Ukulungelelanisa
Kuyo nayiphi na intlanganiso ekufuneka ulungiselele. Kwaye asingowokwazi ukwazi umxholo wencoko, ukuyiqonda, kodwa nokucinga ukuba luhlobo lomntu olwahlukileyo kuwe. Ukuhlala ucinga ukuba umntu onxibelelana nalo, yintoni umdla wakhe kunye nezinto ozithandayo. Mhlawumbi yena (yena) ungumhlobo oqinileyo, kwaye ukuba impumelelo yakho ixhomekeke kule ntlanganiso, kungcono ukuba unganxibi izikhumba, izinto zoboya, zinokumcaphukisa. Ukuba uyazi ukuba umntu uthanda iikati / izinja / iintaka / indalo, unokukhetha iiprinta ezifanelekileyo, umxholo we-chibelry. Umsindo ongqongqo akunakubaxabisa intambo enzulu yentamo okanye isiketi esifutshane, imibala eqaqambileyo kwimpahla yokunxiba, esenza okanye i-Deage-up okanye i-Decor, nokuba iKhowudi yokunxiba ivumela. Olu lwamkeli olulula (i-preyliminary "ubukrelekrele") ukuze bathande. Kwaye nantsi into ehamba kakuhle.
Ukupholisa
Apha sele uyazi ukuba ngubani obonakala ngathi odibana naye, uyazi ukuba yeyiphi imibala enxibe kwaye yeyiphi indlela ehambahamba kuyo. Ukuba umntu une-palette yombala owandulelayo, i-silhouets ukuba ibonakale ngokukhawuleza. Unokuvavanya ukuba yeyiphi imigca eyakhiweyo, kwaye, esebenzisa lonke ulwazi lwakho, nxiba kufutshane nempahla yokunxiba yomnxibelelanisi. Uya kuwubona umfanekiso oqhelekileyo (emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba akunjalo, ubona rhoqo esipilini?), Ewe, intanda yakho eninzi iya kuxabisa. Kwaye cinga ukuba ukwiqela elinye.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimeko zokholo. Ungayenza njani ke?
Bendisiya kwiintlanganiso ezimbini, kwafuneka badlule kumqolo, kodwa abantu endidibana nabo ahluke ngokupheleleyo.
Eyokuqala ngumfazi ovuthiweyo, inkokeli, ingcinga, kuyo yonke into inendlela yeshishini, i-Pragmatic Jonga izinto. Unxibe umfazi onjalo emi kwinqanaba lakhe: Ngokukhawuleza, ngokungqongqo, ngokusesikweni, ngokusesikweni, akukho nto ibalaseleyo. Iimpawu eziphambili zintle, zikhululekile. Ngethamsanqa, ndinokuyilinganisa "phantsi kwezimvo zakhe malunga nehlabathi, ukugcina ubuntu bam.
Okwesibini yintombazana encinci, echaseneyo nenkcazo yokuqala. Ingekho sesikweni, kulula ukuyiphakamisa, ivule. "Imbonakalo" yale ntlanganiso icebisa "ihlaziye" i-silhouets (kancinci okanye ikhululekile), iqaqambile kwaye iqaqambe kunye nemibala eyahlukileyo.
Ndaze ndayeka. Ndandinombuzo: indlela yokudibanisa abalinganiswa ababini kwezi ntlanganiso ngaphandle, ukuze kwaye apho, kwaye apho ndijongeka khona kwaye ngokuhambelana nomxholo. Impendulo yam yavulwa ngokwaya.
Ukuba ndifuna ukwakha ubuhlobo ngokunyaniseka nomntu obhinqileyo, kufuneka ndinyaniseke kum, kwaye ke-ukuveza ngaphandle kwempahla, ndingazami ukukholisa, ndingayithandi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba isitayile sam esiyinyani asisamkelekanga ukuba sibengenye kubo, ke mhlawumbi akufanele wenze naliphi na ishishini okanye ubudlelwane bakho? Kwaye le yimfihlakalo yesithathu eya kunceda ukuba ayisebenzi kwimeko ethile, okanye iindlela zokuqala okanye ezo bini.
Eli nqaku ndibhala kwikhefu phakathi kwezi ntlanganiso, eyokuqala yayihamba ne-bang, masibone ukuba yintoni na yesibini.
Karina Efimova,
Ingcali yokudalwa kweWadi ye-Ward