Oimira masukulu osiyanasiyana amisala ndi njira zotembenukira mobwerezabwereza, koma motsimikiza: Mabungwe atatu amakhala mwa ife, magawo athu. Tikulankhula za mwana, kholo ndi wamkulu. Amati munthu wosangalala ndi amene ali ku Lada ndi magawo ake onse atatu, kuposa ena onse omwe ali ndi wamkulu. Koma, monga momwe amachitidwe amasonyezera, ngakhale anthu odekha komanso ogwirizana chifukwa cha izi siophweka. Ndiye bwanji kuti mudzidzike mwa inu "anzeru"? Mudzathandiza kukonza.
Kuyambitsa ndi liwu limodzi lodziwika bwino ": Kutengera mapangidwe onse - Latin Irium, ndiye kuti," chiyambi ". Ndi za chiyambi - magawo atsopano a moyo - ndipo tidzakambirana m'zinthu za lero. "Kodi chinsinsi kapena vuto pano chingakhale chiyani?" - Mukufunsa. Zowona, chifukwa tonse tikudziwa magawo awa: Anabadwa, anaphunzira, kukwatiwa, mwana wake wamwamuna anabereka, wokalamba, anamwalira. Aliyense akukumana ndi kusintha kuchokera ku gawo limodzi kupita lina, kulimbana ndi kuchita ...
Kalanga ine, koma izi sizikhala choncho nthawi zonse. Ena mwa ife timakakamiza banja kwa nthawi yayitali, osaphunzira kukhala ndi udindo. Ena amagwera m'mayendedwe ena komanso mwa makolo akufuna kuwongolera aliyense wa iwo omwe (ndipo koposa zonse - ndi za wina!) Kuchita zinthu mofatsa (osadandaula, chifukwa kuzindikira kuzindikira komwe muli Osati Mulungu, ndipo sungani chilichonse cholamulirika kuti zisatuluke). Sitikukula m'njira yeniyeni, njira zathu zonse zotsala "mtsikana", "mayi" kapena "abambo" kapena "Mwana". Pofuna kukhala nthawi zina ndi mabungwewa, palibe cholakwika. Ingokumbukirani zomwe mungakhale ndi moyo ndikupanga tsogolo lanu, kupanga chisankho, kulakwitsa, zindikirani izi ndikupita patsogolo ndi gawo lokhalokha lanu. Popanda kuzifufuza, mukuba mipata yambiri ndikunyalanyaza kuthekera kwanu kwakukulu. Koma kunena kuti: "Mowa! - Yosavuta, koma kuti isakhale yophweka. Kuno kwa thandizo ndikubwera kumayambiriro kwakukulu, ndiye kuti, njira ya munthu amene ali ndi gawo latsopano.
Imani patsogolo panga ...
Zomwe tikuganiza masiku ano zikuwoneka kwa nthawi yoyamba, agogo athu komanso agogo athu amamwa zomwe amatchedwa, mkaka wa amayi. Kenako anayambitsa, kenako anayambitsa. Choyamba komanso chofunikira kwambiri mwambowu unali ubatizo (ndipo koyambirira - mawu achipembedzo china chokhacho): kotero ndi mwana wobadwa yekha kuchokera kwa munthu wonenedwayo, kusintha komwe munthuyu ku bungwe latsopano adayikidwa .
Anthu ena ali moyo wawo wonse ndikukhalabe pakati pa ana
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Tili ndi chidziwitso chokhudza ana mwa achinyamata, kenako akuluakulu. Izi zikuwoneka kuti zimapindidwa zonse zomwe tikudziwa. Ingokumbukirani kuti: "Namserela", "Tsarella-Clog" ... "Chule" ... Nthawi zina amayesa mwankhanza, amalankhula bwino kwambiri ndiubwana wawo kuti abwerere mosiyana - munthu wamkulu wokhala ndi ma bonasi onse chifukwa cha banja losangalala). Ma bonasi awa amabwera kwa iwo movuta kwambiri, osati chifukwa chabwera nthawi ndipo ngwazi zakwaniritsa kuchuluka kwa zaka. Zimachitikanso kuti ena mwa omwe amangotilenga satha, ndipo, tsoka, sangathe kukhalanso patsogolo (uku ndi kufa kwa chipale chofewa ".
