Da yawa daga cikin mu sun fada cikin yanayin da abokai ba su da sauran mutanen da suke son gani na gaba. Masana suna kiran irin wannan sadarwa mai guba. Kuma dan takarar ilimin kimiyyar hankali, kwararren NLP Marianna Abvitova ya gaya wa yadda za a fahimci cewa babu wani covensi ɗaya.
Abota musayar ra'ayi ne mai gamsarwa, Janar Vionds akan rayuwa, lokacin haɗin gwiwa, wanda kowa yake samun motsin zuciyar kirki. Abota ya kasance ba don shan wahala a tsarinta ba. Kuma idan kun sami rashin jin daɗi tare da mutum tare da mutum, wanda shine ainihin kararrawa ta farko, gwada kanku ga duk sauran abubuwan. Kuma idan komai ya dace, yi tunani game da: Kuna buƙatar irin wannan abota?
Yadda ake kirga dangantakar mai guba
Daga abubuwan da kuka karɓa na yau da kullun zai iya karɓar buƙatun don karɓar kuɗi, ku bayar don watsa tufafi, don tsara wani abu, taimakawa rubuta rabin saƙo na biyu. Kuma duk waɗannan buƙatun ba halayyar lokaci ba ne - mutum ne koyaushe ya zama dole a koyaushe. Dole ne ku fahimta: Irin wannan abokantaka yana kama da wasa a ƙofar iri ɗaya, inda kawai kuke amfani da shi. Yi amfani da hankalin ku, suttura, walatrabe, da dama, lokaci, lokaci mafi mahimmanci, ƙarfin ku.
Mariana Abvivitova
Idan, lokacin sadarwa, mafi yawan tattaunawa an sadaukar da abokinka, to wannan ma ɗayan alamu ne na dangantakar masu guba. Yi ƙoƙarin yin waƙa, a matsayin idanun aboki sun amsa labarai suna amsawa ga labarunku: suna ƙonewa cikin rukunin abin da ke damun su, yana sauraron su a hankali. Idan kun lura cewa yayin labarun game da ku daga aboki, an kashe ku, yana yawo, yana nufin cewa ba ku da matsaloli game da kanku, soyayya. Saboda haka, Sadarwa ɗinku ba abokantaka bane, maimakon an yi amfani da ku azaman "Vest" ko "kunnuwa kyauta."
Akwai mutane da suka kasance da wani abu da zai faru. Ya sami wanka - an zuba maƙwabta; ya kunna gas - ƙona kitchen; Ta sauka a kan titi - Soselka fadi, ta sami karamar kwakwalwa. Ba za su taba yanke hukunci ko aikata ba, saboda haka kawai suke buqatar ganima. Koyaya, komai ba shi da muni. Idan irin wannan mutumin ya daina taimakawa kuma bai tsunduma cikin ransa ba har abada, yana nuna abubuwan al'ajabi na rashin gaskiya kuma ya zama mutum mai girma. Ba wuya a yi la'akari da abokantaka da dangantakar da aka yi amfani da ita azaman jinya.
Mataimayen sun buƙaci budurwa don tafiya zuwa wani taron. Amma kyakkyawar budurwa don irin waɗannan dalilai ba shi da dacewa saboda babu gasa. Don haka aka zaɓi budurwar, wanda ya zama irin kayan aiki ga kyakkyawa. Da alama ya zama abokai tare da ita, amma a zahiri irin wannan dangantaka ba ta ɗauke da wani fa'ida ba.
Fuck aboki-tsegumi. Yana jin daɗin cin amanar rayuwar abin da ya kamata yayi shuru. A cikin tsegumi, koyaushe akwai lokacin da muke yiwa abin ba'a da kuma kawo mafi kyaun fa'idodin mutum, game da abin da suka yi fure, yayin da suka yi fure, yayin da suka yi fure, yayin da suka yi fure, yayin da suka yi fure, yayin da suka yi fure, yayin da suka yi fure, yayin da suka yi fure da kanta: Ba shi da irin wannan matsaloli. Sabili da haka, ku sani: Mutumin da ya rushe jita-jita game da kai a fili baya amfani da ku a cikin abokantaka.