Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi unephutha, engafinyeleli kunoma yini eminyakeni yobudala "engamashumi amane Plus"? Ubudlelwano abasondeli, umsebenzi awubekwa, ibhizinisi alikhuli? Konke kwanyamalala, ngabe sekwephuzile futhi ungalungisi lutho? Musa ukujaha. Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi wena nje "yindoda yengxenye yesibili yempilo." Kubizwa kanjalo abantu abaphilayo abavela emdala. Njengoba i-heroine yefilimu "iMoscow ayikholelwa izinyembezi", ngemuva kokuqala kwempilo engamashumi amane. Ngalesi sikhathi, abantu bengxenye yesibili yempilo bashada ngempumelelo, bahlakulele ibhizinisi futhi bathole imali enhle, bathola amathalente namakhono amasha namakhono amasha futhi babelethe izingane.
UKim Catrill impilo yakhe yonke wayengumlingisi, muhle futhi ovelele. Maye, izindima zaqala ukudlula. Eminyakeni engamashumi amane, wayelahla ithemba lempumelelo - eHollywood, abesifazane beminyaka yakhe ngalesi sikhathi babevele bawuqeda umsebenzi wakhe.
UJoan Rowling wanikezela ubusha bakhe ukuthi anakekele umama ogula kakhulu, wabe eseshada nowesifazane wakhe ekhaya, namashumi amathathu anamahloni athile wengane ngesibonelelo esincane senhlalo futhi acabanga ngokungathi sína ngokuzibulala.
Iminyaka engu-17 iminyaka engu-17 isebenze njengomhleli womnyango wezemfashini e "vogue", futhi, ngokuvamile, ijabule ngokuphila kwakhe - umsebenzi omuhle, inxephezelo "ngokukhanya" kwempilo yomuntu siqu kumashumi amane .
Uyazi ukuthi kwenzekeni ngokulandelayo. UKim uthole indima kaSamantha 'esondweni edolobheni elikhulu'. UJoan wabhala uHarry Potter. Ukholo lwaluthandela othandweni lwazinquma ukuba seza nomshado ugqoke ngokwakhe. Kwakuyisiqalo kuphela - ngakunye kwawo.
Ingozi? Lutho neze. Kunabantu abaningi abanjalo "Ukulahlwa sekwedlule isikhathi". I-Bright, Iyasebenza, inomdlandla - iyaphikisa imibono yendabuko mayelana nokuthi kufanele ifezwe yini nokuthi yini okufanele igcwaliswe eminyakeni ethile. Kodwa-ke, le micimbi yendabuko namuhla isivele iphelelwe yisikhathi. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo nezenhlalo zesayensi yezenhlalo bathi: Akusekho mdala ukuguga - alikho izwi lalo noma umqondo. Intsha evamile eStain "Youth - ukuvuthwa - ukuguga" akusasebenzi, manje sikhuluma ngezindlela ezimbili zokuphila, ngalinye lithokozisa futhi ligcwele ngendlela yalo.
Ama-streotypepe okusinda. Kithi, wonke umuntu usehlelile - ukuqeda nini i-University, ashade, abelethe ingane, ukuze athole impumelelo yomsebenzi ... Uthanda konke okusemandleni ukufeza okulindelwe. Kepha akunakwenzeka ukuphikisana, akunakwenzeka ukuphikisana, futhi isikhathi sisebenza ngokushesha okukhulu. Futhi ngolunye usuku nize nize nize, ngoba lowo, ovela entabeni "uqala" uvela entabeni. " Ku-40, 45, 50, ubheka emuva nangesimo sokudubula: Uzame kakhulu, kepha anginaso isikhathi futhi angikwazi.
Futhi nakhu kunengqondo ukuzibuza ngolaka ngokuzolile: Kuyini ngempela, empeleni, anginaso isikhathi? Futhi - Ngingakwenza ngandlela thile ngandlela thile? Noma - Ngabe ngiyakufuna ngempela lokhu namuhla?
Wonke umuntu akazange akwazi ukwazi komunye umuntu futhi akufanele abe nokuhaha. Kepha unolwazi, kanye nekhono lokubonga kuye - uphawu lokuhlakanipha okuvuthiwe. Uma noma iyiphi i-niche yempilo yakho ingakabi matasa, akusho ukuthi uyi "Twin", kusho ukuthi usanda kuxazululwa eminye imisebenzi. Futhi manje usungabuya ku-UNETIDIWELWE - Funda ulimi, ushade noma ubelethe ingane (ngendlela, enye yekhasimende lami, yenza umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu, izingane ezineminyaka engu-4 ubudala eneminyaka engama-42!).
