Funso loti ndiyanjane ndi chibwenzi popanda maubwenzi okhazikika komanso oyenera, nthawi zonse anali kuda nkhawa za amuna ndi akazi anu. Komabe, azimayi ndi abambo ayandikira izi ndi osiyana. Chifukwa chake, nthawi zambiri kusankha kumeneku kulumikizana ndi chinthu chofutira ndi oimira pansi osayatsa. Tiyeni tiyesetse kudziwa zomwe vutoli limanama?
Choyamba, ndikufuna kukumbukira nkhani zomveka "zakuti" kugonana mumzinda waukulu ". Ngwazi zinayi ndi njira zinayi zosiyana ndi moyo komanso kugonana. Chimodzi mwa ngwazi zowala ndi Samantha, yemwe amakhala pamfundo ya "palibe amene ndikumufuna, ndimangofuna." Kumbali yonse yonse ya pa TV, moyo wake umawonetsedwa bwino. Amakhala pa colil yathunthu, imamanga ntchito, imalandira bwino ndipo imatha kukomoka pabedi laphokoso mumzinda. Zingakhale zopanda moyo, koma loto. Koma kodi ndizotheka zenizeni?
Katswiri wazamisala Alena Alena al-Ase amakhulupirira kuti kugonana popanda kudzipereka m'moyo wa mkazi kuyenera kupezeka nthawi zina
Ngakhale lero, ngakhale kuti ndi ufulu wonse wogonanapo, womwe uli ndi munthu aliyense wachikulire, anthu sakhala wokonzeka kulola mwayi womwewo kwa abambo ndi amayi. Zinatilola kuthana ndi ndege, mabungwe apadziko lonse lapansi ndipo pafupifupi mayanjano onse, koma akupitilizabe kukhala ndi zibwenzi zina. Chifukwa chake, mzimayi wa mu ubale wamtunduwu amakumana ndi zovuta zina. Mwachitsanzo, pamene kugonana popanda kudzipereka kumapereka munthu, kumadziwika bwino ndipo enanso amalandila, amati, ndibwino kuti munthu achenjeza za kusakhalako pasadakhale. Koma mkazi akangokana kugonana popanda udindo, mafunso nthawi yomweyo: "Kodi ndizotheka?", Kodi sizabwino? " Ndi mfundo yoti ngakhale mankhwala atsimikiziridwa kuti mbalame zakumwa sizikhala zothandiza pazaka zonse zimangowonjezera, ndipo pambuyo pake pambuyo pake imangomaliza kuyandikira pachimake.
Chomwecho ndikuti malingaliro oterewa monga "khalidwe", "chikhalidwe", tidalumikizanabe ndi mkazi. Panali pulogalamu yachikhalidwe pagulu, ili kuti mkazi, monga pa "oyang'anira pamtima", imayang'anira "oyera" m'thupi lonse. Izi zimachitika kuchokera ku pulogalamuyi kuti iyenera kukhala yokhulupirika ndi yofatsa, kuti banja lanu lisamusiye, mukhululukire munthu wanu ndikumusamalira. Munjira zambiri kumachokera ku biology. Ntchito ya munthu ndi kukula kwa madera atsopano komanso kufalikira kwa ma genetic awo, ntchito ya mkazi - kutonthoza ndi kukhazikika kwa ana ake. Zonsezi zimayikidwa mwachilengedwe. Amayi ambiri sakonda kugonana popanda chikondi ndi maubale. Nthawi zambiri, kugonana popanda kudzipereka ", timavomereza kokha kukhala chiyembekezo chodzapeza munthu waubwenzi ndi ukwati. Ndipo ngati mungadzipatse nokha kuti mungogonana kokha, komabe, patapita nthawi pang'ono, amamangiriridwa ndikuyamba kukondana. Ichi ndi chofunikira kwambiri. Zidachitika kuti nthawi zambiri timakana kumva zowona.
Ndingalimbikitse kusankha zochita, kudalira zakukhosi kwanu ndi zokhumba zanu, komanso kusaganizira ena. Moyo ndi wanu. Simupanga chilichonse mosaloledwa, choncho mupangire kusankha kwanu. Inemwini, ndikukhulupirira kuti kugonana ndi maubale ndi zosowa zosiyana kwambiri, ngakhale, inde, ayenera kupita limodzi. Koma kugonana popanda chiyanjano ndikotheka chimodzimodzi ndi ubale popanda kugonana (kawirikawiri, komanso amapezeka).
Kugonana popanda chibwenzi m'miyoyo ya mkazi kungakhalepo, koma nthawi zina. Titha kutsutsana kwambiri momwe zingathere pa chitukuko cha chitukuko, koma chizolowezi chathu, monga lamulo, nthawi zonse zimatitsogolera panjira yomwe mukufuna. Chinthu chachikulu ndikudzimvera. Ingofuna kutsindika: Simuyenera kusiya izi chifukwa cha kuopa zomwe wina adzakutsutsani. Sankhani nokha, zomwe zili zabwino kwa inu. Ndine wosangalala.