Isiphephezo kwesinye isikhathi sifaka amaphethini amangalisayo, sicindezela abantu esibhekise komunye nomunye nesiphetho sabo. Ungakhuluma izilimi ezahlukahlukene, uhlala emazweni ahlukene, uthande ukudla okuhlukile, gubha amaholide ahlukile. Futhi konke lokhu ngeke kube nzima ngokuphelele uma uhlangane nomuntu wakho, umphefumulo wakho womshado, ofuna ukuphila ndawonye amakhulu eminyaka.
Futhi uma uhlangana, ujwayelane futhi uthandane nekhulu lethu, ubuchwepheshe be-Intanethi balula, bangabe kanjani ukwakha ubuhlobo nomuntu wakwelinye izwe, bamshade futhi alethe injabulo yakho kuyo yonke iminyaka eminingi yokuphila ndawonye?
ENtshonalanga, njengaseRussia, kunamadoda ahlukene ngokuphelele. Ukuze wakhe ubuhlobo obuvumelanayo, udinga nje ukwazi futhi uthathe amasiko nezici zengqondo yokhetho lwakho. Lokhu kuzokunikeza ukuqonda imicabango yakhe, imibono yakhe ngempilo, izisekelo zomndeni kanye nokulindelwe kowesifazane wakubo. Ngasikhathi sinye, umshado ojabulisayo nowesilisa wakwelinye izwe ungokoqobo impela, uma sicabangela ama-nuances.
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Izici zobudlelwano bamanye amazwe
Isici senombolo 1: Amadoda angaphandle esondela ngokuzakhela indalo nokwakhiwa kwethempeli lomndeni wabo. Njengomthetho, bakulungele ukushada kwenye indawo ukuya eminyakeni engama-33 kuya kwengama-40, lapho inqubo yoshintsho ebuntwini babo iyobanjelwa, futhi ngaphambi kwaleso sikhathi bazibandakanyeka ekukhuleni kwabo, imisebenzi yabo kanye nokuba babe.
ERussia, okwamanje, womabili la madoda nabesifazane bangadala kaningi umndeni, babelethe izingane futhi baphule nobudlelwano.
Isici senombolo 2: Lapho umuntu wakwelinye izwe ethatha owesifazane owayekhuluma isiRussia emfanini wakhe waseRussia, ucabanga ngokugcwele umthwalo wemfanelo ngenxa yakhe, ngoba uyakuqonda ngokuphelele ukuthi yena, ukuthuthela kwelinye izwe, ushiya yonke into lapha futhi eshintsha impilo yakhe. Uyabona ukuthi ngeke kube lula ukuthola umsebenzi ezweni lakhe: Qinisekisa amadokhumenti akho ezemfundo, funda ulimi futhi uthole umsebenzi.
Futhi qiniseka: Uma umuntu wakwelinye izwe elungele ukuphoqa umthwalo onjalo, khona-ke empeleni, owesifazane othandekayo kakhulu nowuthandayo. Futhi vumela le mfanelo izoqeda ukwesaba okwengeziwe ngaphakathi kwakho futhi izokusiza ukuthi uthole ukulungela ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ezintsha, izwe, abantu namasiko.
Isici senombolo 3: Kuyadingeka ukwakha ubudlelwano nendoda yakwamanye amazwe ngokujulile, ngoba kukhona okuthile okuphathelene nabesifazane abakhuluma isiRussia, ukuthi bonke abesifazane abavela esikhaleni sangemva kweSoviet (noma ingxenye yabo eyinhloko) bafuna ukushada okungakabi kumuntu njengezwe lakhe.
Lokhu "kodonga olungathembani" kuzofanele kuphinde kwakhiwe kabusha, kuyakusindisa ngezitini. Bamba okhethiwe wakho, obala nangesithunzi, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ngokweqiniso. Kuyiqiniso, ukuvuleka kanye nokujula kwemizwa okukhulu kufuna abantu bezinye izizwe kowesifazane wabo.
Isici senombolo 4: Ngoba umuntu wakwelinye izwe ubaluleke kakhulu endleleni yokuphila ekhethiwe nemikhuba yakhe. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi bahambisana nawe, ngokwesibonelo, ungakuveza ukugxila kwakho ekuqinisekiseni okusebenzayo.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, emazweni aseYurophu akunakwenzeka ukuthi uthole owesilisa noma owesifazane ongeke anake impilo yakhe. Abaningi baseYurophu yizemidlalo impela, emibonweni yabo, ingxenye enkulu, inani lempilo esebenzayo nesebenzayo ijwayelekile.
Inyunyana yakho izoba luzinzile uma ucabanga ngokuhamba ngendlela ongahlanganisa ngayo, futhi okungcono kakhulu - "kwenzeka" kulelozwe lapho sezilungele ukuhamba khona
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Isici senombolo 5: Udinga ukunquma okulindelwe empilweni yakho. Yenza lokhu okungenani, ngoba umuntu wakwelinye izwe uzofuna ukuzwa kuwe ukuqonda okucacile kokuthi ubona kanjani impilo yakho emshadweni futhi yiziphi izinsizakusebenza ezizimisele ukutshala imali ebudlelwaneni bethu. Ngasikhathi sinye, umuntu wakwelinye izwe uvame ukuveza isithakazelo sakho kuye, isikhathi sakho kanye nemizwa, oyimisele ukutshala imali ekuxhumaneni naye.