Ungangeni amaphupho eqiniso? Vumela amashumi amane ongawadali iphathi enkulu ye-ballet esiteji sethiyetha yeshashalazi esebenzayo, kodwa kusho ukuthi kuyadingeka ukufulathela izinkondlo, izinyembezi ze-rubling? Mhlawumbe iphupho lobuchwepheshe elingagcwalisekanga lingasetshenziswa ezingeni lama-amateur. Kuyiqiniso, into engenaso ngempela isikhathi futhi ayikwazi ukuba neqiniso. Kepha lokhu "okuthile" akupheli amandla impilo yonke. Zaky - futhi uzothola inhloso entsha.
Ukuntuleka kwempumelelo ebonakalayo emikhakheni eyinhloko yempilo akuyona into elula yokuvuthwa. Mhlawumbe uluhlobo lwe- "Ukusheshisa i-Locomotive", sonke lesi sikhathi sinamathele kuphela. Kunethemu elinjalo: "Indima yeHungry." Yilokhu okudingeka kwenziwe umuntu, futhi uzizwa njengesidalwa sonke. Akunakwenzeka ukungakunaki lokhu, futhi ingxenye yesibili yokuphila yisikhathi 'sokubamba iqhaza.'
UKim Catherol wabhekana nesidingo esinamandla sokwenza izinto, futhi eminyakeni engamashumi amabili yokuziqeqesha kulokhu kwangezelwa ikhono elinezinkinga. UJoan Rowling waqhamuka nama-adventures kaHarry Potter kunoma yimuphi umzuzu wamahhala, eshiya umhlaba womcabango, ecabanga ngemininingwane emincane kakhulu. UVera Wong waphupha ukuthi ungashada kanjani, wacabanga ukuthi ingubo yomshado ephelele evela emsebenzini wakhe omuhle wemfashini. Eqinisweni, udinga nje ukuvumela ukuthi ubhekane neqiniso lokuthi ubaluleke ngempela, futhi indlela emangalisayo yalokhu izoba namandla nezinsizakusebenza. Uyazi, njengoba bethi: "Ku-25 ubuhlakani kungaba noma ngubani. Ngo-50 kulokhu usuvele udinga ukwenza okuthile. "
Usukulungele lokhu? Futhi noma kunjalo endaweni ethile ngaphakathi kwesibungu sokungabaza nokukhathazeka ukuhamba. Bathini abantu? Ngabe impilo izovunyelwa? Futhi ngiyakwazi ukukukhokhela? Yini okhulile, ukwesaba okwengeziwe. Awusoze wazi ukuthi yiluphi usosayensi wezengqondo olusho, awusoze wazi ukuthi zilahlwe kanjani isigamu sazo sesibili sempilo "izinkanyezi" - baphi nokuthi bakuphi futhi bakuphi? Ngeke uqhubeke nokuguga, ngokuqinile kulele ekhoneni. Uyabona amadijithi athi "50" as "zero" eRoulette - usuku olujwayelekile lokuphela.
Izisekelo ezaziwayo lapha nakanjani zikhona. I-Pure Physiology: Kulesi sikhathi, ukuqothulwa kwemisebenzi yokuzala kuhumusha ngokuzenzakalela lo wesifazane osesikhundleni esingathandeki kubantu. Kwakunzima ukwamukela ugogo wethu omkhulu, kunzima kithina manje - akukulula ukukhansela inkumbulo yememori. Futhi uma uthatha noma yimuphi umsebenzi owaziwayo wakudala - ukuze ubambe ikhanda: bonke laba bantu abadala "kanye" bamantombazane e-balzakovsky yobudala "(ngeminyaka engamashumi amathathu!) ... Misa. Isikhathi sokukhumbula, "Yini, enhle, sinezinkulungwane eziyizinkulungwane egcekeni." Awuzange wazi ukuthi yini eyayikhona ngaphambili? Phambilini, abantu babulawa kusuka ku-appendicitis kanye nokubanda kwamabhanali, futhi isilinganiso sokuphila okujwayelekile kwakuyi-mala enobuntu. Yini iphuzu lokubheka ama-stereotypes wesikhathi esedlule?
Namuhla umfazi unesinqumo. Kungathatha ukuguga kwemvelo, futhi kungasizakala ngempumelelo yezokwelapha kanye nokweqa izinguquko zeminyaka iminyaka. Mhlawumbe ecaleni elisabekayo, ekholelwa ukuthi zonke izigaba eziphambili zempilo yabesifazane "intombazane - intombazane - umfazi", futhi owokugcina - "isalukazi" saqhubeka phambili. Futhi kungabona ukuthi izimpawu zalesi sigaba azizona imibimbi nokwandisa ubuthakathaka, kepha isimo, isipiliyoni, inkululeko yangaphakathi namathuba amasha okusebenzisana namathuba amasha asebenzelana nomhlaba. Konke ukwesaba kwethu, eqinisweni, kuvela ezinganekwaneni eziphelelwe yisikhathi.
