Msungwana aliyense atayamba kuwopa funsoli: Bwanji sukukwatirana? Simudzadziwanso kwa amene 'adzafika' nthawi ina ndi chinthu china chomveka chotani. Ndipo wofanana ndi izi, kwinakwake mu kuya kwakuya kwa moyo, wakucha kwambiri komanso wosakhazikika kulungamitsa kwambiri mwa anthu ena. Koma nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kuyankha funsoli ngakhale nokha. Nanga bwanji simunakwatirane?
Zaka 23-28 - nthawi yogwira kwambiri, yofunitsitsa m'moyo ndi anyamata, ndi atsikana. Ndipo ngati wachinyamata panthawiyi ndi wabwinobwino, ntchito yomanga ntchito yogwira ntchito, njira yoyeserera ndi kudzikuza, mtsikana, pa chifukwa chosamveka, ambiri samangoona mayi yemwe ali m'badwo wa obereka. Tonse tingakhale bwino kuzolowera kuti mtsikanayo amene amasankha kuti ntchito yake ndi yachilendo kwa anthu amakono. Kupanga moyo wanu, kudzidalira nokha kuti mukhale ndi chisoni ngakhale kuti munthu ali ndi inu kapena ayi, - chizindikiro cha umunthu wokhwima. Ndipo ili ndi chifukwa chokwanira kuti musakwatire.
Lingaliro linanso lomwe gulu lathu lakhala likugwiritsidwa ntchito kuti: Ukwati - osati kutha kwa mtsikana wamakono. Kupusa kwakukulu kumaganiza kuti zaka 30 mkazi sangakhale wokwatiwa chifukwa choti "palibe amene amatenga." M'malo mwake, ukwati ndi wosudzulana umawonetsa kuti mabanja adalengedwa mwanzeru, ali ndi zaka "pafupifupi 30" ali wakhama, achimwemwe. Kuphatikizanso chifukwa ambiri azaka izi amakwatirana kachiwiri, atapereka zolakwa zakale ndikukhala ndi chidwi chopitilira muyeso komanso zitsanzo za chikondi.
Ndiye yankho lina la funso loti "Chifukwa chiyani simukwatira?" Chifukwa kusungidwa kale. Ndipo imavumbula vuto lina lalikulu pagulu lathu: Achinyamata sadziwa momwe angapangire maubale m'banja. Ngati ukwatiwo umaseweredwa ndi makolo, ngati makolo amapereka nyumba ndi "mkate", zovuta zazikulu zimawoneka pakafunika kuchita zinthu pawokha kapena kupanga yankho lanu. Vinyo pa mabodza ngati awa okhawo omwe angokwatirana kumene, koma, nthawi zambiri, kwa makolo omwe sanathere nthawi yayitali kuti asiye mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi.
Chosangalatsa Chosangalatsa: Anthu omwe akwatirana, amayang'ana pamaso pa anthu kukhala okongola, omwe amapambana mu chikonzero chawo kuposa kusungulumwa, ngakhale ukwati utasokonekera! Ngati muli ndi maphunziro, ntchito, mumawoneka bwino, koma ndinu nokha - ndinu cholakwika. Ngati mutakwatirana ndi kusudzulidwa - muli ndi mwayi pang'ono. Komabe, ndikusudzulidwa, osati mwamuna, ayenera kufanana ndi kulephera kwakukulu m'moyo. Anthu ambiri sangathe kuchira pambuyo pa kulephera kumeneku.
Kodi zonsezi zikutiuza chiyani? Kusungulumwa sikuti ndi sentensi, osati kuzindikira ndipo osalephera. Tengani nthawi yosungulumwa kwanga ndi malingaliro, ndiye kuti mudzakumbukiridwa mukakwatirana.