Zomwe tiwerenga za m'mabuku zidachitidwa ndi makolo athu pazowona zenizeni, komanso magulu ena tsopano tsopano. Ngakhale chitukuko chamakono chimapereka nzika zake zokulirapo ndikuwapatsa mphamvu kuti azivota, mafuko aku Africa ndi aku America amayambitsa ana awo mothandizidwa ndi achilendo ndipo pafupifupi nthawi zonse. Amakhulupilira kuti, kuthana ndi mantha ndi zowawa, mwana amayenda mokwanira, "kupha" moyo wopanda thandizo ndikupereka chiyambi cha moyo watsopano, wachikulire.
Komabe, sikuti miyambo yonse yosinthira kuchokera ku maudindo kukhala osasangalatsa ndi yopweteka. Chifukwa chake, tikudziwa miyambo ya Indiot ya Idiot (Kusintha kwa atsikana kukhala momwe atsikana amakhalira) ndi Kalita (zoyambitsa anyamata mwa anyamata) ogawana.
"Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake, koma pambuyo mabatani nanu ndikumva mkazi weniweni!" - mwanjira ina adanena kuti kampani yathu arosya. Amataya amayi, kunakulira ndi bambo wachikondi, koma zinali zabwino kwambiri kwa upangiri wina wachikazi ndipo motero nthawi zonse amayankha kuitana kuti asonkhane. Misonkhano yathu sinasiyane ndi atsikana wamba okhala ndi atsikana achiwerewere: miseche, vinyo wocheperako, ndikuwona nthabwala kutsogolo kwa chinsalu, munthu wina anakoka ziganizo, kenako nkugona kapena kusokonekera kunyumba. M'mawu, palibe zachilendo - koma pa "osafotokozedwa" Naus, omwe adalandidwa mwayi wokhala ndi amayi ake ndi abwenzi ake, amawuma amapezeka magawo a psythetherapist. Izi ndizomveka, chifukwa sizinamveke "kutanthauzika" ndi nkhani yoti Masasi adakula ana awiri, momwe iwo ndi mwamuna wake sankawasamalira. Misonkhano ndi atsikana pang'onopang'ono inamuthandiza "kucha" ku maudindo "amayi" ndi "mkazi."
Akatswiri azamiziro ali ndi chidaliro kuti: Lero, zomwe zikubwera zogonana ndipo ngakhale kubadwa kwa ana sizimangotanthauzira "kumatanthauzira" munthu watsopano. Zingamveke kuti: Simulinso mwana, koma mwamuna wanga (ndipo nthawi zambiri muli ndi mkazi ndi mwana, koma kuzindikira, kutenga ndikukula - mosiyana kwathunthu. Sosaitionani, kupulumuka mwamphamvu kwa "zotsalira za m'mbuyomu" ndi miyambo yake ndi miyambo, ikusowa miyambo ndi miyambo. Kupatula apo, kuwonjezera pa tanthauzo lamatsenga komanso lopatulika, lomwe aliyense ali ndi ufulu wopirira kapena sapereka mwambo, amakhala ndi mwayi wina ... kungokonzekera kusintha kwakukulu.
Zikuwoneka kuti zikukonzekera bwino ndipo ndiye chinthu chachikulu munjira yofunikayi. "Mukudziwa, sindinakonzeka kukhala bambo anga konse!" - Oleg adadandaula za ine mwanjira ina. Ndili ndi mkazi wake, amafuna mwana kwa nthawi yayitali, kuyesedwa, anathamangitsidwa kudzera mwa madothi, amawerenga mabuku ambiri. Koma Oleg sanachitike mu nkhaniyi pankhaniyi. Pambuyo pake iye adalankhula za izi: "Ine sindimadziwa zomwe ana awa ali. Sindinamupatse mwana m'manja. Sanathandize munthu ndi ana. Ngakhale ana agalu ndi ana sanasamale! Kholo litachitika, ndinadzifunsa ku Terra inragnita m'maso otsekeka, ndipo izi zikutanthauza ngakhale kuti zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka. " Ndipo Oleg, mwatsoka, sakanatha kuyankhula za amayi ndi abambo ake, chifukwa amasiye oyamba.
