Nakuphi na ukwala kuhlala kungamava angathandekiyo, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kubudlelwane bobuqu. Kumfazi, iqabane linokuchaphazela kakhulu ukuzithemba kunye nokubona okwaneleyo njengabafazi, kwaye yonke into inzima kakhulu ngamadoda-ukuba izicwangciso ezinzima zihlala zingenalo ngempazamo yakhe. Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Sigqibe kwelokuba sifumanise.
Kukholelwa ukuba isondo sesondo yinto yokulahla inkunkuma yendoda engenanto yakwenza neemvakalelo, kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke into elula kakhulu. Ngapha koko, ukuzihlola kwendoda eyindoda abuthathaka kakhulu kunebhinqileyo, kwaye le yenye yezizathu zokuba umntu aqhubeke ngokukhawuleza ukuba angaphumeleli kumfazi.
Uhlala ufumana umbono wokuba amadoda aqhele ukusingatha, kuba uninzi lwenzala kunye nenyathelo lokuqala, kwaye ke, kunye namadoda ngokwengqondo, kunye nokukhuthaza uxinzelelo ukuba Indoda iva iyayeka rhoqo kunokuba ubambe iimbonakalo ezinomdla.
Umfazi usenokuba nezizathu ezininzi zokwala.
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Kutheni le nto amadoda enzima kakhulu ukuba aqonde "hayi"
Konke malunga nolwahluko kwi-psyche: Umfazi unokwala ukufuphi namhla, kwaye ngomso uya kuzinikela, kwaye akukho nto iyothusayo kule, enikezwe ukuxhomekeka kwengqondo yesini esivela kwisimo sengqondo sesondo. Indoda ibona ukwala usuku oluthile njengokungakhathalelwa kuye njengendoda xa iyonke. Kubonakala kuye umfazi wakhe ngokwesiporho akasafuneki, kwaye ke into ayilunganga kuye, ngenxa yoko ubushushu bokungaphantsi komsindo kumfazi.
Ngaphezu koko, ihlala ithathelwa indawo kukukhathazeka ngokupheleleyo kwisondo okanye ngesondo nomfazi othile, nangona yena engakuqondi oko kwenzekayo kwaphela intanda yakhe.
Ngamanye amagama, ubundlobongela obuvela kwindoda ayiyonto ingaphaya kokuphendula xa umntu ekunzima ukujongana neemvakalelo kwaye uzigcine ngaphakathi.
Kwenziwe ntoni?
Okokuqala, hayi ukuphendula ngobukrwada kulwalutya-uya kwenza impikiswano enkulu, enokuthi kumatyala akhethekileyo anokukhokelela ekuphuhliseni. Zama ukuzithoba kwaye uzole iqabane. Okwesibini, hlala phantsi kwaye uthethe ngokungaqondi kakuhle emhlabeni wesondo, le meko ibalulekile ukuxoxa nokufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, ukuba ngaphambi koko wena okanye iqabane lakho elingaqondwanga kakuhle. Yibani noFrank kwaye ungayishiyi ingxoxo ngamaXesha aphambili-ukuphuculwa kolwalamano lwakho kuxhomekeke koku.