Kunzima ukungenisa umntu ngaphandle kocalucalulo: Ukuqonda okusulungekileyo, ukuhamba kwezimvo ezintsha- konke oku kubonakala ngathi liphupha elingasebenziyo. Ngapha koko, lufakelo "olonakalisayo, sinyanzela ukuba sigqwetha umbono wabanye abantu kunye neziganeko ezenzeka nathi. Zifumanise ngokwakho kunye neentombi kule nto - isabelo kumagqabantshintshi yintoni enye oyiqapheleyo.
"Ndinobangela i-mata, kodwa emhlophe ..."
Iikhonsepthi ze "mhlophe" kunye "emnyama" ye-Psychology ayikho. Imvakalelo yomona yindlela eqhelekileyo yokuphendula ngokweemvakalelo, iqala kumaxesha amandulo ngexesha lomzabalazo wokusinda. Ngokwemvelo ifunwa kakuhle - kubalulekile ukuba ungalibali ukulwa naye. Iimvakalelo ezibonakalayo njengoko zinjalo kwaye ziyabazi-kuya kuba lula ukutshintsha umona ngovuyo olunyanisekileyo ngalowo umthandayo.
Fumana iindlela ezintsha
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"Kufuneka ndifune - kwaye wonke umhlaba emilenzeni yam"
Ukufakwa ngokuyinxenye kubhekisa kwinto yangaphambili. Kuyinyani, ayinguye wonke umntu ongaphumi sonke ngokwamazwi kwizenzo-zihlala zifezekisa iimeko eziphezulu kwaye ziphucule iimeko zokuhlala ziphela ngokurekhoda iinjongo kwidayari. Sukucinga ukuba iplanethi ijikeleza yedwa, kwaye i-fae ilinde ithuba lokuphumeza amaphupha axabisekileyo - yonke into inzima ngakumbi. Zabalazela ukwenza ngaphezulu kwaye uthethe kancinci, emva koko zonke iinjongo zakho zonyaka ziya kuqala ukuncipha kolu luhlu lokuqala emva kwenye. Umsebenzi oxhasayo kunye nokunxanelwa kolwazi olutsha sisitshixo sokuphuhliswa kobuntu kunye nokukhula kwayo kwiSicwangciso sokomoya nakwisixhobo.
Mhlawumbi kufanelekile ukumnika ithuba ... "
Kwintombazana emininzi ye-Gerdiyo, wakhumbula eli binzana, ukucinga ukoyikisa. Ngubani okuphefumlele ukuba "unesifo esihle" kuba wazalwa umfazi? Ngokuyintloko ungumntu obalaseleyo- musa ukudlala iimvakalelo zabanye abantu kwaye ungakhangeli izibonelelo kwiqabane elinokubakho. Sukwenza unxibelelwano kuphela kuba uloyiko lokuhlala wedwa. Ukuba awuyithandi indoda, mxelele ngayo ngokuthe ngqo kwaye uqhume ngokuzolileyo-akunamsebenzi ukuba utsala uncumo ngexesha lentlanganiso nendoda, awukhathalelanga. Mnike ithuba lokuphumelela kwaye uzivuye.
Indoda akufuneki iqagelele iinjongo zakho
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"Ndiza kuthenga i-jean ngobukhulu obungaphantsi-ukunciphisa umzimba kwiholide"
Yima ukuzinyanzela ukuba unciphise umzimba: Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhambelane nemigangatho yobuhle. Impahla elungele impahla ehleli kulo mfanekiso ingumqondiso wesimo sengqondo esisempilweni emzimbeni wakhe. Mthande kwaye uphucule eyakho, hayi ngenxa yezimvo ezingezizo ezongezelelweyo kumadoda azinikeleyo okanye akaqondi kwiintombi. Kwaye akufuneki unikele ingqalelo kumhla: iholide okanye iholide ayibalulekanga. Ukuba injongo yakho kukuphila ubomi obude kwaye obonwabisayo, emva koko ke ukusondela kwesondlo, izemidlalo kunye nokucoceka kweengcinga akuyi kuvavanywa kwindlela eya kuyo. Ukuza ngaphambi kwale ngqondo, ukuze ndiqonde: Ewe, ndifuna ukunciphisa umzimba ngaphandle kwengcebiso.
"UThixo Wanika iBunny, Nika Nohlaza"
Eli binzana lokuhleba lihlala liphuma lingafani kunye nesimo sengqondo sokuthandwayo malunga nokuzala abantwana. Sukucinga ukuba udibana nomntu othandekayo wakho kwaye utshatele ngokwaneleyo ukuhlala kunye kwaye ngovuyo. Nobabini kufuneka ndizame ukuqokelela imali eyinkunzi kwimbonakalo yomntwana: indawo yokuhlala, efanelekileyo ukuba umatshini wosapho, amandla okuqhuba umntwana kwimijikelezo kunye necandelo okanye yonke imihla ukuthatha i-nanny. Okukhona uyinika "isiqalo", kuya kuba lula ukuba seka "gqiba" ngokwakho.