I-fate ngamanye amaxesha ityhalela iipateni ezimangalisayo, zityhalela abantu omnye komnye kunye nekamva labo. Unokuthetha iilwimi ezahlukeneyo, uhlala kumazwe ahlukeneyo, thanda ukutya okwahlukileyo, ubhiyozela iiholide ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye konke oku kuya kuba kubaluleke ngokupheleleyo ukuba udibene nomntu wakho, iqabane lakho lomphefumlo, ofuna ukuhlala naye kumakhulu eminyaka.
Kwaye ukuba uyadibana, uqhelene kwaye uthandane nenkulungwane yethu, itekhnoloji ye-Intanethi ilula, ke indlela yokwakhela amandla nomphambukeli, ukutshata naye iminyaka emininzi yokuphila kunye?
ENtshona, njengaseRussia, kukho amadoda ahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ukuze ubenzele ulwalamano oluhambelana nalo, kufuneka ukwazi kwaye uthathe izithethe kunye neempawu zengqondo zonyulo lwakho. Oku kuya kukunika ukuqonda kweengcinga zakhe, iimbono zakhe ngendlela yokuphila, iziseko zosapho kunye nolindelo kumfazi wabo. Kwangelo xesha, umtshato owonwabisayo onendoda yasemzini yeyona nyani, ukuba sijonga ezinye izinto.
Julia lansk
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Iinkalo zobudlelwane bamanye amazwe
Inombolo 1: Amadoda asemzini anesazela ngenambuzane, athe wasondela kwendalo itempile yosapho. Njengomthetho, bakulungele ukutshata kwenye indawo ukuya kwiminyaka engama-33 ukuya kwengama-40, xa inkqubo yokutshintsha kobuntu babo iya kubanjwa, kwaye ngaphambi kwelo xesha bazibambayo ekukhuleni kwabo, imisebenzi yabo kwaye banayo.
ERussia, okwangoku, omabini amadoda nabafazi banokwenza usapho ngokuphindaphindiweyo, babele abantwana kwaye baphule ubudlelwane.
Inombolo yesi-2: Xa umntu wasemzini ethatha ibhinqa elithetha isiRashiya kwinkosikazi yakhe, uthatha umphathi opheleleyo opheleleyo, kuba uyayiqonda ngokupheleleyo into yokuba, ehamba kwelinye ilizwe, eshiya yonke into apha kwaye etshintsha kakhulu ubomi bakhe. Uyaqonda ukuba awuyi kuba lula ukufumana umsebenzi kwilizwe lakhe: Qinisekisa amaxwebhu akho emfundo, funda ulwimi kwaye ufumane umsebenzi kwaye ufumane umsebenzi.
Kwaye qiniseka: Ukuba umntu wasemzini ulungele ukubeka imbopheleleko, ke ngenene, yeyona ithandekayo neyifunayo umfazi onqwenelekayo. Kwaye olu phawu malususe uloyiko olongezelelekileyo ngaphakathi kuwe kwaye luya kukunceda ukuba ulungele ukuziqhelanisa nezinto ezintsha, ilizwe, abantu nenkcubeko.
Inombolo 3: Kuyimfuneko ukwakha ubudlelwane nendoda yasemzini, kuba kukho i-stereotype ngokubhekisele kubafazi abathetha isiRashiya, ukuba bonke abafazi abasuka kwi-post-space (okanye eyona nxalenye yabo ifuna ukutshata nendoda Ilizwe lakhe.
Yiloo dongaistry yodonga "kuya kufuneka wakhiwe kwakhona, uyisebenzise kwizitena. Bambelela ngonyulo lwakho, ekhethiweyo nangesidima, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, nyaniseka. Kungokunyaniseka, ukuvuleleka kunye nobunzulu bamanye iimvakalelo kufuna abantu basemzini kwabo bafazi.
Inombolo 4: Kwindoda yasemzini kubaluleke kakhulu kwindlela yokuphila yonyulo oyinyuliweyo kunye nemikhwa yakhe. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bangqinelani nawe, umzekelo, unokubonisa ukuba ugxile ekuziqinisekisweni okuqhubayo.
Ngapha koko, kumazwe aseYurophu akunakulindeleka ukuba ufumane indoda okanye umfazi ongayi kunikela ingqalelo kwimpilo yabo. Uninzi lwabantu baseYurophu yimidlalo, kwimbono yabo, ubukhulu becala, ixabiso lobomi olusebenzayo nolusebenzayo luqhelekile.
Umanyano lwakho luya kuba luzinzile ngakumbi ukuba ucinga ngokuqhubela phambili malunga nendlela onokuthi uyidibanise ngayo, kwaye ungcono- "uqhubeke" kwelo lizwe ekulungele ukuhamba
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Inombolo yesi-5: Kuya kufuneka uchonge izinto zakho zobomi bakho. Yenza oku ubuncinci okungenani, kuba umntu wasemzini uza kufuna ukuva kuwe ngokuqonda ngokucacileyo indlela obubona ngayo ubomi bakho emtshatweni kwaye zeziphi izinto ezivumayo ukuze zityale imali kulwalamano lwethu. Kwangelo xesha, umntu wasemzini uhlala enomdla kuye, ixesha nemvakalelo kunye nemvakalelo yakho, olilungele ukutyala imali ekunxibelelaneni naye.
