Mawuwa, momveka bwino, mumamva mwa amuna. Ambiri mwa atsikana kusukulu, yunivesite ndi anzawo pantchito yopita ku m'badwo uno ali kale ndi banja, ana. Zithunzi za Gulu Laukwati, mkazi wachinyamata wachimwemwe, masitepe oyamba a makanda sanakhale ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti okha kapena mkazi womwalira.
Ndipo lolani kuti zikhalidwe zatsopano zizichitika zomwe zimayamba, akuti nthawi ino ndikupanga ntchito, kuchita nawo zinthu zambiri, zonse zili pamoyo wawo wonse. Amayi obadwa m'ma 1980s amaphatikizidwa ndi chikhalidwe chosiyana kwathunthu. Kuyambira ndili mwana, pomwe padalibe matchulidwe okakayikitsa, mwana wamkazi wa mayiyo, komanso malingaliro angapo pamutuwu "Santa Barbara". Atsikana a nthawi imeneyo amadziwa kuti ayenera kuyamikila zomwe zili zofunikira kwambiri kuposa ena.
Atafika kumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 18 kokha, azimayi oterewa amafika pamalo otalika kwambiri. Psychology imatcha izi za "misampha ya pawebusayiti." Ndiye kuti, mkaziyo sangakhale wokonzeka kupanga maubale, banja komanso kubadwa kwa ana, koma chimango chake cha anthu omwe timakhala osungulumwa.
Kuopa kukhala mtundu wina wa "wosamala" kuti uthetse nkhaniyi pamtengo uliwonse. Nthawi zambiri imagwira ntchito ngati ntchito yoipa. Ndi alamu yowonjezereka, mzimayi amabwera mu maubale chifukwa choti ndikofunikira "kuyika nkhuni" kuti ali bwino. Kuyesa kulikonse kosafunikira kumakhala kovuta, chifukwa chake kukhudzika kukukulirakulirabe kuti "china chake chalakwika ndi ine", ndipo zonse ndi zatsopano. Chifukwa chake bwalo likutseka.
M'malo mokonzekera komanso kukonzekera moyo wabanja, azimayi amapatutsidwa kuti atsimikizire kuti ndizabwinobwino. Umboni uyu nthawi zambiri amatumizidwa kwa amayi kapena abambo, nthawi zina - othandizana nawo, mabanja omwe adalephera. Komabe, zoyesa izi sizinyamula mtendere ndi kukonzekera kwa moyo wabanja. M'mayesero awa, mayi amakhala kwambiri, watopa, wokhumudwa. Palibe ubale wabwino pano.
Nthawi zambiri kusakhalapo kolimba munjira ya banja kumalungamitsidwa ndi ntchito yabwino ndi kuthengo. Kupatula apo, ndizosatheka kumva kuti wotayika kulikonse. Chifukwa chake, nthawi zambiri mutha kukumana ndi mayi wachichepere yemwe ali ndi ntchito yodabwitsa, nthawi yothandizana ndi kutchuka, koma osalephera kumanga ubale wanu.
Kodi mungazindikire bwanji "neurosis pamutu" pamutuwu? Inde, zosavuta:
- Ngati mukugawana ndi lingaliro lomwe mwakhala kale zaka zambiri, ndipo palibe mabanja ndi ana;
- Ngati mukuwombera ntchito yopambana pamaphwando ndi omaliza maphunziro ndi kumakumana ndikupemphereranso za moyo wanu kuti afunsidwe;
- Ngati mungaphunzire malo pazinthu zopanga;
- Ngati mukukhumudwitsani, kumvera anzanu akukambirana amuna anu kapena ana anu, ndiye kuti zakuchitikirani kale (malinga ndi zaka 25, tiyeni);
- Ngati mwanyengedwa mosamala ndi nkhawa ndi kukhumudwa komwe kalonga wanu sakupangiridwanso ndipo sadzabweranso, mutha kuzindikira bwino matendawa.
Koma mfundoyo siyenera kutchera chidwi ndi zokambirana ndi miseche ya chilengedwe. Ngakhale mutadziphunzitsa kuti musanyalanyaze nthabwala za ukwati, ndiye kuti mwa azimayi omwe amayang'ana kwambiri za banja, kukhumudwitsa ndi nkhawa sizidzapita kulikonse. Mwanjira ina, ndikufuna kupanga banja, koma pamutuwu pali zovuta zambiri, zowawa ndi kukhumudwa, zomwe ndizosavuta kutchera khutu kwa iwonso.
Ambiri mwa azimayi ambiri omwe adapempha pamutuwu ndi othandizira amisala ndi othandizira, adazindikira chifukwa cha ntchito yomwe mutu wabanja komanso maubale amapezeka ". Zinadzipweteka kwambiri, mantha, mkwiyo. Monga lamulo, imapangidwa kuchokera ku mabanja a pulaima omwe azimayi awa adakula. Ataona makolo anu, anazindikira kuti zinali bwino kuposa izi. Kapena sizingagwire kale, ndipo palibe amene adzandilowetsa ndi chikondi cha banja langa.
Gawo ndi sitepe, kuvumbula ulusi wa zakale komanso kukhalapo, kupeza udindo wokhwima, abambo ambiri okwanira amakumanabe ndi mabanja abwino ndikupanga mabanja, kubereka ana. Makamaka chifukwa chakuti adakali pachiwopsezo chovomereza kuti akufunika thandizo kuti athetse vutoli.
Pakadali pano ...
Kwina, sizachikhalidwe kuwerengera zaka za akazi mpaka zaka 30. Pali chidaliro kuti pambuyo pake ndi nthawi yokhawo yomwe imayamba pomwe mwamuna ndi mkazi angaganize kuti akupanga banja, komanso lingaliro la "ubwana" limatha zaka 40. Ndipo umboni wa izi ndi zambiri pakati pa nyenyezi za Hollywood. Mwachitsanzo, Selope Custery wotchuka a Carson adakwatirana ndi zaka 41 zaku Spain, komaliza zaka 40 sanakwatirane. Charlize Theron - wazaka 38, sanakwatirane, koma wochita serress akuwoneka kuti akuyesanso pa Malipoti a Media: Nyenyeziyo yakonzekera kale ukwati ndi Sean Penn. Woimba Shakira adapeza chisangalalo chake chokha ali ndi zaka 33 - ndendende pazaka izi ochita seweroli adayamba kukumana ndi mpira wa mpira wa Gerard, ndipo patapita kanthawi adabala mwana wake. Zowona, banjali silinatsirize ubale wake - shakira amakhulupirira kuti sitampu mu pasipoti ilibe kanthu.
Maria zemykova, wamisala, wothandizira pabanja komanso kutsogolera kwa maphunziri a Center Working Center Marina