Ibyangiritse bito nububabare buke, aratanga abo bantu bakuru batabayeho gusa. Abantu nk'abo bashoraga mu iterambere ryabo, bashimangira umubano wabo, ntabwo ari umubyeyi we, bagenda, bakundaga ubwoko runaka, bashyigikiye isano yinshuti hanze yumuryango. Birumvikana ko kwita kumwana umaze gukura uturutse murugo ntazakomeza kumenyekana, ariko ntabwo ari ubusa kandi bibabaza. Byongeye kandi, igihe abana bava mu rugo rwa se, kuko abagabo n'abagore babiri bakuze bita Zahabu rimwe na rimwe bashakanye. Bafite ubuvuzi buri munsi kubana amaherezo barongera guhabwa ubwabo no hagati yabo. Bibaho ko babona uburyo urukundo rwabo no kubemera bikomeza cyane. Kandi bongeye kubona igihe cyiza cyubumwe hagati yacu: bagiye mu rugendo, bavugana, bishimye babyitayeho kandi bishimira igihe gihuriweho.
Ibinyuranye bibaho kenshi. Ababyeyi bakuze barebye kureko ko nabo ari abafatanyabikorwa mubuzima. Mu myaka myinshi, ibisobanuro byo kubaho kwabo byari abana no gushyirwaho. Kuberako iyo abana bigoye (mumiryango nkiyi bibaho bibabaje), bakuwe kubabyeyi babo, abagize umuryango bose bafite inzara ziteye ubwoba no gusenyuka gukomeye k'ubuzima.
Abana baragumaho kumva umwenda udahembwa kubabyeyi babo, igihe cyose kirahuze gusubizwa: amafaranga, kwitabwaho, byerekana ubuzima bwabo bwiza, kubyara vuba bishoboka kugirango basogo bashimishe. Ababyeyi bababazwa no kwifuza ubuzima bwabo "". Kwicuza amahirwe yo gutakaza no kurakara ko ubuzima ari ubusa kandi monone.
Ibyo ari byo byose, ababyeyi bose birakwiriye mugihe cyicyari cyubusa, rimwe na rimwe gitanga ubuhanga bwabo.
Izi nzozi zasangiwe numugore, nyina yari asanzwe asore umusore ukunzwe rwose. Afite ubuzima bwe, baba atandukanye, kandi buriwese yubaka ubuzima bwigenga.
Ariko rimwe na rimwe ububabare bwo gukura no gutandukana buracyatsinzwe binyuze mu nzozi: "Nzorota ko umuhungu wanjye, ibikururuka, ibikururuka mu bwoko bw'imiterere mu nyanja. Kandi ndabiruka kugirango nize. Biteye ubwoba, ndabona ko nta mwanya mfite. Yiruka, aratatana bose, kandi ntabwo ahumeka. Nateye umutwe mpfukamye hasi, ndakandagira, havomye, araceceka. Nabyutse uteye ubwoba, n'umutima wo gupfuka ntirwasinziriye. "
Noneho umuhungu we asanzwe arera umwana we, ntakeneye ubufasha bwababyeyi. Ariko intwari zacu ziracyibukwa, ibi: kuba ishinzwe rwose ubuzima bwawe, arinda kandi buri munota kugirango dukurikize ubuzima bwe.
Kandi ni izihe nzorora?
Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin