Mapulogalamu azamaganizidwe ndi njira yofala kwambiri yolankhulirana. M'mabanja momwe adalepheramangira chibwenzi kulumikizana mwachindunji (sindikufuna - kuchita, chonde), kanikizani, zimapangitsa kunyengerera, kutumphuka. Kulankhulana kofananako nthawi zambiri kumayambira mu ubale wa ana achikulire ndi makolo. Ndipo, zachidziwikire, zimayambitsa mavuto.
Nthawi zambiri timazindikira njira yolankhulirana yotere ya makolo omwe ali ndi ana awo achikulire, ngati achifundo. "Ngati simutero, simudzabweranso pa nthawi, simudzathetsa mtsikana uyu - ndidzakhala ndi vuto la mtima, zovuta zidzadumpha." Ndipo ingodumphira, ndipo zowukira zimachitika. Kapena kusamalirana kuti: "Palibe amene akumvetsa, ndikumva bwino, ndikudabwa mawu onsewa, ndimasungulumwa kwambiri (a)", "Ndakuchitira ..."
Kudzimva kuti ndi mlandu ndi njira yoopsa yopangira mwana wamkulu zomwe amafunikira ndi kholo lake. "Ndakupatsani, milungu yolemerayi, yomwe mumadwala, chifukwa simunapite kuntchito, sindinakwatire chifukwa cha inu, ndinayika moyo wanga wonse ... .." Ndipo mndandandawo, zomwe simuchitira amayi anu kapena abambo anu. Okhumudwitsani, osakhala chete ndipo nthawi zina amakuyang'anani ndi kubwezeretsa kosayankhula. Kapena sayang'ana mbali yanu konse, yomwe imadziwikanso ndi ana, ngakhale atakhala akuluakulu.
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Otsutsa omwe anamva m'madio awo, ndipo kufunitsitsa kukonzera chikondi kwa makolo kumafuna kuchita chilichonse kapena zambiri zomwe akufuna. Kuvomerezedwa "Kusakwanira ana abwino" nthawi zambiri kumatha kumveka m'mabanja. Chilichonse chomwe mungachite, nthawi zonse chimakhala choyipa, koma wina ndi wabwino: Mnzakeyo, m'bale wake, ali mchinayi.
Aliyense amamvetsetsa momwe mapapu amagwirira ntchito, koma zinthu zapakati komanso kuwona mtima kumasowa nawo kuti asiye theka la iwo. Ana akuluakulu omwe makolowo amawongola ndi chisoni chifukwa cha "anthu okalamba." Amakumbukira kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe apangika anthu awa kuti akule, perekani maphunziro, kwinanso kwinanso kwinakwake. Nthawi zambiri, kuzindikira kumeneku kumayamba pamene ana awo amabadwa, motero amakhala okonzeka kugonjera machitidwe a makolo awo okalamba. Zimachitika kuti ana achikulire akuwoneka kuti makolo awo ndi angwiro, adachita zonse kotero kuti iye anali wokondwa, ndiye chifukwa chake alibe ufulu wokhala ndi moyo wake.
Ana amene amasintha makolo nthawi zambiri amakhala okhutiritsa, timakhala osatetezeka, amamva kufunika kwa makolo, makamaka chifukwa chovomerezedwa ndi makolo, amadziimba mlandu wokha, kupewa mikangano, kukangana. Nthawi zambiri amasewerera ntchito ya "ozunzidwa".
Njira imodzi yothetsera mikangano ndikumanganso ubale wanu ndi makolo onyenga. Iyi ndiye njira yokhwima kwambiri, koma nthawi yomweyo ndizovuta kwambiri. Anthu ambiri sakhulupirira kuti chibwenzi chomwe adaphatikizidwa kuyambira chifukwa chingalawalire kuti zisinthe.
Kodi mungathetse bwanji vuto la makondo a makolo ndi ana?
Ndi zopondera zomwe mungathe kupirira
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1. Choyamba, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa ndi kuzindikira kuti kupukusa kwa makolo sikuli ndi zoyipa. Amachokera ku maudindo osafunikira, kusiya kusatetezeka m'magulu awo, kuchokera ku chikhumbo chofuna kudziwa zonse. Mapeto ake, chifukwa amayi, mwina, ali mwana, nawonso anayambitsa makolo ake.
2. Kuzindikira kuti amayi ndi munthu, fotokozerani mtundu wa munthu. Kodi mumadziwa chiyani za ubwana wake ndi achinyamata, maubale omwe ali ndi makolo, chifukwa chake adasankha ntchito yake. Zambiri ndizofunikira. Ingoganizirani kuti mututa zinthu zake. Muzimva ngati munthu wamkulu wa makolo awo. Zachidziwikire kuti muli ndi zokumana nazo zambiri, kupatula, mumakongoletsa yankho lokhwima kuti musiye kukhala chinthu chopumira. Yesani kuchitira kholo lanu-fotioter monga dokotala ndi wa wodwala: chabwino, mwamphamvu, moleza mtima. Palibenso chifukwa chofikiridwa, fotokozani, pezani ubalewo. Musanafike pamtanda pakati pa wodwalayo ndi mwana. Musati "kugawa" zoyesera za kholo kuti musangalale ndipo musataye mtima pakuwunika kwa makolo kulowa adilesi yanu.
3. Zitatha izi, muyenera kuyamba kumanga ubale wanu ndi makolo anu. Komabe, pang'onopang'ono kuonjezera mtunda pakati pawo ndi moyo wake wapadera. Musalole makolo kuti mukhale m'malo mwanu, musakhale ndi mwayi wokuwopsezani. Ndikwabwino kudzitcha nokha - osati molingana ndi dongosolo, koma mosayembekezereka.
4. Kumbali ina, makolowo sayenera kukhala ndi malingaliro oti mumawakakamiza mwaukali: onetsani chisamaliro, perekani mphatso zazing'ono, ngati muli ndi mwayi. Mapeto, kodi munthu wamkulu pano ndani - kodi inu kapena makolo? Bzalani makolo Phunziro: Kuchepetsa thupi, kumayendera dziwe, kumvetsera maudindo, amakonda pafupipafupi, nthawi zina mutha kugaya kuphika.