Ana samun manipulators a rayuwarmu a duk bangarorin, amma mafi haɗari suna nan, kusa da mu. Kuma waɗannan iyayenmu ne. Mafi yawan lokuta da iyaye-manipulator hadayar da mafi kusanci - yaransa, saboda ba ya cin komai game da shi kuma, mafi mahimmanci, ba zai tafi ko'ina ba, kuma dattijo ya san shi. Yaron bai fahimta ba na wani lokaci cewa halin da ake ciki a gidan bai fito ne daga al'ada ba, amma a kowane yanayi da yake jin rashin jin daɗi, wanda yake fuskantar kusa da danginsa. Irin wannan yaro yana girma tare da bouquet na kowane irin cuta, don kawar da wanda ƙasa ƙasa da shekara ɗaya a cikin ofishin masana ilimin psycothererapist. A yau mun yanke shawarar gano yadda za a iya lissafa jumla masu guba da yadda ake magance irin wannan matsin.
"Amma Tamnatshinama ..."
Flash Brasher Rundunar, wanda ya bayyana akan cibiyar sadarwar da aka dawo da yara, a zahiri ba dadi sosai. Jinin shine "ɗan budurwar mahaifiyar" koyaushe shine ya fi ka, kuma kai, bi da bi, mai rasa mai rauni ne. Irin wannan makirci yawanci ana amfani da iyaye masu haushi: "kuna kallon inda Sasha ya shiga! Ba ma yarda da ciki ba. "Duk wannan a cikin irin wannan ruhu bayan Mata zai yi magana da abokinsa, wanda ya samu nasarar yin gwaje-gwaje a cikin babbar jami'a. A irin waɗannan lokutan, cikakken lalata yaron ya fara, yana ƙoƙarin "kira ga tunanin" wani rauni mai zurfi, ta haka ƙirƙirar matsanancin rauni mai zurfi wanda ya haifar da matsanancin rauni wanda ya zama babban rauni wanda zai haifar da masanin ilimin halayyarsa.
"A koyaushe ina da kyau!"
Manipulator na iyaye koyaushe yana jin daɗin narcisiss. Wannan nau'in ba shi da wuya, amma mai yiwuwa ɗayan nau'in nau'in mara kyau ne na iyaye masu guba. Wani magana na yau da kullun irin wannan dangi zai zama: "Baƙon abu ne, kuna ƙaunar mijinku ga wani abu, ko da yake da kuka fi ku daraja." Babu wani abin da ba shi da wata illa anan - akwai wani tsarin yaranku, domin ya fi kyau zama mafi kyau a idanunsa.
Iyaye masu guba koyaushe suna lalata duk ƙoƙarin Yaron
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"Me kuke farin ciki?"
Irin wannan iyayen suna haifar da makomar makomar da kuma rikitarwa mutane. Yara a cikin waɗannan iyalai kusan babu abin da ba zai iya ba, har ma da rauni na mintuna kamar cin abinci mai kyau, da mahaifa ta kira ga laifi. Yaron koyaushe yana yin duk whims na iyaye, tuni, idan akwai lokaci, yana yin abin da yake kama da shi, amma wannan lokacin, da wuya ya bayyana tare da shi - mahaifa da wuya ba zai ba da damar wani irin aiki ba tare da iliminsa.
Shin akwai wata hanyar fita daga dangantakar guba tare da mahaifanka?
Riƙe nesa
Hanya mafi sauki don rage mummunan tasirin mahaifa shine nesa. Sau da yawa, yaro yana da wuya a ware daga danginsu, koda kuwa ya yi wahala a gidansu, amma yana da daraja kawai don fara neman abubuwa masu guba, da fara jin daɗi kawai, kuma tunani game da dawowa kawai baya tashi.
Nemo tallafi
Kamar yadda tallafi da wahayi na iya zama kamar sauran dangi, da kuma kyawawan abokai waɗanda za su iya samun kalmomin da suka dace a hankali, amma raunukanku za su warke. Kuna iya raba ji da ƙauna a cikin ruhun mutum, wanda ke nufin cewa mummunan motsin rai ba zai cinye ku daga ciki.
Kada ku ji tsoron tuntuɓar kwararre
Har yanzu dai muna tsoron ofisoshin masana ilimin kimiya na masana kimiyyar mutane da kuma psychoanalysts, kodayake sau da yawa wannan ita ce hanya daya tilo don magance matsalolin ku. Idan akwai irin wannan damar, tuntuɓi ƙwararru tare da iyayena, wataƙila ba su fahimci yadda wannan lokacin ke amfani da ku da hanyoyin yin tarawa ba.