Poyamba, tangoganizirani chinthu chovuta kwambiri pakupanga zochitika, ndiye zowopsa, bwanji, m'malingaliro anu, zitha kuyesa kuyankhula za kugonana. Zachidziwikire, "zoopsa" izi sizingamveke kwathunthu kwa inu ndi theka lanu, zomwe sichakuthokoza kwa nthano yamkuntho - posachedwa zimabweretsa chiwongola dzanja. Komabe, ngati kukambirana za mitu yapamtima kumabweretsa kugawa - mwina mwina sinali munthu wanu? Kupatula apo, achikondi chenicheni komanso odzipereka kwa inu sadzakusiyirani nokha chifukwa choopa kukambirana pamitu iliyonse. Ngati kulumikizana kwa mitu yogonana kumakhala kowopsa pamavuto onse, kenako yesani kuwona ndi theka lanu lolosera labwino (lolani onse awiri chete). Pachifukwa ichi, penti yapamwamba ngati imeneyi, monga "tango yomaliza ku Paris", "9 ndi theka ya theka" kapena "nzeru zazikulu" ndizoyenera. Kukambirana kwa chiwembu chawo "kwa chiwembu chawo kumakhudza zithunzi zogona zonse, ndipo izi ndizokambirana kwambiri zokhudzana ndi kugonana komwe kumamasulira njira yoyenera paubwenzi wanu. Ndipo tsopano ndikadawoneka kuti wachotsedwa!
Pali njira ina yowononga kuopseza mitu yogonana - uku ndikusinthana kwa maudindo. Ngati simungasankhe zokambirana zotere, koma nthawi zonse zimapangitsa ubale womwe uli mu maubale, yesani kupatsa "brazdes a bolodi" kwa wokondedwa wanu - mwina adzatha kuchita zomwe sindingathe, zomwe zimangopindulitsa ubale wanu. Mwa njira, nthawi zambiri ankangoganiza za zokambiranazi. Chifukwa chake, kulankhulana pankhani zogonana sikukhala cholakwika - komabe, m'maubwenzi pamalingaliro sikokana cholakwika! Ndiwo gawo losatha lodziwana wina ndi mnzake, ndipo zoletsa zina pano zilibe chochita.
Pomaliza, tiyerekeze kuti zokambirana zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndizomwe zimayesedwa. Simukuopa kuti chikondi masana, osati usiku? Simukuopa malingaliro oti musunthire limodzi ndi wokondedwa ndi bedi patebulo kapena kapeti? Usaope ndi kunena "za izi" pogonana, chinthu chachikulu ndichakuti "njira" yokha imabweretsa ndi mbewu zake zonse zopitilira onse awiri, ndipo zoyeserera zilizonse zimangopita kuno.