Kulezi zinsuku, umbono kanye ne-subculture ye- "Childfrey" iya ngokuya idume (isiNgisi. I-Childfree - mahhala ezinganeni). Kungani laba bantu ngenemba bengafuni ukuba ngabazali?
Kubonakala sengathi, mhlawumbe, kepha ungafuni - ilungelo labo, futhi isihloko socwaningo asikho lapha. Kodwa sodwa sizoshiya kuphela labo abangenaso isidingo sazo zonke izinyathelo ukuze baxoxe ngalesi sinqumo futhi bazibekele kabi isikhundla sabo.
Ngokwanele, izingane, ezimweni eziningi, hhayi mahhala ezinganeni. Izingane - Isikhuthazo, ukuba nendawo yokuhlala unomphela emakhanda abo. Imvamisa bathola isidingo sokuxoxa nge-antiquity (= ingane) isihloko kaninginingi, kube sengathi ukuvikela ilungelo labo lokungenakungane. Ngabe ukhona ongabaphuca leli lungelo? Eqinisweni, kumayelana nesifiso sakho sengane ukwenza umhlaba emhlabeni wonke nxazonke. Njengoba cishe akunakwenzeka ukukusebenzisa lokhu, isihloko sentukuthelo asikaze sikhathale.
Manje kungani izingane zixaka kangaka? Konke okuhlobene nobuntwana kuvame ukudala okuhlangenwe nakho okuqapheleke noma okungazi lutho kuzingane. Okusho ukuthi, into ebalulekile futhi ebuhlungu yobudala bakho obumnene awedwa, kepha ixhunywe ebhokisini elide. Vele, umbono wokusebenza nalolu bambelele ongokomzwelo ufika kubo bonke. Esikhundleni salokho, ingane izama ukungafaki izinto ezisabekayo emkhakheni wokubuka, owethula izinkumbulo ezibuhlungu noma imizwa engathandeki. Kungaphawulwa nokuthi abaningi babo abathuthi izingane ezintulweni ukuvimba okuhlangenwe nakho kwendoda yabo yendabuko ababehamba nabo ubuntwana babo.
Futhi, ngendlela, ngezihlobo. Imbangela evamile yokungabaza ukuba ngumama noma ubaba ukungafuni ukuba "njengomama" noma "njengobaba", okungukuthi, ukuba bazithobele abazali babo noma abantu. Kwembula lesi sihloko, kuyathakazelisa kakhulu ukuqaphela izingane ngohlobo lwe-narcissistic lobuntu. Abantu abanjalo babonakaliswa yimicabango ekupheleleni kwabo, umkhwenyana wabo kanye nokukhungatheka, ubukhali bokuthi kuncike ekubuseni kwe-psychopathology. Ukuthuthukiswa kwengane kwengane kwenzeka emoyeni wokuhlola unomphela, umuntu omncane uvela ngokuzithandela ukuba abe yithuluzi lokuziqinisekisa labazali. Intengo edabukisayo kakhulu ye-Narcissistic Ariental yikhono elihlangene lokuthanda. Kepha ngezindlela zokuhlehlisa kanye nokwehlayo ngeke kube khona ukuntuleka. Isibonelo, umuntu wesifazane we-narcissistic ulungisa ukungathandi kwakhe ukungafuni ukuba nesifiso sezingane sokuzithuthukisa (njengokungathi umuntu ungafaki enye) nendawo ephezulu kakhulu yomuntu wakhe. Lokho wukuthi, kuzozikhipha futhi kuhlukanise umama, okungasasetshenziswa, ngaphandle kokuthi abelethe yena.
Akunakwenzeka futhi ukuthi sifune ukuhlonza nomzali ongalinganiseli, ekhathazayo noma onganakwa. Akumangazi ukuthi ngokhokho obunjalo, izingane aziqondi ukuthi zenzeni ngenzalo.
Futhi nayinye inketho. Ezinye izingane zazingabadala izingane emndenini, zinenhlonipho nabafowethu udadewabo ngenkathi abazali bazo bembiwa ngokuziphilisa noma bematasa ngokuthile. Lababantu bakhathele kakhulu ngokudideka nezingane, bamane badinga ukuphumula okufanelwe kahle.
Noma kunjalo. Uma ubaba efuna umfana, futhi enze umfana endodakazini yakhe ... khona-ke intombazane ehlekisayo ingenqaba ukuzala ukungayitholi ubulili bayo.
Ama-motifs atholakalayo abonisa okuhlala ku-Oedip Complex. Lapha ukuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi kungaba ngale ndlela elandelayo: Ezingeni elingazi lutho, intombazane yayifuna ukunika umntwana kuyise (lapho kufanele ngiye khona - indoda eyinhloko empilweni), kepha lesi sifiso safika ekuvinjelweni kwesiso, kanye ngokwesaba umama wakhe. Futhi wabe esenquma, futhi, ngokungazi, bekungabaphephe kunabantwana.
Kwenzeka futhi ukuthi izingane zinjengezingane zomunye nomunye. Umuntu uwela ebuntwaneni, omunye "ufaka" umzali. Futhi bangashintsha lezi zindima. Ngakho-ke, umlingani othile uzama ukunxephezela enye into eyayingeyona ingozi esemncane. Ake ungitshele, kungani zingane? Ngenkathi umsebenzi wabo ukuzikhulisa.
Hlukanisa isigaba esimbalwa sabafundi beChayldfrey - abantu behlekisa ukungazali babo. Ubuhlungu obukhulu bubonakala buyaqiniseka ngaye ekukwenqeni kwe-Ideological ukuze ube nezingane kunokuqaphela ukuthi akusebenzi ngandlela thile. Yebo, kuphinde futhi nge-narcissism.
Namagama ambalwa ekuphelweni. Uma uzibheka njenge-subculture etholwayo, ungabi nanoma yikuphi ukungqubuzana ngokomoya futhi ungacasuli ukuthi othile unezingane asakufunayo, kungakhathalekile ukuthi yini okuholele ngale ndlela, sicela ujabule!