Kididdigar kafofin watsa labarai na Ingilishi ", dangane da binciken na 2017, a sarari ya ce: Mata 70+ suna samun ƙarin gamsuwa daga jima'i fiye da mata 40+. Yarda da, waɗannan bayanan ba su yi farin ciki ba? Mafi sau da yawa, matsalolin suna tasowa a duk saboda matsalolin kiwon lafiya - mutanen da suka yi ƙoƙari su warkar da su. Rashin fahimta kusan kashi dari bisa ɗari na shari'ar magana da rashin iya magana cikin kalmomi ta bakin bakin. Alamu, ƙoƙari don lalata, ziyartar darussan jima'i - duk wannan ba shi da amfani idan ba kwa buƙatar abokin tarayya a lokaci guda. A cikin wannan kayan ta hanyar shawara - yadda ba domin cutar da girman abokin zama ba, yana magana da shi game da jima'i.
Ni ne harafin farko na haruffa
Tun daga yara, muna koyon tunani game da wasu kuma muna sadaukar da kanku. Wannan kawai a cikin tattaunawa tare da abokin tarayya ba tare da ainihin "Ni" ba zai iya yi ba. Fara da bayanin yadda kake ji da sha'awarka, kuma ba gunaguni game da abokin tarayya. Ana tuhumar zargin da motsin tsokanar zalunci, raini ko sakaci - kowane cikinsu zai yi fushi da shi, wanda zai yi wahayi zuwa gare shi don yin gwaji. Duk wani bukatar za a iya bayyana ta ta hanyar soyayya da sha'awar Janar Farin Ciki: Dangane da rikicewar ka za a karanta a matakin da bai sani ba. Madadin "kun kasance an sawa kuma kar a sumbace ni a lokacin kamuwa da shi," gaya mani "na sumbata zai ba ni sau da yawa?".
Mai da hankali kan yadda kake ji
Yi magana game da takamaiman
Ko da mafi ƙwarewa a cikin tambayoyi game da kusanci ga mutum ba shi da ban tsoro lokacin da ya yi magana game da jima'i ba tare da abokin wucin gadi ba, amma waɗanda suke ƙauna sosai. Domin tattaunawar ta samu sakamakon, tara tare da sojojin kuma bayyana abin da ba ku gamsu ba. Misali, "Bayan haihuwar yaro, tsokoki na banzo ba su zo ga sautin ba - Ina so in shiga cikin zurfin azanci fiye da yadda aka saba ... Bari muyi amfani da kayan wasa?" Zai fi kyau a faɗi cewa ba ku jin komai yayin jima'i - a nan dalilin na iya rauni a cikin dalilai da yawa. Samun takamaiman matsala, kai da abokin tarayya ya zama mafi sauƙin warware shi tare da kokarin hadin gwiwa.
Kar a kwatanta wani
Ka yi tunanin cewa mutumin da kuka fi so shine farkon rayuwar ka. Wannan liyafar tana da amfani ga waɗanda suke so su tuna da tsoffin abokan tarayya a kowane lamari. Kwatanta wannan abokin tarayya ne kawai tare da shi da baya kuma a yanzu. Bincika bayan ƙarshen aikin da kuka so: Ka faɗi hakan da ƙarfi, don ƙaunataccenku ya fahimta wanda "kwakwalwan kwamfuta" don shafa, kuma daga abin da ya cancanci yin amfani. Irin wannan haske flirt na iya fassara tattaunawar ku zuwa mafi girman jigogi.
Barin tattaunawa mai ban tsoro don sadarwa ta sirri
Kiyaye harshen hakora
Kuma 'yan matan da maza zunubi suna magana ne game da jima'i da abokai na kusa. Abu daya ne, idan ka canza abokan hulɗa koyaushe - a cikin tattaunawar sun zama "rashin fuska" kuma kyawawan labarai ne ga tattaunawar kamfanin. Wata tambaya ta daban tana da tambaya ta dindindin: Ba a sani ba cewa naka zai yi farin ciki cewa budurwarka zai fi son abin da ke jawo shi. Idan kuna buɗewa don tattaunawar batutuwa masu dacewa, don Allah, duk da haka, duk da haka, mutane suna son barin irin wannan tattaunawar a bayan ƙofofin nasu.