Namuhla ngiphinde ngithande ukuthinta isihloko semali, kufanelekile kakhulu futhi kungabikho ngokuphelele. Kwikholamu yangaphambilini ngabhala ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene zokusatshalaliswa kwesabelomali somndeni - ohola, futhi ubani onquma ukuthi uzosebenzisa ini, nokuthi kuthinta kanjani ukusebenza komndeni. Namuhla ngizonikeza izeluleko ezithile zokuthi ungakugwema kanjani ukuxabana ngemali.
Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, kufanele kube nemithetho efanayo ethengiswa ngayo imali. Kufanele zichazwe wonke umndeni ukuze ziqondakale kuwo wonke umuntu. Isibonelo, uma abazali benikeza ingane imali, kufanele kube ncamashi ukuthi imali iyiphakethe lakhe, ayithola kanye ngenyanga, noma lo ngumvuzo wokulalela namamaki amahle.
Okulandelayo, udinga ukukhetha usuku olulodwa isikhathi sokudingida izindaba zezezimali. Ake sithi ngolunye usuku ngonyaka, njalo ezinyangeni eziyisithupha noma izinyanga ezimbili. Kukulesi sikhathi (kepha akusekho okunye okunye) kungavezwa futhi kwenze izikhalazo. Onke amalungu omndeni - ahola futhi athole, futhi akahola, nabazali, futhi ngokulinganayo izingane kufanele zicabange ngesimo sezezimali somndeni nezinhlelo zekusasa.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi wonke amalungu omndeni avumelane ngokusobala ngobani owenza izinqumo mayelana nokusatshalaliswa kwemali futhi anamathele kulesi sivumelwano.
Ekugcineni, ekugcineni, ungakunqophi kanjani ukungqubuzana? Iqiniso ngukuthi iningi lezinkinga zomndeni litholwe kubazali. Ngakho-ke, isizathu sezingxabano zakhe sinengqondo ukuze singazifuni ngokwaso hhayi kumlingani wakhe, kodwa kubazali. Akukho lutho olwabelana nabashadikazi njengokuba khona kwesitha esivamile. Abazali bakho bangenza umshado wakho ujabule ngokwengeziwe, waba yilitshe lokumangalela. Isibonelo, uma unamathiselwe, awufuni ukuhlanganyela imali oyitholayo nomkakho noma wenqabe ukwenza izipho, kwenzeka ngoba uphakame kakhulu: . Konke lokhu yizaba ezinhle zokupha kwakho okunganele.
Imvamisa emindenini, omunye wabashadikazi uvela ukuba abe ngumphefumlo, kanti omunye uyi-trans. Kunento eyodwa iba munye, lapho kusetshenziswe omunye. Lokhu kwenzeka kungaba ukubhikisha, noma ukunxephezela ukweqisa ngomunye nomunye. Ukuze ungaphumi phambi kwesehlukaniso, omunye wabashade naye udinga ukuguqula indlela yokuziphatha ngasikhathi. Isibonelo, umyeni wakhe uchitha ngokweqile unkosikazi wakhe ulandela ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho ethenga into ebizayo yokuthenga into engadingekile ngokuphelele ebizayo. Ngemuva kwamaviki ambalwa, umphumela uzobonakala. :)
Kulesi sihloko, ngathembela ezintweni ze-American Psychotherapist cl Madanes.