Isitezi esihle sivezwa ukungathandi kwaso ukuphetha inkontileka ukuze - lokhu kuwuphawu lokungathembeki kwemizwa, kanye nezinhloso ezifihliwe, hhayi ukungazethembi esifubeni sazo sesibili. Umqondo ukhanyisa ekhanda lapho idokhumenti enjalo izobhubhisa ama-romantics bese ibeka isiphambano othandweni lwaphakade. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane - "phakathi kwethu uthando!".
Futhi uma ucabanga ukuthi hlobo luni lwempilo lomndeni lucabanga ukuthi luhlobo luni lwempilo yomndeni? Ngakho-ke kusebenza njalo ebudlelwaneni! Yebo yebo! Bamane batshale imali emilinganisweni yakhe akuyona izinzuzo ezibonakalayo, kepha ngokomoya. Futhi kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi okubalulekile? Kulungile - inzuzo. Futhi inzuzo emndenini injabulo nokuvumelana ngokomoya.
I-Psychology Kwabesifazane imi endaweni yokuqala. Noma kunalokho - izici zengqondo. Ngakho-ke, ngemicabango ngenkontileka yomshado, kuvela izinkinga zohlelo lwengqondo, kunomuzwa wokungabi kahle. Amantombazane amahle awaqondi ukuthi angakhuluma kanjani ngezinto ezinjalo, futhi eziningi ezikhathazayo, "futhi kuthiwani ngathi oyosho abantu abaseduze." Futhi abesifazane abaningi bathanda ukuphinda ukuthi inkontileka yomshado iyindlela eqondile eya ehlukanisweni.
Kodwa-ke, ubulili besifazane bubalulekile futhi kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi ukwakheka kwalo mbhalo kuhlukile, inkomba yokuzethemba okuqotho kumlingani wayo, kanye nobudlelwano bezinkinga nakanjani selivele lixazululiwe. Ngakho-ke, ungajabulela impilo, wakhe ubudlelwano besikhathi eside, ucabange ngohlangothi lokuziphatha komshado, ngoba uhlangothi lwezezimali seluvele luxazululiwe! Lokho wukuthi, vele ugxile enjabulweni! Yize kunjalo, inkontileka yomshado akuyona ukuhlanganiswa kwedokhumenti ngecebo lesehlukaniso esizayo. Lesi yisivumelwano engxenyeni yezezinto ezibonakalayo nezesakhiwo seseli elisha lomphakathi - umndeni, mayelana nenqubo yezezimali. Futhi i-oda kukho konke kwabesifazane libaluleke kakhulu futhi liyadingeka. Futhi leli lingamandla alo mbhalo! Ngakho-ke, kungani ungenzi impilo ibe lula futhi ngokushesha ukuletha ukuhleleka emndenini?
Isivumelwano somshado ukuvikela impahla yakho. Esikontekweni somshado kuzoba khona umbuso ohlukile wabashadikazi futhi uma omunye wabashadikazi ewela endaweni yesikweletu, uzophendula izikweletu engxenyeni yawo yempahla. Yize kunjalo, kwenzeka kaningi ukuthi umyeni uyanyamalala ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, kepha ashiya izikweletu zakhe ...
Kubaluleke kakhulu futhi umzuzu wokubhaliswa kwemali mboleko. Imalimboleko ithathe cishe bonke abantu nakho konke okulandelana kusuka kumthengi kuya kubambiso. Iphuzu lokuthi izibopho zesikweletu zenza lowo oshade naye okhiphe imalimboleko zizoxazulula inkinga yokuhlukanisa izinkokhelo zemalimboleko ngesikhathi sesehlukaniso.