Inganekwane kuqala. Kungekudala ngeke ngibe nempilo futhi ngiqine, ingqondo yami izokwakha nomzimba wami.
- Ezempilo kanye namabutho azipheli ngokuzenzakalela esifanelweni, ngokwesibonelo, "50". Bazokwenqaba kahle uma wena babela u-cut-off, onayo ilungelo lokukhathala nokugula, futhi lapho ubona impilo njengomjaho we-emulsion.
Ngakho-ke lapha. Impilo namabutho ahlala nawe isikhathi eside, lapho umugqa wokuphumula ovela "ekuphileni kwansuku zonke" uthuthele kude ngangokunokwenzeka lapho umsebenzi uluhambo oluhehayo lokufunda amakhono abo, hhayi nje umthombo wemali engenayo kanye ne-caterga edinga ukushiywa. Ezempilo kanye namabutho nawe lapho uqala ukusindisa futhi uwandise ngaphambi kokuthi umzimba "uneminyaka engama-50 lapho umzimba wakho ungewona umthombo ongapheli, kodwa into yakho, uthando nokunakekelwa. Ziyangezwa lapho unombono wekhanda futhi ungenze izinto empilweni yakho yansuku zonke lapho ungakhohlwa ukondla nokuthuthukisa imithwalo yakho yengqondo.
Inganekwane yesibili. Ngeke ngithandeke njengangaphambili.
Empeleni: Yebo, ngeke. Kepha kukhona nezindaba ezimnandi: Namuhla kuyimfashini ukuba yemvelo futhi ilungiswe kahle ebunganeni bayo, ukuvuthwa kuzo zonke izibonakaliso zayo (ngokobulili, ezomuntu siqu, ochwepheshe) sekusenye yezici ezinhle kakhulu zendoda yanamuhla. Inani lama-Studios omzimba, izinhlelo zokulungiswa kwesibalo nesisindo, iziphakamiso ezivela ezinkampanini zezimonyo zinkulu: wonke umuntu angathola indlela yokushintsha ngokwawo okungekho, futhi aqhubeke nokuhamba ngempilo.
Inkolelo-ze yesithathu. Anginaso isidingo sokuzilandela, kuzokwehla. Angisenandaba noma ngubani, isikhathi sami asisekho.
Empeleni: Nonke nikuhalalisela nge "suku eliyindilinga", ufisa zonke izinhlobo zezinzuzo, zinikeze ukhilimu olwa nama-anti ... uyamamatheka, ubonge, futhi igagasi lentukuthelo liphuma emphefumulweni. Konke kubonakala kungamanga: I-Young Easy Ukuhalalisela, abasaqondi, induna iyamamatheka, futhi kusasa bazoshintsha ngochwepheshe osemusha, abasabukeki njengaleyo ... Ukukhathazeka kwakho kwakha izinsolo nentukuthelo edonsa ngaphakathi Izinsiza kanye nesikhathi, uzikhetha njengezenzo eziwusizo ezinjalo njengokusondeza nezinhlelo eyanele ngekusasa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwesaba nentukuthelo kwesinye isikhathi kuba nesenzo esikhubazekile: ngoba ngisemdala, manje ngeke ngikwenze kimi, futhi ngizophuma "ngilindele ukuhlaselwa kweminyaka, izifo, imibimbi ...
Ngaleso sikhathi, noma ngabe umlingiswa wakho, akaphili noma athambile, umthetho wokuphila "isenzo ngasinye / ukungasebenzi kunemiphumela" ngeke ukhansele, okusho ukuthi kuhlala kungukukhetha. Ungalalela labo abathi bezemidlalo, indlela yokuphila esebenzayo futhi bazinakekela abanekhono baphakamise ithoni futhi bandise impilo ephelele, balandele izeluleko zabo futhi bathole ibhonasi yabo. Futhi ungakhuluma ngokudabukisayo ukuthi "konke lokhu okungenamqondo akukhanseli ukufa," yeka ukuzibuka bese uwa ngokulindela ukuphela. Noma ngubani osesikhathini esithile ujwayele umuzwa obukhali wokucasuka nokucasulwa impilo: "Izifiso zami zincane kakhulu, kungani umzimba uletha kanjalo ?!". Futhi okuphumayo kusuka enkingeni kukhona endaweni efanayo, lapho nomnyango: thatha umzimba.
Ingabe uzwa ukuntuleka kwesisusa? Bheka : "Ngimubi ukwedlula izolo, kodwa ngingcono kunalokho ngizokuthanda"). Bheka umgqugquzeli wakho - futhi uzibuze injabulo yempilo ephelele.