Indoda yaseNtshonalanga izofuna ukuqonda kusengaphambili ukuthi uzokwakha kanjani ubudlelwano obukhulu njengokulungele ukuhamba kunokuhlela ukukwenza, ukuhamba, nokuthi yini ocabanga ukuzithola.
I-Alliance yakho izoba luzinzile ngokwengeziwe uma ucabanga ngokuqhubeka nokuqhubeka nokuthi ungahlanganisa kanjani, futhi okungcono - "kwenzeka" ezweni lapho usulungele ukuhamba ngalo, ngoba umphakathi wakho kanye nokuhlanganiswa emphakathini omusha kuzobaluleka wena. Njengomthetho, amadoda aseYurophu asekela isifiso sabo abakhethwe ukuba bazibonele, kubandakanya nomsebenzi.
Yini enganciphisa amathuba akho omshado nendoda yakwelinye izwe?
"I-Achilles Fifte" yakho kungenzeka ukuthi ingakwazi ukukhuluma ngokukhululeka ngolimi olukhethiwe lwayo nokungazi kwakho kokushintsha.
Yebo, ezigabeni zokuqala zokuqomisana, ulusizo olwanele impela kunoma yimuphi umhumushi we-inthanethi. Kodwa-ke, ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano kuzodingeka kumakhono okukhuluma okukhulunywa ngakho, uma kungenjalo ubuhlobo bakho noLikhethiweyo buzofika kancane kancane.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ubheke umhlaba "ngaphandle kwezibuko ezipinki" futhi ungaqondiswa yimigomo "engcono lapho singekho." Akufanele uhambe ukuze uphile phesheya, kuphela ngoba awukwazi ukuziqaphela ekhaya futhi unethemba lokuzithola usentshonalanga. Amathuba omphumela onjalo ayincane. Kunzima impela ukuba "okwakho" ezweni lomunye umuntu, futhi kulokhu, kanye nokwesekwa kwesithandwa sakho, kungakusiza ube nesipiliyoni, ulwazi nesifiso sokukhula komuntu siqu okungapheli.
By the way, ukuphumula phesheya futhi uhlala ezweni langaphandle kukude nento efanayo. Ngakho-ke, akudingekile ukwenza isinqumo sokuthuthela endaweni ehlala njalo yokuhlala uye kwelinye izwe, ngokususelwa kuphela emizweni etholwe ngesikhathi seholide. Akunakwenza lutho ngombono wokuphila kwansuku zonke kuleli zinto ezihluke ngokuphelele.
Into esemqoka kwinqubo yokuxhumana nomuntu okhethiwe ukuthi ubeke wonke amaphuzu ngaphezulu kwe- "I", uyakuqonda futhi athathe iqiniso elisha ngaphambi komshado wakho nokuthuthela kwelinye izwe
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Izincomo ezi-3 eziphezulu zenzuzo yobudlelwano bakho nendoda yakwamanye amazwe:
Qokomisa isikhathi sokufunda ulimi lapho umuntu wakho asho khona. Udinga ukwazi ukwakha kahle imicabango yakho futhi uqonde ukuthi bathini ngaphandle kokuhlanekezela.
Bahlanganyele olwazini lwezengqondo zabesilisa. Lokhu kuzokusiza ekutholeni ukuqondana nomuntu ophakanyisiwe kwamanye amasiko komunye umphakathi. Ngenxa yalokhu, uzokwakha kalula ukuxhumana nomuntu okhethiwe futhi ulondoloze izingxoxo zezindikimba ezithokozisayo.
Zama ukufunda okwengeziwe ngama-NRAVAS, amasiko namasiko amadoda wakwelinye izwe ukuba angenelele emndenini wakhe, athathe indlela yakhe yokuphila, ajoyine umphakathi futhi angabonakali.
Ake silethe isifinyezo esincane
Uma ufuna ukushada nomuntu wesizwe othandekayo futhi onothando futhi uhambe uyohlala phesheya, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi lokho okulindelwe ekuhlanganeni ndawonye okuhambisana nokulindelwe yindoda yakho, okungenani, ngale mibandela ebalulekile:
- Amanani wempilo kanye nokulindelwe kusuka esifubeni sabo sesibili emshadweni;
- Ukuhlanganiswa kwakho emphakathini kanye namathuba okuzenzela ngokwakho;
- Ukubukwa kuzinqwaba ezinkulu zokuhlala ndawonye, ngokwesibonelo, ukuzalwa nokukhulisa izingane.
Into esemqoka enqubweni yokuxhumana no-CHET ONOKYANGO UKUZEZA UKUZE UTHOLE AMAPHEPHA AMAHLE "I", ukuze aqonde futhi athathe iqiniso elisha ngaphambi komshado wakho nokuthuthela kwelinye izwe. Futhi-ke amazwe ahlukene nezithiyo zolimi ngeke zibe yisithiyo ebudlelwaneni bakho obujabulisayo, ngoba okungenhla kuyakwazi ukususa okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okuningi futhi kusebenze inqubo yokungena emphakathini omusha.