Igorofa nziza yavuzwe no kudashaka kurangiza amasezerano - iki nikimenyetso cyo kutita ku byiyumvo, kandi intego zihishe, kandi ntiziringire igice cyabo cya kabiri. Igitekerezo kimurika mumutwe ko inyandiko nkiyi izasenya urukundo kandi igashyire umusaraba mu rukundo rw'iteka. Ibi ni ukuri cyane mu bagore - "hagati y'urukundo rwa Amerika!".
Niba kandi utekereza mubuzima bwumuryango atekereza mubuzima bwumuryango? Birahoraho rero kubusabane! Yego yego! Bashora gusa mubashakanye ntabwo ari inyungu zumubiri, ahubwo ni iy'umwuka. Kandi mubihe byose byingenzi? Nibyo - inyungu. Kandi inyungu mumuryango ni umunezero nubwumvikane bwumwuka.
Psychologiya mu bagore ahagarara ku mwanya wa mbere. Cyangwa ahubwo - ibintu bya psychologiya. Kubwibyo, hamwe nibitekerezo byerekeranye n'amasezerano yo gushyingirwa, ibibazo bya gahunda ya psychologiya, hariho kumva ko utababaye. Abadamu beza ntibumva uburyo bwo kuvuga kuri ibyo bintu, kandi bahangayikishijwe cyane, "kandi tuvuge iki kuri twe tuzavuga abantu bakikije." Kandi abagore benshi bakunda gusubiramo ko amasezerano yubukwe ari inzira itaziguye yo gutandukana.
Ariko, imibonano mpuzabitsina yumugore ni ngombwa kandi ni ngombwa kumva ko igishushanyo cyiyi nyandiko kinyuranye, ikimenyetso cyerekana ikizere kivuye ku mutima muri mugenzi wawe, no mu mibanire yacyo rwose n'ibibazo byose bishoboka bimaze gukemurwa. Kubwibyo, urashobora kwishimira ubuzima, wubake umubano wigiherane wigihere kandi utekereze ku ruhande rw'ubukwe, kuko uruhande rw'amafaranga rwarakemutse! Ni ukuvuga, gusa witondere umunezero! N'ubundi kandi, amasezerano yo gushyingirwa ntabwo ari icyegeranyo cy'inyandiko ifite igitekerezo cyo gutandukana ejo hazaza. Aya ni amasezerano ku bikoresho n'ibigize ibintu bigize selile nshya ya sosiyete - umuryango, kubyerekeye inzira mu imari. Kandi gahunda muri byose kubagore ni ngombwa cyane kandi birakenewe. Kandi iyi niyo mbaraga ziyi nyandiko! Kubwibyo, kuki utazoroshya ubuzima ugahita uzana gahunda mumuryango?
Amasezerano yubukwe ni ukurinda umutungo wawe. Mu masezerano yubukwe hazaba ubutegetsi butandukanye bwabashakanye kandi niba umwe mubashakanye aguye mu mwenda, azasubiza imyenda kuva mu mugabane wacyo. N'ubundi kandi, akenshi bibaho ko umugabo azimira nyuma yo gutandukana, ariko asiga imyenda ye ...
Icy'ingenzi cyane kandi umwanya wo kwandikisha inguzanyo. Inguzanyo ifata abantu hafi ya bose kandi kubintu byose bikurikiranye uhereye kumuguzi kugeza ku mafuro. Ingingo iteganya ko inshingano z'inguzanyo zikora uwo bashakanye yatanze inguzanyo izakemura ikibazo cyo gutandukanya inguzanyo mugihe cyo gutandukana.
Mugihe dukora amasezerano yubukwe, birashoboka guhitamo uzaba mu mutungo wabonetse nkimpano. N'ubundi kandi, amakimbirane no kutumvikana bitera impano, cyane cyane mubukwe. Kandi bihenze abagore nibicuruzwa bivuye kuri fur, byaguzwe mubukwe - bizaza kuri nde? Kenshi na kenshi, abagabo mubashakanye baha igice cyimitako yabo, amakoti, imodoka no mugihe cyo gushushanya abantu bose bashaka kureka ibyo bateye izo mpano kandi bahitamo gutegura amasezerano yubukwe.
Nanone, iyi nyandiko izafasha kunoza ibikorwa byubukungu bwabashakanye - kugirango bamenye ibiciro byamafaranga na gahunda yo kugura bikomeye. Mugihe cyo gufata amasezerano yubukwe, bizarandurwa amafaranga yinjiza azajya ku ngengo yimari rusange yumuryango, kandi ariya kugiti cye ("umufuka".
Kandi umwanya ukurikira uzaba ingirakamaro kubagore badakora cyane cyane. Abagore benshi bitangira kumuryango kandi nyuma yo gutandukana ntakintu. Nta mwuga, nta kazi, nta nyungu. Byongeye kandi, interuro y'uwo mwashakanye akenshi irasa mu mikorere y'imikorere - "ntabwo yakoze." Mugihe ukora amasezerano yubukwe, ikintu kizashyirwaho, kizategeka ko uwo mwashakanye yishyura amafaranga, kimwe nikintu hamwe no gutunganya umubare wagenwe ninshuro yo kwishyura.
Muri rusange, amasezerano yo gushyingirwa nukurinda ibyiza byimibonano mpuzabitsina myiza. Kubwibyo, ntabwo ari ngombwa gushyira mu bikorwa imvugo "amasezerano yo gushyingirwa ntabwo ari imyitwarire", birakenewe gusa kugira ngo bushobore gukora igishushanyo mbonera cyacyo.
Birakwiye gutekereza kubijyanye no guhagarika burundu ibyumviro byumufatanyabikorwa. Kandi nta kintu gisebanya. Niba ubanza umwanya wambere nta ndangagaciro zifatika, abashakanye b'ejo hazaza bazasinya neza inyandiko.
Mugihe usoza ishyingiranwa, kubara, bihagije kandi birashimwa, bigomba. Niba kandi urubyiruko rwegereje gushyingirwa nuburemere ninshingano, noneho inyandiko nkiyi ntabwo ikubabaza rwose. N'ubundi kandi, abaturanyi ba babiri batangiye - amarangamutima no gushyira mu gaciro - ishyingiranwa bizashimangira gusa. Urukundo rushobora kurangira, kandi ibibazo byumutungo bizagumaho. N'abagore baracyafite abana bakeneye "gushira ibirenge." Kandi ntabwo buri gihe uwahoze ari umugabo azagufasha. Kandi amasezerano yo gushyingirwa azakomeza kubahiriza umugore we n'abana.
Gushyingirwa ni ubufatanye kandi mugihe "ubwato bwamato" ni ngombwa. Kandi mpindukirira nogence no kubona ibyiza byo gutegura amasezerano yubukwe, kimwe cya kabiri kizemera umwanzuro we.
Niba ari mbere yuko umwanzuro wubukwe wabonye uruhushya muriki kibazo, noneho ugomba kumenya no kwibuka ko iyi nyandiko ishobora kurangizwa nyuma yubukwe, kandi mugihe icyo aricyo cyose cyubuzima bwawe. Ahari, nyuma yigihe gito nyuma yo kurangiza gushyingirwa, icyizere abashakanye kijyanye na mugenzi wabo bizaba byinshi, ibitekerezo bimwe bizavuga byinshi, ibitekerezo byerekeranye na ". yashyizweho umukono.