Imyambarire yera, indabyo, inkweto agatsinsino n'umuyaga ususuruke ukina n'imyambarire yawe. Umuryango mushya.
Ibyo byose byari byiza cyane kandi bisa nkibiba iteka, ariko nyuma yubukwe burigihe buza, imbarutso kandi nta makimbirane no kutagira abashakanye.
Shira ingingo nimbogamizi cyangwa vuga kandi wige kubana, wumve, wumve, ubabarire, ubabarire, utume ubwumvikane kandi ukore kubusabane?
Kenshi na kenshi ushobora kwirinda gutandukana.
Birakwiye gusobanukirwa no gusesengura ibyo bintu biganisha cyangwa bishobora kuyobora.
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Gutandukana kenshi bibaho mubihe byimibanire yumuryango.
Hariho byinshi muribi bihe.
Uyu niwo mwaka wambere wubuzima bwumuryango, mugihe abashyingiranywe batangiye kumenyana nkabantu nyabo, kandi ntibatangiriye neza ibintu byurukundo.
Nyuma yimyaka itatu, ikibazo gishya kiraza - Iyo umwana agaragaye. Buri wese mu bashakanye atanga mu kindi cyiteze cyane, yumva ari ikibazo.
Nyuma yimyaka irindwi - ikibazo gikurikira. Iyo umwana yagiye mubyiciro wambere agatangira ibibazo byishuri.
Hanyuma, ibibazo bigoye cyane - Imyaka 17-25 yo kubana, iyo abana bakuze bakava mumuryango w'ababyeyi, kandi abashakanye bamaze kwiga kubana.
Umwe wese muri bo atangira kumva ibyo na we atabayeho wenyine, kandi ndashaka cyane kumarana imyaka mirongo iheruka kungukirwa nawe.
Nahamagaye gutandukana, kandi amakimbirane ayo ari yo yose ni amasezerano ateguwe aho uburenganzira n'inshingano by'ababuranyi bidasanzwe.
Iyo urubyiruko ruyoboye ishyingiranwa, bayoborwa no kumva urukundo bakundana, badatekereje niba bahuriranya cyangwa badafite agaciro kabo gakomeye nibimenyetso byingenzi.
Igice kinini cyo gutandukana kijyanye no kutafungirwa nindangagaciro zubuzima. Iyo umwana agaragaye, abashakanye bafite ibibazo bazamuharira nijoro, uburyo bwo gukoresha iminsi mikuru yabo bazamukorera amasomo.
Ikibazo cyihariye numubare wabana mumuryango: Birakunze kubaho ko ibitekerezo byabashakanye kuri iki kibazo nabyo. Kandi ikibazo cyingenzi kijyanye no kwizerana no kugenzura, mubisanzwe kibura nubukwe.
Niba ibi bibazo byinshi byafatwaga nk'abashakanye mbere y'ubukwe, ntushobora gushidikanya: Gutandukana byaba bito cyane, kandi imiryango muri rusange yaba mahoro kandi yishimye cyane.
Nari mfite umukiriya ufite umugabo ufite nyirabuja imyaka 15 mubuzima bwubukwe.
Nubwo bari bafite umubano mwiza. Byari uguhungabana no guhangayika cyane.
Icyo gihe, umuhungu wabo yari amaze kugenda ku ishuri, ubuzima bwasuzuguwe kandi ibintu byose mubuzima byari gutuza.
Ku kibazo, akunda umugabo we, yatutse yitaba ati "Imyaka 15 irangiye hamwe."
Yego, hano ni ikibazo. Umuhungu yarakuze, hari igihe wenyine n'ubuzima bwe bwite, ariko oya.
Kenshi rero bibaho, babanaga imyaka 15-20 bamenya ko ntakintu kibizi. Imwe ibuze ubushyuhe, nundi. Ongeraho ibikomere byabana kandi amaherezo, ntuzumva, kuko bavuga mu ndimi zitandukanye zurukundo. Umugabo wanjye akeneye gukorakora ku bukundwa, kandi Marina ubwayo arabitaho.
Yahaye umugabo we, amugaburira, akubita imyenda ye, akubise inzu, ategereza nk'indi avuye ku mugabo we, ategereza guhobera, gukoraho no kuganira ku rukundo. Kandi ntiyambwiye kandi aramwirukana, yatekerezaga ko ari ibiganiro byubusa.
Iyo uzi uburenganzira bworoshye, urashobora kubona uburinganire no guha mugenzi wawe urukundo mugenzi wawe ashobora kubara no kumva. Niba kandi ukomeje gukora ibintu byababyeyi nabana bakomeretse, noneho uzabaho rwose kandi wishimye!
Umuryango urashobora kubikwa mugihe ugaragaza impamvu n'umurimo ku gihe.