Mutane da yawa suna jin tsoron tsoro na cin amana: ɗayan yana da alaƙa da kwarewar da ba ta samu ba game da abubuwan da suka gabata, wasu ba sa son shiga cikin irin wannan matsayi. Abin sha'awa, bata halakar da maza da mata sun fahimta dabam. Masu binciken jami'an Saturke sun gudanar da bincike a tsakanin Amurkawa 64,000, suna ba da wata madadin: "A wane yanayi ne za ku iya yin jima'i da wani mutum ko nuna alamun tunani game da ƙauna?" 65% na matan da aka bincika kuma 46% na maza sun zaɓi zaɓi na biyu. A cikin wannan kayan za mu yi ƙoƙarin bayyana dalilin da yasa jin kishi ya taso da kuma yadda za a magance tasirin tasirinsa.
Dalilin mutum ne
Wasu sun yi natsuwa lokacin da abokin tarayya ke yin rawar jiki tare da mutanensa masu sha'awarsa, an hana sauran saitin don jefa cikin hanyoyin sadarwar zamantakewa tare da bamban mutane da baƙi. Babu wani masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam zai gaya muku cewa halaye na farko shine daidaitaccen, kuma na biyun - wata ha'inci na yau da kullun saboda babu ƙamshi. Matsayi na bayyanar da nuna bambancin kishi ya bambanta da bukatar abokan hulɗa. Idan ka kasance tare da ƙaunarka, kana son haske na sha'awa da spores mai zafi bayan abin da ya faru na kishi - don Allah a rayuwa a gare ku. A farkon dangantakar, yana da kyau a tattauna wannan batun don jin dalilin abokin tarayya kuma ya fahimci ko ka shirya don karban matsayin sa.
Kada ku ɓata jijiyoyi a kan mutumin da bai cancanta ba
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Yar rabe
Mafi yawan dalilai na kowa cewa duk wata kasida ta hanyar ilimin halin dan Adam. Yawancin lokaci, wannan abun yana bin nasihu don ƙaddamar da faranti, koyon yadda ake sutturar salo, zo a cikin babban tsari kuma ƙaunar kanku fiye da abokin tarayya. Gaskiya ne, wasu jockes sun ce cewa kishi ba tsaro bane, rashin tsaro a cikinku. Idan abokin tarayya don halayensa zai baka damuwa, zama mai shakku da samun karkashin tasirin motsin rai, daga mutum mai natsuwa za ka yi azumi a cikin neuriotic. Hanya daya tilo ita ce tserewa daga mutumin da ya "ciyar da" mummunan motsin zuciyar ku, kuma baya kokarin canza lamarin.
Kogin da kuka san mafi kyawun bacci
Menene ma'anar kashe rayuwarsa don neman farka? Idan mutum ya yanke shawarar canza ka, ko wani hatimi a cikin fasfot, ko gaban yara biyar da kare daya, ko kuma your your your yanke shawara. Haka ne, kuma masoya mata suna jin abokan aikin. Sau da yawa matan da suka fi damuwa sune wadanda mazajensu ba su banbanta a cikin matakin samun kudin shiga ko kuma tsari na zahiri, ko kuma abubuwan tunani ba zato ba tsammani. Don haka, maimakon tunanin "girmamawa" game da abin da ya fi son rabin sa'a da aka jinkirta a wurin aiki, kai tsaye lokacinku don ci gaban kai da kuma kula da ƙauna da kuma kula da kai.
Mafi kyawun kulawa da kanka da abokin tarayya, kar a bata lokaci a kan jayayya
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Dubi wasu
Tesopeas yana fuskantar irin waɗannan matan mata kamar yadda, Sara-Jessica Parker, Gwen Steethanie - Jerin za a iya ci gaba da kai. Wasu yan matan suna samun ƙarfi don gafartawar cin amana, sunyi aiki da matsalolin dangantaka da rayuwar iyali. Koyaya, yawancin suna aske har abada tare da masu hawa - to suna samun sabon ƙauna kuma suna rayuwa cikin farin ciki. Ko da mutuminka yana yin irin wannan aikin, zaku iya zama mafi kyau fiye da da, kuma cikin lokaci, manta game da wanzuwar mai cin nasara.
Me kuke tunani? Shin cin amana sun same ku kuma wanene dalilinsu?