Inganekwane yesine. Ngimubi manje kunalokho okwakunjalo. Yilapho ngangimncane, bekukuhle. Futhi manje ...
Empeleni: Sonke sinobuhlakani besikhathi esedlule. Kepha kulokhu kuphenduka izaba zokuvilapha kwakhe ubuvila: bathi - akubuyi, ngakho-ke uzozama. Kepha ake sicabange ngalokho engingathanda ukubuya. Ingabe kukhona khona uthingo? Abantu abavuthiwe abavuthiwe abaye babuze ukuthi bafuna ukubuyela kwabangamashumi amabili bawo, baphendula bathi "Cha!". "." Kepha, bekungabonakala, bekukhona zonke izinzuzo - ubusha, amandla nokuguquguquka komzimba, ukubukeka okukhangayo, uchungechunge lwengqondo kanye namathemba avuthiwe ... futhi nokho umuntu ovuthiwe ukhetha ulwazi oluqongelelwe, oluhlanjululwe kanye nenkululeko lokho uyanikeza. Futhi okwedlule ... Hhayi-ke, asizimhlise nakancane, kunalokho. Thatha nje kuwo bese udlulisela emandleni akhona okuphupha nokwakha amasu, ukholwe futhi uthande impilo.
Inganekwane yesihlanu. Ngaso sonke isikhathi, umdala wethu - nokwanele ... kuyadingeka ukuthi uziphathe kahle - ngohlaka lwempilo elinokuthula.
Empeleni: Ama-stereotypes omphakathi ashukumisela nathi kuphela izindima ezimbalwa zezindima. Umama nogogo - emndenini. Mistress-Daccizer, kuthathwe ngokungapheli ngokulondolozwa. Unkosikazi wasendlini nomhlengikazi. Njenge-resort yokugcina, kuvunyelwe ukuhamba nabangane emibukisweni nasezinkolweni ... kepha ama-stereotypes akhona ukubaphula. Maqondana nelungelo lengxenye yakho yesibili esebenzayo yempilo.
Kuyiqiniso, zonke izindima zempilo yakho "eziphezulu" - mama, ugogo, umkhwekazi, umkhwekazi, - uzohlala kanye nawe. Kepha ngisho nale nkambu, ungakhetha ukuthi yimuphi umama futhi ugogo ozoba ngukusondeza okuthokomele noma umngani omncane okhulayo futhi osebenzayo.
Ukhiphe izingane ezikhulile, insimu yezimpilo zabo kufanele ibekelwe imbewu yembewu yokuzilibazisa okusha, imibono yokuphromotha amakhono noma izinguquko emkhakheni wezemisebenzi, amapulani wokuzilibazisa. Ngasikhathi sinye, abantu abasha obavumelayo empilweni yakho, ubukhulu besizowuqoqa ngendlela yombuthano wokuxhumana, okusho ukuthi ukuvela kwezintshisekelo ezintsha nezinhlelo. Kodwa-ke, mhlawumbe ufuna ukuba wedwa nawe, nezincwadi, ubuhlakani kanye nekhaya lakho ... Into esemqoka ukulondoloza ibhalansi ebudlelwaneni nabanye. Usengumlingiswa ophambili wempilo yakho, hhayi umenzi weqhaza lecebo lesibili komunye umuntu.
"Izinkanyezi" kanye nabantu abajwayelekile kakhulu abaphila nathi eduze kwethu nsuku zonke bakhombisa ukuthi yini ekhanyayo futhi ephelele ingaba yingxenye yesibili yempilo. Uma uthatha isinqumo, uma uzithinta wena. Kepha lapha, ungagijimeli ukwenza umgomo osanda kudingeka ohlaka lwe-stereotype entsha. Inani langempela lalesi sikhathi ukuthi akufanele ube nalutho kunoma ngubani. Ukuze uzizwe njengendoda yengxenye yesibili yempilo, akudingekile ukushesha ezinkombeni - ukukhuphuka emadwaleni, ubeke amaphoyinti noma amabhodwe acwengekile. Iphuzu alikho kuzenzo ezifanele ukukhuphula ibhulogi futhi liqinisekisa ukuhlala kwakho. Into esemqoka - ukubona ukuthi kusekhona isikhathi esiningi esizayo, kepha esitokweni ngasikhathi sinye - izinzuzo zokuhlangenwe nakho ezizovumela ngokuzolile futhi zilinganiswe, ngaphandle kokujaha nokujaha ekugcineni ukufeza konke.
Usebenze kakhulu, wasinda kakhulu. Futhi uyazi ukuthi ungubani manje? UnguCinderella, ekugcineni washaya ibhola. Vumela kamuva. Kepha ibhola lakho lilapha. Kufanele. Dance!