Uyu munsi, narongeye gukunda gukora ku ngingo y'amafaranga, bifite akamaro kanini kandi bidashoboka rwose. Mu nkingi ibanza nanditse ku buryo butandukanye bwo gukwirakwiza ingengo y'imari y'umuryango - ninde winjiza, kandi ninde uhitamo icyo gukoresha, nuburyo iganisha ku mikorere yumuryango. Uyu munsi nzatanga inama zuburyo bwo kwirinda gutongana kubyerekeye amafaranga.
Noneho, mbere ya byose, hagomba kubaho amategeko amwe amafaranga yatanzwe. Bagomba kuvugwa hamwe numuryango wose kugirango basobanurwe buri wese. Kurugero, niba ababyeyi baha amafaranga y'amafaranga, agomba kuba amenyeshe niba amafaranga ari umufuka we, agera rimwe mukwezi, cyangwa iki ni ibihembo byo kumvira no kumvira.
Ibikurikira, ugomba guhitamo umunsi umwe mugihe runaka kugirango muganire kubyingenzi mubukungu. Dufate umunsi umwe kumwaka, buri mezi atandatu cyangwa amezi abiri. Kuri uyumunsi (ariko ntakindi) bushobora kugaragazwa no gukora ibirego. Abagize umuryango bose - no kwinjiza, kandi ntibayinjiza, n'ababyeyi, kandi abana bagomba kwiyumvisha neza uko ubukungu bw'umuryango na gahunda by'ejo hazaza.
Ni ngombwa cyane ko abagize umuryango bose bemera neza abafata ibyemezo bijyanye no gukwirakwiza amafaranga kandi bagakurikiza aya masezerano.
Nibyo, mbega ukuntu byagize ingaruka ku bivuguruzanya? Ikigaragara ni uko umubare munini wimiryango yarazwe nababyeyi. Kubwibyo, impamvu yamagisha ye yumvikana ko adashaka ubwawo kandi atari muri mugenzi we, ahubwo yababyeyi. Ntakintu gisangiye abashakanye nkahaba umwanzi usanzwe. Ababyeyi bawe barashobora gushimisha ubukwe, bahinduka intego yo gushinja. Kurugero, niba wometseho, ntushaka gusangira numugore wawe cyangwa wanze gukora impano, bibaho kuko waraye cyangwa umubyeyi yakunze kugirira imbabazi .. . Uru ni urwitwazo rwiza rwubuntu bwawe budahagije.
Akenshi mu miryango, umwe mubashakanye agaragaza ko ari ubugingo, undi ni trans. Kurenza ikintu kimwe kiba kimwe, niko byamaranye ikindi. Ibi bibaho haba mu myigaragambyo, cyangwa kwishyura indishyi za buriwese. Kugira ngo bidasohoka mbere yo gutandukana, umwe mu bashakanye akeneye guhindura imyitwarire ku gihe gitandukanye. Kurugero, umugabo we yatayeguwe cyane akurikira igihe cyose igura ikintu gihenze kugura ikintu kidakenewe rwose inshuro ebyiri zihenze. Nyuma yibyumweru bike, ibisubizo bizagaragara. :)
Muri iyi ngingo, nashingiye ku bikoresho bya psychotherapist cl madanes.