Indoda yaseNtshona iya kufuna ukuqonda kwangaphambili ukuba uza kwenza njani ubudlelwane ngokulungele ukushukunyiswa kunokucwangcisa, ukushukumisa, kunye nento ocinga ukuyifumana.
Umanyano lwakho luya kuba luzinzile ngakumbi ukuba ucinga malunga nendlela onokuthi uyidibanise ngayo, nokuba ungcono- "wenzeke" kwilizwe apho ulungele ukuhamba khona, kuba ukudityaniswa koluntu olutsha kuya kubaluleka wena. Njengommiselo, amadoda aseYurophu axhase umnqweno wabo okhethelwe ukuziqonda, kubandakanya nomsebenzi.
Yintoni enokunciphisa amathuba akho omtshato nendoda yasemzini?
"I-Achilles Fiedle" ye-Achilles Rine "inokubanga kukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo ngolwimi lonyuliweyo wakhe kunye nengazi ukutshintsha.
Ewe, kumanqanaba okuqala okuthandana, ungoncedo olwaneleyo lwawo nawuphi na umguquleli okwiphepha. Nangona kunjalo, ukuphuculwa kobudlelwane kuya kuba yimfuneko kwizakhono zentetho ethethwayo, kungenjalo ubudlelwane bakho nomntu onyuliweyo kuya kungena.
Kubalulekile ukuba ujonge umhlaba "ngaphandle kweglasi epinki" kwaye ungakhokelwa ngumgaqo "wobungcono apho singakho." Akufuneki ushiye ukuphila phesheya, kungenxa yokuba ungaziqondanga ekhaya kwaye unethemba lokufumana entshonalanga. Amathuba okuba nesiphumo esinjalo sincinci. Kunzima ukuba "yeyakho" kwilizwe lomnye umntu, kwaye ngale nto, kunye nenkxaso yentanda yakho, kunokukunceda ube namava, ulwazi kunye nomnqweno wokukhula ngokusisigxina.
Ngendlela, phumla phesheya kwaye uhlala kwelinye ilizwe kude nento enye. Ke ngoko, akukho mfuneko yokwenza isigqibo sokufudukela kwindawo yokuhlala esisigxina kwelinye ilizwe, ngokusekelwe kuphela kwiimvakalelo ezifunyenwe ngexesha leholide. Akukho nto banokuyenza ngombono wobomi bemihla ngemihla kweli lizwe zahlukile ngokupheleleyo izinto.
Eyona nto iphambili kwinkqubo yonxibelelwano kunye nonyuliweyo kukubeka onke amanqaku ngaphezulu "Ndi", uqonde kwaye uthathe inyani entsha ngaphambi komtshato wakho kwaye uye kwelinye ilizwe
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Iingcebiso ezi-3 eziphambili zokulungiselela ubudlelwane bakho nendoda yasemzini:
Cinga ixesha lokufunda ulwimi lomntu wakho. Kuya kufuneka ukuba ukwazi ukuqubuda iingcinga zakho kwaye uqonde oko bakuthethayo ngaphandle kokugqwetha.
Yiba nenxaxheba kulwazi lwe-psychology yamadoda. Oku kuya kukunceda ufumane ukuqonda kunye nendoda ephakanyiswe kwezinye izithethe kuluntu. Ngenxa yoko, uya kwakha ngokulula unxibelelwano ngomntu wakho kwaye ugcine incoko ngemibandela enomdla.
Zama ukufunda okungakumbi malunga ne-niravas, izithethe kunye namasiko amadoda angaphandle azisilele kwintsapho yakhe, thatha uluntu kwaye angabonakali, umfazi wakhe othandekayo nowonwabileyo.
Masizise isishwankathelo esincinci
Ukuba ufuna ukutshata umntu ophaphileyo nothando kwaye uyeke ukuhlala kwelinye ilizwe, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ulindelo lwakho luthintelwe kunye nokulindelwa kwendoda yakho, ubuncinci, ngokweekhrayitheriya ezibaluleke kakhulu:
-Ixabiso lobomi kunye nokulindelwe kumtshato wabo wesibini emtshatweni;
-Ukudityaniswa kwakho kuluntu kunye namathuba okuzimela;
-Imbono kwizinto eziphambili ezihlala kunye, umzekelo, ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwabantwana.
Eyona nto iphambili kwinkqubo yokunxibelelana nonyuliweyo kukubeka onke amanqaku ngaphezulu "ndi", ukuze ndiqonde kwaye uthathe inyani entsha phambi komtshato wakho kwaye uye kwelinye ilizwe. Kwaye emva koko amazwe awahlukeneyo kunye nezithintelo zolwimi aziyi kuba sisithintelo kubudlelwane bakho obonwabileyo, kuba oku kungasentla kuyakwazi ukususa amava akho amaninzi kwaye kube lula inkqubo yokufaka uluntu olutsha.