinsu na nasu, na iya rushe aikin tsarin haihuwa na mata.
Kula da
Rashin yiwuwar daukar ciki da bango na sha'awar mace koyaushe kuma ana sarrafa komai - matsala ta gama gari wacce dole ne ka yi aiki. Irin waɗannan mata suna magana da kansu - "Ina buƙatar yaro da ma'ana." Kuma idan yaron bai yi aiki ba, juya rayuwarka, kuma a lokaci guda rayuwar abokin tarayya, zuwa ga hadin Jahannama a duniya. Sun saba da cewa komai ya ci gaba da shirin da aka sanya a gaba kuma an sake yin rauni cikin wahala. Babban dalilin irin wannan halin shine asalin rashin yarda na duniya, wanda kuma ya sanya toshe don haifarwa zuriya.
Ba daidai ba
A koyaushe ina tambayata marasa lafiya na: Me yasa kuke buƙatar yaro. Kuma a nan yana da matukar muhimmanci a fahimci abin da dalilansa na gaskiya suke cikin 'yar uwa. Yana yiwuwa ba ta son yaro kwata-kwata, kuma manufar ta wurin mijinta ne ko kuma kakanta. Wataƙila jaririn wata hanyar wata mace ce ta ware daga iyayen, don tabbatar da cewa ta riga ta yi girma. Ko kuma yana tsoron zama shi kaɗai, yana kare kansa, saboda haka, daga kadaici, yana so ya zama mutum ya zama dole. Kuma wane dalili daidai ne, kuna tambaya? Haka ne, kawai ba da rai sabon mutum, in san farin ciki na uwa da uba, don bayyana 'ya'yan itacen tare da abokin tarayya na ƙauna. Wannan shi ne gaba daya. Haka kuma ya faru cewa ita ce matar tana duban ciki, kuma ba a haihuwar yaro ba, musamman idan ba ta faru shekaru da yawa ba. Kuma a sa'an nan, wous, babu matsalar dakatar da halayen ciki, saboda mai haƙuri ba ya ganin kaina, wato, burin anan ba haihuwa ba, amma gaskiyar lamarin ba haihuwa ba ce.
Sauran motsin lalacewa:
- Ciki a matsayin sadarin aure;
- Abun motsa rai (karbar gidaje ko matsayin babban iyali);
- Don adana lafiya, akwai ra'ayi cewa ciki ya "sake farfadowa da jiki."
- Rushewa daga abin da ya gabata (Na yanzu na banbanta yanzu, Ni A -Cch).
Eco a matsayin salon rayuwa
Haka ne, ana amfani da wasu marasa lafiya su "don yin gwagwarmaya don ciki kuma ga ɗan da ya zama hanyar rayuwa, na yau da kullun. Hakanan yana faruwa cewa rashin iya samun yara su basu damar da wasu gata a cikin iyali ko matsayin da ya dace na "wanda aka azabtar", don ƙin wanda, ba shakka, ba sa so. Domin a wannan yanayin za a cire daga allon. Kuma irin wannan dalili yana da wuya a samu.
Me za a yi? Zama mace. Bada kanka ya zama mai rauni kuma ya amince da duniya. Don yanke ƙishirwa don kula da rayuwa da kuma abokin tarayya. Kuma ka saurari kanka. Tambayi kanka: Me nake so? Ta yaya zan ga kaina cikin shekaru biyar? Kuma tare da wannan mutumin kusa? Kuma kada ku faɗi kalmar "rashin haihuwa."