Ukuzithemba yindlela oziva ngayo ngawe, okanye uluvo lwakho malunga nawe. Wonke umntu unemizuzwana xa beziva bexinezelekile okanye kunzima kubo ukukholelwa kubo. Nangona kunjalo, kwixesha elide, oku kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki, kubandakanya nemicimbi enempilo yengqondo, njengokudakumba okanye uxinzelelo. Ukuzithemba kusoloko kubangelwa ngamava obomi, ngakumbi into eyenzekileyo kuthi ebuntwaneni. Nangona kunjalo, unokuyonyusa ukuzithemba nakuwuphi na ubudala. Kule nto sithetha ngezenzo ezithile onokuzithatha ukuze uyonge.
Ukuqonda ukuzithemba
Abanye abantu bacinga ngokuzithemba ngezwi labo langaphakathi (okanye incoko yababini kunye nabo) - ilizwi elikuxelela ukuba ulungile na ukwenza into okanye ufezekise. Ukuzihlola kubalulekile ngendlela esizixabisa ngayo, kunye nezimvo zethu malunga nokuba singobani kwaye sikwazi oko.
Kutheni le nto abantu bengazithembi?
Zininzi izizathu zokuba umntu angazithembi. Nangona kunjalo, ihlala iqala ebuntwaneni, mhlawumbi ngemvakalelo yokuba awunakukwazi ukuzithethelela. Isenokuba sisiphumo samava abantu abadala, njengolwalamano olunzima, lobuqu okanye emsebenzini. Zininzi iindlela zokukhulisa ukuzithemba:
1. Chonga iinkolelo zakho ezimbi kwaye ucele umngeni kubo
Inyathelo lokuqala kukutyhila, kwaye emva koko ucele umngeni kwiinkolelo zakho malunga nawe. Nika ingqalelo kwiingcinga zakho malunga nawe. Umzekelo, unokucinga: "Andikukhathazi ngokwaneleyo kule" okanye "andinabahlobo." Xa usenza, khangela ubungqina obuchasene nezi zityholo. Bhala phantsi zombini ukuvunywa kunye nobungqina kwaye uqhubeke nokujonga ukuba uzikhumbuze ukuba izimvo zakho ezimbi ngawe azihambelani nenyani.
Qala ngerekhodi lento malunga nawe uthetha ngayo
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2. Chonga uluvo oluqinisekileyo malunga nawe
Kumnandi kakhulu ukubhala amaxesha amnandi ngawe, umzekelo, iimpawu ezintle zemidlalo okanye izinto ezintle abantu bathetha ngawe. Xa uqala ukuziva uxinzelelo, jonga emva kwezi zinto kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba unezinto ezininzi ezilungileyo. Ngokubanzi, incoko yababini yangaphakathi ibaluleke kakhulu kukwanda kokuzithemba kwakho. Ukuba uzibamba ngento oyithethayo "andilunganga ngokwaneleyo" okanye "ndingumntu olahlekileyo", ungayitshintsha imeko encinci, esithi: "Ndiyakwazi ukuzithemba ngakumbi . " Ekuqaleni, uya kuzibamba ngento ebuyela kwimikhwa emibi, kodwa ngemizamo eqhelekileyo unokuqalisa ukuziva ulungile kwaye uyakongeza ukuzithemba.
3. Yakha ubudlelwane obuhle kwaye uphephe ukungalunganga
Ngokuqinisekileyo ufumanisa ukuba kukho abantu abathile kunye nobudlelwane obuthile okwenza uzive ubhetele kunabanye. Ukuba kukho abantu abakwenza uzive kakubi, zama ukubaphepha. Yakha ubudlelwane nabantu abakwenza uzive kamnandi, kwaye uphephe ubudlelwane olwahlela.
4. Yenza ikhefu
Akukho mfuneko yokuba igqibelele kwiyure nganye kunye nemihla ngemihla. Awufunezi nokuziva ulungile. Ukuzithemba kuyahluka kwimeko ukuya kuthi ga ngoku, kususela kwimini na, kususela kwimini, kude kube selixa ukuya kwixa elizayo. Abanye abantu baziva bephumle kwaye belungile nabahlobo kunye noogxa, kodwa banobunzima kwaye benentloni kunye nabantu ongabaziyo. Abanye banokuziva benebandla ngokupheleleyo, kodwa bafumana ubunzima kwimidlalo yentlalo (okanye ngokuchaseneyo). Yenza ikhefu. Sonke sinamaxesha xa siziva sinenxunguphele okanye kunzima kuthi ukugcina ukholo kuwe. Into ephambili ayizukungqongqo kakhulu. Yiba nobubele kuwe kwaye ungabi kakhulu.
Yibani nemihlali ngokwakho ngezinto ezincinci
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Kulumkele ukugxeka ngokubhekisele kwabanye, kuba oko kunokuzomeleza izimvo zakho ezimbi, kunye nokunika abanye abantu (mhlawumbi, bubuxoki) luvo olungalunganga ngawe. Unganceda ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba kwakho, ukuziphatha xa uthatha into enzima, okanye nje yendlela onamava ngayo ngolusuku olubi.
5. Ngenxa efanelekileyo kwaye ifunda ukuthi "hayi"
Abantu abanokuzithemba okuphantsi bahlala benzima ukuzimela okanye baxelele abanye. Oku kuthetha ukuba banokugcwaliswa kakhulu ekhaya okanye emsebenzini, kuba abathandi ukwala nantoni na. Nangona kunjalo, oku kunokuqinisa uxinzelelo, kwaye kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukujamelana nayo. Ke ngoko, ukuphuculwa kweefektri kunokunceda ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukubambela ngokungathi uyakholelwa kuwe, kunokuqinisa ukholo kuwe!