Ngakhale kupezeka kwa ukwati ndi ana sikutanthauza kuti. Kuti "dorosli" ku udindo wa kholo
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Nthawi zambiri zimachitika ndi makolo amoyo. Chifukwa cha zovuta pakulankhulana ndi mbadwo wa "abambo" komanso popanda kukhazikitsidwa kwapadera, anyamata ndi atsikana ndi atsikana amasunthira modzidzimutsa, osazindikira kuti akhala kusintha kwa moyo. Mwamwayi, maudindo ena omwe adatenga gulu lonse: Timalankhula ku Kindergarten ndikupita kusukulu, ndiye kuti kuyitana kotsiriza kukunenedwa, tikalowa ku yunivesite, kenako kuti tigwire ntchito. Koma nthawi zina njira zakulima sizingafanane ndi njira zokomera anthu, kenako wophunzira dzulo amapita ku mtundu wa "Wophunzira Wamuyaya" komanso osatchula mphindi ya Tth. Tiyeni tiwone momwe ndi momwe mungadzithandizire kupita ku New.
Winawake wamphamvu komanso wamkulu
Wamkulu - ndani ali kwa inu? Nthawi yomweyo ndimangoganiza za munthu wamphamvu kwambiri, wamphamvu komanso wamphamvu, wabwino, wamphamvu komanso wolimba. Vomerezani, ndibwino munthu akatetezedwa ndipo amachita. Ndipo tsoka lotereli! Koma muyenera kuvomereza: Posakhalitsa, wamkulu wathu wamkulu komanso wanzeru kwambiri (makolo nthawi zambiri amakhala pantchito imeneyi) amasiya kuchita zinthu. Ndipo kenako kutembenukira kwathu kumachitika kutenga udindowu. Ndiwoyambitsa moyo wawo ndipo umakhala ndi chidwi chokulira. Mwana wathu wamkati samaganizira za izi konse, udindo wake ndi kufotokoza zokhumba zathu ndi maloto athu, sangalala komanso kudabwitsidwa. Koma kholo la moyo wathu silili ponena za yankho kwa iye; Amayang'ana kuti aziwongolera, kutsogolera ndi kuyang'anira ena. Kungokulira kwenikweni kumatha kukonzekera popanda sewero komanso nkhawa komanso kuvomera zotsatira za zomwe adachita.
Ndinkawoneka kuti ndi ine kuti ndimakhala chimodzimodzi "wamkulu"! Ndili ndi ntchito zambiri, ntchito zambiri zatsiku ndi tsiku. Ndipo posachedwapa, ndidazindikira kuti "ntchito zanga zonse ndizochita za abale anga ndi okondedwa anga omwe amafunikira thandizo langa. Ichi ndi nkhani wamba: Nthawi zambiri anthu odalirika komanso omwe adawagwira ndi abwino "makolo." Amateteza ndi kupanga, kuteteza ndi kutsogolera aliyense, kupatula okha. Zotsatira za nkhaniyi ndi imodzi: posachedwa kapena muli ndi mphamvu, ndipo moyo wanu udzakhala wopanda nkhawa zokhudza oyandikana nawo. Komwe munthawi ngati izi popanda sewero komanso nkhawa!
Pali zitsanzo zina. Mnzanga a Christina ndiwowoneka wa mwana mthupi la mayi wamkulu (ngakhale anali ana atatu). Malinga ndi Christina, aliyense akuyenera kumuthandiza, chifukwa ndi mayi wopanda mayi, ndipo ngakhale atatu! Ngati thandizo silikukhala, ndiye kuti malo akewa onse omwe sangalankhulidwe, amakhala ndi vuto lake. Aliyense amakakamizidwa kulowa maudindo ake, mvetsetsani, kukhululuka, letsani.
Ine ndi Christina - oimira awiri owala osati fuko lokhwima, lomwe limafunikira kupita ku "wamkulu". Komanso mu zaka komanso zaka, komanso pazachikhalidwe zakunja (ana, amphaka, amuna ndi moyo wina). Ndipo monga ife, masauzande. Ndiye mudzakhala bwanji?
Choyamba, zindikirani momwe muliri ndi chikhalidwe chenicheni. Mutha kukhala bambo wamkulu yemwe sanakhale munthu, mkazi wochepera zaka makumi asanu akuyesera kuti athetse chikondwerero cha anthu ena, mnyamata wachichepere, mtsogolo womwe ndi dziko latsopano lodabwitsa. Chinthu chimodzi ndichofunikira: Mumamvetsetsa kuti pazifukwa zina simudzabweza msonkho ndi moyo wanu.
Gawo lotsatira ndikumvetsetsa kuti popanda zochita zina sizichitika kwa omwe akufuna kukula. Ndiye chifukwa chake pamakhalidwe achikhalidwe kuyambitsa kumachitika chifukwa cha kupweteka kwakuthupi. Chifukwa chake makolo amateteza ana awo ku zowawa zauzimu, kukonzekeretsa moyo wosiyana. Mukukumbukira zomwe nthawi zambiri zimatipanga kukhala amphamvu? Zowona zomwe pafupifupi zidatiphwanya kamodzi. Sindikukulimbikitsani kuti mutembenukire mwachangu miyambo yamagazi, koma ndimasamala: kukhala wamkulu, ndikofunikira kuti mumve bwino mpaka ubwana, ndipo nthawi zina sizingokhala zachisoni komanso zovuta, koma zimavulaza.
Choyamba, ndikofunikira kusiya kuwaimba mlandu anthu ena momwemo. Inde, zimachitika kuti malo omwe amakhala kuti amakhala kuti akupambana. Koma osatsimikiza kuti apanga nkhani yanu! Yesere kusankha tsiku lililonse. Lolani kuti zikhale zazing'ono kwathunthu, zopanda tanthauzo (poyang'ana): kusankha zovala, njira, njira, chakudya chamadzulo, chomwe chimakonzekera kugona. Phunzirani kuti musapange chisankho, komanso kuvomereza zotsatira zake, kumvetsetsa zoopsa zake.
Yesani kugwiritsa ntchito kudziyimira pazachuma. Ichi ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri pakukula. Kukonzekera bajeti, moyo, popanda zoundula ndi ngongole zomwe simungathe kutseka - chizindikiro cha umunthu wokhwima.
Phunzirani kudziwerengera nokha, ngakhale osawopa kupempha thandizo. Nthawi yomweyo, nthawi yomweyo timasiya chithunzi cha Superchel: chabwino kwambiri kuti mukudziwa bwino zomwe mungathane ndi vuto lililonse, koma mumamvetsetsa nthawi iliyonse, koma mumamvetsetsa momwe mungathere ndipo muyenera kutcha anzanu ndi okondedwa, ndipo musazengereze kuzichita .
Pomaliza, ikani zokonda zanu pa chaputala. Pakadali pano pali mfundo ziwiri zofunika kwambiri zomwe ziyenera kuvomerezedwa. Choyamba, zokonda zanu zizikutumikiranini. Ngati mungatumize "makolo awa kapena mnzanu, gawo lanu" la ana ndilothandiza. Kachiwiri, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa zoyenera kuchita, kwambiri (!) Ndizovuta. Zimalepheretsa malingaliro komanso kudziimba mlandu, tikatitsatira zidendene ndi zomvekera kwa anthu omwe ali mu "makolo". Kuti muphunzire, muyenera kuchita. Pali mwayi wochita momwe mukufuna? Osaganiza!
Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambira zamphamvu zimawerengedwa ... tsitsi!
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Musanadumphe
Ndipo chiwonetsero chotani? Kodi ali ndi chiyani pano? Molunjika Direct: Chidziwikire ndi nkhani yokhudza maphunziro, za kudzikundikira ndi kupeza mphamvu, pofuna kumupeza mphamvu ndi moyo wake. Mwachidziwikire, mutatha kukhala ndi mphamvu, ndi mphamvu, kukhala akulu - nkhani yokhayo ya nthawi.
Zowonadi, zolankhula tsopano sizikuyenda pamakhalidwe amatsenga, zomwe, m'malingaliro a makolo, zikadakhala zochititsa thupi kuti mutembenuze mnyamatayo mwa mwamuna, koma mtsikana mwa mkazi. Koma popanda iwo osiyidwa sangathe kuchita. Ndikofunikira kusankha zomwe zingakuthandizeni. Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambira zamphamvu zimawerengedwa ... tsitsi! Inde, inde, ulendo wamba wopita kumeta tsitsi. Kodi simunazindikire kuti tsitsi latsopano limakupatsani kudzimva nokha nokha, kupereka mwayi ndi zokhumba zatsopano? Mphamvu ya ntchito ya "miyambo" iyi ndi yosavuta: Mumakhululukidwa kale, kudula ndi kusafunikira, komwe kwakhalako ku zomwe sizinakonzekepo kale. tsogolo lanu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kwambiri kumvetsera zokhumba za ana ndi achinyamata omwe amafunayesa kuyesa: chifukwa kusakhala njira zina zachikhalidwe kuti apite ku mtundu watsopano wa chithunzi - ntchito.
Zina "zamatsenga", komanso zomwe zimakhazikitsidwa komanso zomveka ndizofunikira "kuyeretsa". Kumbukirani kuchuluka kwa makolo athu omwe adagulitsidwako kusamba. Pano ali ndi pakati pa ana ndikubereka, adakonzera zochitika zonse zofunika, kaya unali ukwati kapena maliro a abale. Kodi mwakhala mukusamba mpaka liti, mu sauna, inde, tangolemba m'bafa, koma kuti palibe amene amakusokonezani? Konzani tsiku lotere.
Misonkhano yofunika ndi anthu okonda anthu ngati anthu. Bachelides omwe atchulidwa kale ali ndi achire zotsatira. Mukukhala m'malo abwino, pafupi ndi iwo omwe okonzeka kuthandiza ndi kumvetsera, "mupitabe" ndikumva kukongola kwa mphindi - ndipo zimawoneka kuti misonkhanoyi imapereka mphamvu.
Pomaliza, kwa iwo omwe akufuna kuyambiranso, ndi abwino komanso owopsa (Inde, kumbukirani chitetezo!). Msungwana wanga wa kuwala mwanjira ina adayesa bunji-kudumpha. Uku ndikulumpha pansi kuchokera kutalika kwambiri pa chingwe cha mphira, ndikudumphira kunja. Svetlana adanena kuti inali njira yodzifunira komanso yolondola kwambiri m'moyo wake. Poyesa zoopsa zonse, zomwe zatsalira mokha ndi mantha, adatha kuyambitsa ngati munthu wamkulu, ndipo adasiya mwana wosadulidwa kumbuyo kwake.
M'malo mwake, sikofunikira kuti mwambo wokuyambitsike ukhale. Nthawi zina pamene miyambo idayendetsedwa ndikumukhudza aliyense, ndipo tsopano titha kusankha zomwe zili zoyenera kwa ife. Phwando laukwati paphwando? Maphunziro a Abambo Achinyamata? Tchuthi m'mudzi wopanda mafoni ndi laputopu? Kupita ku tibet? Malumbiro opanda phokoso kapena kukonza manja anu? Chinthu chachikulu ndichakuti njira yomwe mwakupangirani kwa inu - mwamphamvu, wamphamvu komanso wokhoza kugwiritsa ntchito moyo wanu.
Dzithandizeni Inu - Bwanji?
Tiyeni tiwone gawo lanu lomwe limafunikira chisamaliro ndi chikondi. Tikavomera tokha kuti tili ndi wina woti ateteze, wamkulu akufunika kwambiri.
Yang'anirani tanthauzo la kamvekedwe kanu kalankhulidwe ... ndi iwo eni. Kumbukirani chiyani komanso momwe mumadzinenera nokha pakakhala kulephera. Onse khumi ndi awiriwo akuti adzinenera, mwachikondi ndi kutsutsa. Musalole malingaliro oterowo kwa inu (ngakhale kuchokera kwa inu!). Khalani odekha komanso ofewa.
Atadziletsa, siyani kuchitira ena ndi ena. Kusaka kwa olakwa - chizindikiro cha munthu wosakhwima, womwe ukufuna kusintha gawo laudindo wake kwa wina. Chowonadicho sichidadziwike: ngakhale mutapeza "villar", sizingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi ntchitoyo.
1. mwana . M'masukulu osiyanasiyana ndi njira zosiyanasiyana, m'njira zosiyanasiyana, iyi ndi gawo lanu lomwe limapangitsa kulota, ndikukhumba, sangalalani ndi kutsutsa. Gawo la ana limatsogozedwa ndi mneni "ndikufuna." Muzikhutiritsa "kufuna" kwa mwana wamkati.
2. Kholo. Mitundu ya makolo mwa ife ndi yosiyana - onse okhwimitsa zinthu, amatsutsa, amawongolera mwankhanza kukhudzika kwa ana athu, ndi anzeru, kulandira, kuthandizidwa. Mneni wa kholo ndilofunikira. "
3. wamkulu. Pomaliza, amene amayang'anira ubale wa ana athu amkati ndi makolo ndikupanga ndi kugwiritsa ntchito, amadziyesa mphamvu ndi kusanthula - wamkulu wa mkati. Mneni wake ndi "ndingathe": Monga akulu, tikudziwa bwino zomwe angathe, ndipo kuchokera kwa zomwe zili bwino kukana.