Lapho wenza inkontileka yomshado, kungenzeka ukuthi unqume ukuthi ngubani ozoba owayezoba ngesakhiwo esitholwe njengesipho. Yize kunjalo, izingxabano eziningi nokungaboni ngaso linye kubangela izipho, ikakhulukazi ngomshado. Futhi imihlobiso yabesifazane ebizayo nemikhiqizo evela eboya, ethengwe emshadweni - kuzofika kubani? Imvamisa, amadoda emshadweni anikeza ama-halves abo obucwebecwebe, amajazi abole, izimoto kanye nenqubo yokuhlanza wonke umuntu efuna ukushiya isiphetho sawo salezi zipho futhi anqume ukulungiswa kwenkontileka yomshado.
Futhi, lo mbhalo uzosiza ekuhleleni izindaba zezimali zabalingani - ukuthola izindleko zezindleko futhi uhlele izithonjana ezinkulu. Lapho udweba inkontileka yomshado, kuzopelwa ukuthi iyiphi imali engenayo ezoya kwisabelomali sabonke somndeni, futhi yiziphi izindleko zomuntu siqu ("ephaketheni").
Futhi umzuzu olandelayo uzoba wusizo kwabesifazane abangasebenzi kakhulu ikakhulukazi. Abesifazane abaningi bazinikele ngenhloso emndenini nangemva kwesehlukaniso akukho lutho. Awukho umsebenzi, awukho umsebenzi, awunayo imali. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ibinzana labalingani livame ukukhala ngenqubo yokufaka imisebe - "akazange asebenze." Lapho wenza inkontileka yomshado, kuzofakwa into ethile, ezokuqeda umlingani ukuthi akhokhe imali evunyelwe, kanye nento ngokulungiswa kwenani elinqunyelwe lenzuzo kanye nemvamisa yenkokhelo yayo.
Ngokuvamile, inkontileka yomshado isivikelo esihle kakhulu sezintshisakalo zobulili obuhle. Ngakho-ke, akudingekile ukusebenzisa ibinzana elithi "Inkontileka Yomshado ayinakuziphatha", kumane kudingekile ukuzungeza kahle ukwakheka kwalo.
Kuhle ukucabanga ngokuqinisekiswa kwebhanali yezinzwa zomlingani. Futhi akukho lutho olukhohlisayo. Uma ekuqaleni kwasendaweni yokuqala akukho amanani abonakalayo, khona-ke abashadikazi besikhathi esizayo bazosayina ngokuphepha idokhumenti ngokuphepha.
Lapho uphetha umshado, ukubalwa, kwanele futhi kubuhlungu, kufanele kube. Futhi uma abantu abasha besondela emshadweni nakho konke ukumibatha kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo, khona-ke idokhumenti ebaluleke kangaka ayilimalanga ngokunembile. Ngemuva kwakho konke, umakhelwane wababili waqala - ngokomzwelo nengqondo - umshado uzoqinisa kuphela. Uthando lungaphela, futhi izingqinamba zempahla zizosala. Futhi abesifazane basenazo izingane ezidinga 'ukugqoka ngezinyawo zabo.' Futhi hhayi njalo umyeni wangaphambili ozosiza. Futhi inkontileka yomshado izophoqa ukugcina umkakhe nezingane.
Umshado ubambisene futhi uma kwenzeka "ukushayisa umkhumbi" kunesidingo sokubona kusengaphambili. Futhi ngingena ngingena ema-nuances futhi ngibona izinzuzo zokwakhiwa kwenkontileka yomshado, isigamu sakho siyovuma isiphetho sakhe.
Uma kusekupheleni kwesiphelo somshado awuzange uthole imvume kulolu daba, khona-ke kufanele wazi futhi ukhumbule ukuthi lo mbhalo ungaphethwa ngemuva komshado, futhi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sempilo yakho. Mhlawumbe, ngemuva kwesikhashana nje ngemuva kokuphela komshado, ukuzethemba kwabalingani maqondana nomunye kuzoba okuningi, kuzokhuluma umqondo ojwayelekile, imicabango ephathelene "nayo ngeke ibe khona Kusayiniwe.