Ubunzima bomhlanguli wabathandekayo kuphuhliswa naphina. Le yindawo yokuziphatha yokuziphatha ekhula kuthi kweli lizwe idlulileyo. Xa bevela kwi-Kindergarten, batsho ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukwabelana ngethoyi, ukunceda okuncinci, musa ukucaphukisa uMama, uTata okanye umakhulu. Imfundo yakhiwe ekwenzeni umncedisi kade mdala okanye, ngokunciphisa iziphazamiso kunye nokuphazamiseka kuye. Umntwana ukhula ngengcinga yokuba inkxaso enkulu yobuthabo athandanayo, eyomeleleyo ukuba ithandele, kwaye okungenani kusohlwayo.
Uvulindlela-u-Okthobha ubuntwana Ubuntwana busifundisa i-hypertrophilrophity ekhathalele abanye, bebeka iimfuno zayo kwindawo yokugqibela. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba iminyaka engama-25 ayizange yamkelwe kuba vulindlela sele, iziseko zele mfundo ziyaqhubeka zichuma. Amadoda nabafazi abadala bahlala neenjongo zokuba uncedo lufuphi kwaye yintsingiselo yobomi. Kwaye andiyi kuthi kuphosakele ukukhokelwa yile nto ifanelekileyo. Ithobekile kwaye yahlukile imangalisayo. Kwangelo xesha, umthetho webhayibhile uthi: "Thanda ummelwane wakho, njengawe." Ngamanye amagama, uthando kunye nokukhathalela abanye kuqala ngokuzithanda, kwaye akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuthanda. Ngaphandle kwamava othando kunye nokuzikhathalela, kuya kunzima kuthi ukuyenza njani kwabanye. Ukusebenza - mhlawumbi sisifundise ukuba sikhathalele. Kodwa ukuthanda nokucinga ngendlela esiqhelayo ngayo abantu esibathandayo, ukukhula, ukufumana amava abo - oku sele i-ART. Bambalwa abantu abanokumelana novavanyo olungacocekanga, ingcebiso, ungenelelo. Okanye kuthekani ngabo baneengxaki zemali? Ukusebenza-Kuyimfuneko ukunceda, ukunika imali okanye ukuboleka ngaphandle kwemihla echanekileyo yokubuya. Nangona mhlawumbi eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokunceda elinye ingene ezinyaweni kukuyeka "ukuxhasa" ngemfesane.
Ungafunda njani ukuzibeka endaweni yokuqala ebomini bam, iphupha legorha lethu: "Kuyo, enye yandithimba into yokuba ndilambile. Kwaye ngenkcaso ibuza, andisithandi ngam. Ndazisola, kodwa bendithule. Emva koko wathenga iipakethi ezintathu zeentlobo ezahlukeneyo, uzinze epakini etafileni kwaye wazilungiselela ukutya. Kukho amantombazana amathathu anamashumi omashumi omabini atyunyuziweyo, waqala ukukhetha ukutya kwabo kwaye waqokelela ukutya. Emva koko ndaqhushumba ndathi: "Bhake! Ungayityi! Ndizithengile! "Bamjonga, kodwa bafika ngokuthe cwaka. Imbono ababenomsindo. Kodwa ndawuva umbhiyozo. Ndivuke ndinemvakalelo yomsindo kunye nomsindo. Kwaye ndacinga ukuba amatyala am athe nkqi endijikeleze ndahlawula. Kwaye ndifuna ukucinga ngoku malunga nam kuphela. Kwaye ukuba andifuni ukuba namava nangokuphupha imvakalelo yokuba ndisebenzise ngobuqhetseba, kwaye ndiyayivumela ithe cwaka. "
Ukulala okuhle, apho iqhawe lifunda ukukhusela imida nakwimidla yayo. Kusekunzima ukuyenza ngamadoda (waphulukana nendoda ephupheni), kodwa ngabafazi uba sisibindi, ingozi, igreyithi. Sinqwenela ithamsanqa lakhe kule ndlela.
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UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin