Guhemukira umugabo ntabwo ari ubuhemu gusa. Kurutonde rukurikira, haribintu bitandukanye byibibazo byumubano wabagabo nabagore, ariko byose birashobora gusobanurwa mu ijambo rimwe - ubuhemu. Niba ingingo imwe cyangwa nyinshi kurutonde rukwiranye no gusobanura ibibazo mumibanire yawe, igisubizo cyiza kizaba byibuze kuganira nabi na mugenzi wawe. Urutonde ruri kuri psychologuesitiste Galina Yanko.
Galina Yanko
Ubucuti hagati ya Flomers
Umubano wa Platonike, witwa Ubucuti, ntushobora kubamo ibihe byiza cyane. Itumanaho nikintu gisanzwe rwose, ariko inkombe iremewe? Ibiganiro nijoro, ibyumba byo kuganiriraho, nubwo nta mibanire yimbitse hagati yinshuti kandi ntabwo basangiye uburiri, inshuti numukunzi barashobora gusangira amabanga yumuryango, muganire ku buzima bwawe, harimo n'ibikorwa byawe. Iyo agamije amabanga hamwe na bagenzi be - biri murutonde rwibintu, ariko ikibazo cyiza gishobora kuvuka mumutwe wawe: "Kuki undi mugore bamwe bazira kumenya ibihe byimbitse hamwe numuntu wanjye?" Umubano wa gicuti ntugomba kukutera ubwoba, ariko gutangaza amakuru yihariye no kwita cyane kumugore wundi kubwawe ni ishusho idashimishije.
Ibinyoma
Ibinyoma birashobora gusenya umubano uwo ariwo wose. Amabanga, udasanzwe, ndetse no kubeshya agakiza - ibi byose byangiza umubano utaryarya hagati yabantu. Umurava - Niki kigomba kuba hagati yabantu, urukundo rwahujwe cyangwa ubucuti. Bitinde bitebuke, ikinyoma kizaba impamo, nubwo ibyo bitabaye, ibyago ni binini cyane. Iyo ibanga ryose rizahinduka urwasaya, umukunzi washutswe azababara, abahomuwe. Niba ubonye ko umugabo ashishikajwe n'ibinyoma bidakira, birashoboka ko akeneye ubufasha n'inkunga yawe, n'ibinyoma bihoraho, ibikomere bya buri gihe, ibikomere bya abana, ibikomere by'abana, kubura kwitabwaho cyangwa igihano kenshi. Ahari nkumwana, byabaye ngombwa ko atanga agaciro.
Ibinyoma birashobora gusenya umubano uwo ariwo wose
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Konte y'ubucuti
Wibuke igihe twari duto, abana bamwe bahujwe mu ihuriro maze batangira kuba inshuti zo kurwanya abandi. Umuntu rero udashobora kwemeranya numufatanyabikorwa cyangwa yerekana gusa ko gusobanukirwa neza hamwe no kubaha ibibandi, bitangira gushaka inkunga mubandi. Umugabo arashobora gutangira gushaka abantu bahuje ibitekerezo mumuryango we ninshuti. Bibaho ko bitera imbere mu bitero bihoraho, kandi bahiruka basuka nta gitambo n'ikirego cya litiro, n'uwahohotewe, nta hantu na hamwe gushaka inkunga. Mu bihe nk'ibi, birakenewe kwirwanaho, no gusuzuma urwego rwo kugandukira, niba umugabo yakugiriye umwe mu bagize umuryango we. Umugabo wa hafi, cyane cyane umugabo, agomba kuguha inkunga, ugomba kumva ufite umutekano ukaje kuri we, kwishora mubitekerezo. Erega iyo myitwarire yumuntu ibeshya rwose, kandi urugero rwiza ruzaba abana bato kandi bakunze kubwira ababyeyi imyitwarire mibi yinshuti hamwe nabanyeshuri mwigana kugirango babone neza mumaso yabo no ku bapakiye.
Manipulation hamwe n'umuryango, inshuti n'amafaranga
Muri ubwo buryo ubwo aribwo bwose, hariho uni kwigaragaza muri kimwe cyangwa ikindigaragaza, biragoye rwose kubikora. Ntabwo buri gihe ari bubi niba abantu batagerageza gukoresha ibintu bikomeye mugihe manipulation ihinduka iterabwoba. Abashakanye nabafatanyabikorwa basanzwe, umubano wa hafi usangana amakimbirane ashingiye ku ntego. Kwiyongera kumarangamutima nyuma kandi mugihe cyo gutongana gake bizana kunyurwa nabandi bitabiriye amahugurwa, nubwo bidasanzwe bibaho. Mubisanzwe iyi ni inyandiko aho umugore atangira kurira, akusanya ibintu, cyangwa umugabo avuza induru n'amababi - ibyo bikorwa byose nabyo birakoreshwa. Guhemukira birashobora gufatwa nkubujurire bwabagome. Kurugero, kubera ko wanze kumvira ubushake bwe, umugabo akoresha inshuti cyangwa umuryango nkumuvuduko wigitutu. Hariho ibintu, byanze bikunze, ntibishobora gukoreshwa.
Umubare munini w'amabanga
Bibaho ko uzamenya amakuru yingenzi, muburyo bumwe cyangwa ubundi bifitanye isano numugabo we, kandi ubaze ikibazo cyimpamvu ntacyo yakubwiye? Amabanga ni meza, bafite umuntu wese. ICYO Ubwira Umukunzi, ntuzigera ubwira umugabo we cyangwa umusore. Hariho itandukaniro riri hagati yo kwanga gufungura (ni ubuhe bwoko bw'urukundo dushobora kuvuga?) N'ikibazo gisanzwe cy'amakuru aboneka. Ibuka icyifuzo cyo kwizerana nkishingiro ryubwumvikane mumuryango.