Ulwalamano lothando-isihloko esibangela iingxoxo kunye neembambano ezininzi kunezopolitiko nakumbuzo wezezimali. Bambalwa abantu ababanjiweyo kuqikelelo lokuqhelana nokuqiqa ngento abaza kuyenza, siya kuba kulwalamano lwabo. Kunzima ngakumbi kwizibini ezingafundiswanga-uluntu luzama ukubagweba ngalo lonke iindlela kwaye wenze into efanayo. I-Polyamoria ngumzekelo womodeli wolwalamano olukhoyo, kodwa ungabonwa nguluntu lwethu. Kule nto, siyabuthanyanisi sicacisa imigaqo sisasaze iintsomi.
Thanda ezimbalwa kwaye ube yinyani kubo
Kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka ukuba uthandane namaqabane amabini nangaphezulu kwaye uthethe ngokunyaniseka - ilungelo? Nangona kunjalo, i-polyamoria ayilingani nobudlelwane basimahla - amaqabane, kunye nakwizibini ezisemgangathweni, kunye xoxa ngomnqweno wokukwenza iyantlukwano. Ngokutsho kwengcali yeAmerican kubudlelwane bukaSusan ebusika, ubudlelwane be-polllulamorial buhlala 'bubonakaliswa sisibini esiyintloko, esikrelekrele (kunye nesivumelwano) sinxibelelana namanye amaqabane ezothando. Ezi nyawo zinesondo zinokusetwa njengepere okanye ezizimeleyo. "
Amaqabane amaninzi, kunzima ngakumbi
Abantu abaninzi-Iingxaki ezininzi
Iipalizoras kufuneka zibe nzima ngakumbi ekuhanjisweni kwexesha lobuntu - iqabane ngalinye kufuneka lihlawule ubuncinci iyure ngosuku, kwaye libe ngcono ngakumbi. Iingxaki emsebenzini, ukungoneliseki, iingxabano ezinabantwana- zonke ezi zinto zixoxwa kwisibini nje nje ezimbalwa zixubusha. Ukugcina umoya ojikelezayo, ngamnye wabathathi-nxaxheba ufuna ukrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo eziphuhlileyo: Ukuze ukwazi ukumamela enye, ukungakhutyekiswa ngamaqula, funda ukungabinamida. Kuba amapolinamous kwisibini esidlangala mabini, kubalulekile ukuba simnike inkululeko-ukukholosa umntu kwaye umvumele ukuba aphile ubomi bakhe, kwaye angacingi ukuba abhenele kwiingqondo ezimbini.
Imibuzo malunga nobomi kufuneka isombulule isibini, kwaye hayi uluntu
Imbono engonelanga yabanye
Isizukulwana esidala, xa esiva ngePolulamoria yomntwana, ngokuyintloko esoyika ukutshatyalaliswa kweManyano-sele esekwe - isibini esitshatileyo apho umntwana anokukhula umntwana. Izihlobo zamthandabuza ukuba umntu othile wagqiba kwelokuba angayi kujonga amanye amaqabane ngonxibelelwano lwezesondo lwexeshana. Inyani yile yokuba i-polyamoria yinto eqhelekileyo exhalabisa umntu yena kwaye engabonzaki abanye. Funda ukucinga ngokugxekayo, kwaye ungabi nama template, ukuze ungazinxibelelanisi nabanye kwaye ungayenzi uqikelelo kwindlela abafuna ngayo ukuphila ngayo.
QAPHELA Nasiphi na iMbonakaliso yoThando njengento entle kwaye yenze, kwaye ungayonakalise imeko yangoku ngaphakathi. Yamkela amaqabane amatsha omhlobo wakho njengabahlobo: ndikholelwe, akusoyiki kunqabile ukukwazi kunye nawe.