Tare da wannan yanayin rashin jin daɗi yana fuskantar ba da jimawa ba ko kuma daga baya kusan matan. Don haka, zamu gabatar da kanku yanayin lokacin da mutum ya fara samun alamun kulawa ko ma yin amfani da wasu mata. Saba? Sannan zan faɗi cewa wannan kararrawa ce mai damuwa. Kuma aƙalla, wannan yana nuna cewa mutum ba zai iya nuna hali ko dai yana da mugunta ba da kansa.
Za mu bincika wannan yanayin a cikin ƙarin daki-daki.
Yanayin maza shine cewa yanayin da yake da wuya a gare shi kada a kula da shi da kyan gani na kishiyar mata. Asalinsa ne asalinsa, ƙarfin mata shine magnet mai ƙarfi. Kuma idan mace ta yi magana da kyau sosai kuma suna nuna hali da ƙarfi, wannan, suna cewa tare da kalmomi masu sauƙi, "ya juya cikin kwakwalwa" mutum.
Idan mutum mai wayo, to, wannan shawara ce, to, wannan jarabawar ta shawo kanta.
Wataƙila mutuminku bashi da alamun ƙaunar ƙaunar da yake kusa da matarsa. Soyayyar mata da kulawa kamar yadda zai ciyar da ikon mutum. Idan ba shi da abin da zai karɓa daga gare ku, yana da ma'ana cewa zai bincika gefe.
Waɗannan su ne manyan dalilan da suka haifar da rabiƙunmu su bar hagu.
Yaya daidai ga matar ta amsa irin wannan halin mutum?
Anna Saintnikova
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Ya dace sosai don fahimtar cewa makomarmu ta koya mana. Kuma ya kamata a dauki darussa tare da mutunci kuma yayi ƙoƙarin ɗaukar ƙwarewa mai amfani daga wannan. Mace tana buƙatar, tuna dabi'ar sa, yi a hankali, yana kiyaye ma'anar kai.
Abu na farko da ya yi shine kimanta sikelin da kuma muhimmancin matsalar.
Tambayi mutum me yasa ya aikata shi, me yasa yake murmushi cewa yana da sha'awar?
A yayin da aka amince da kuskuren da aka amince kuma ana samun yarda don magana game da halin da ake ciki yanzu, wataƙila matsalolin da kuka yanke shawara game da namu, ba tare da kashe mai yawa da kuzari ba.
Amma yana faruwa koyaushe. Idan tauraron ku ya fara musun, bar amsar kuma ku ci gaba da nuna alamun ga wasu, to ya kamata a sanar da ku. Wannan halayyar alama ce ta babbar matsala a cikin dangantaka. Kuma yana da wuya a warware shi, mafi m, zai ɗauki kwararru mai taimako.
Haka kuma, yana da mahimmanci a fahimci abin da zan duba wasu mata a yanayin yanayin mutum. Kuma ya kuma dole ne ya yi aiki da kansa domin ya jimre wa wannan al'ada.
A bayyane yake cewa ga wani mutum yana da matukar muhimmanci a sadu da daidai matar zuciya, wanda zai kasance a shirye don zuwa "bukukuwan", shawo kan wahala da aiki a kan kansa. Saboda haka, a cikin kashi na farko na dangantakar, jin so yana da matukar muhimmanci. A gefe guda, idan mutum bai amsa mata kyakkyawa ba, neman kawai abokin, yana magana game da babban matakin dangantaka, kyakkyawan iko kai.
Mutumin da ke cikin halitta shine polygamen, tsoffin archetpe farauta ya ƙarfafa tunanin tunaninsa don zaɓar abokin zama mafi kyau. Don haka, har ma da mafi yawan lokuta wani lokacin ba shi da wani lokaci, a'a, zai ba da kallon "hagu". A lokaci guda, idan ya mutunta matarsa, ba zai taba nuna wannan sha'awar tare da ita ba.
Don haka matar kada ta shirya rashin kunya, amma don tsara matsalar kuma ta yi magana da abokinsu. A cikin wani akwati ba zai iya fassara tattaunawar a cikin Tantrum ba, kwanciyar hankali da kusanci sune ainihin sharuɗɗan nasara a cikin gwagwarmaya don dangantakar.
Mata suna da nutsuwa, kuma yana da muhimmanci a dauki zazzabi a karkashin iko. Kiya da kwanciyar hankali shine abin da zai sa ya zama mai yiwuwa a sasanta da warware matsalolin numfashi.