Tikukhala m'dziko losintha mwachangu, lero lomwe mumasewera dona wachinyamata wosalimba komanso wosatetezeka, ndipo mawa limakhala lolimba komanso lodziyimira pawokha. Mwina, konse m'mbiri ya maudindo a anthu sanasandutsidwe mwachangu mofulumira: M'zaka za zana lapitapita, ufulu wathu ndi maufulu athu, maubwenzi ndi zisangalalo zachikondi zimakonzedwanso. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti ambiri amasokonezeka ndipo samamvetsetsa momwe angachitire kuti asaoneke osayenera komanso opusa.
Steemeypes, Steopatypes, Steopatypes ... Masiku ano, anthu ambiri opita patsogolo ndi omwe anthu ambiri amakhala nawo: Amuna, makolo ndi ana, ogonjera Kupondereza. Koma kwenikweni, palibe cholakwika ndi chithunzi chophatikizira, chifukwa ndi chithunzi chokhazikika cha momwemo. Zimathandiza kuti tiwerenge mwachangu "malo ake" ndi "alendo", osachita ndalama ndi nthawi, ndipo ambiri sakhala choyipa kwambiri.
Ndikofunikira kuzindikira chowonadi: m'malo ochezera, pafupifupi palibe munthu ndi mkazi wa munthu, ngakhale zitakhala zodabwitsa bwanji
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Popita nthawi ndi kusintha kwa chikhalidwe, malingaliro akusintha, mwachilengedwe. Tsopano zifaniziro zathu zonse ndi "zabwino" zimamveka bwino ndikubwezeretsa, ndipo izi ndi zabwino, koma nthawi zambiri zovuta. Zikuwonekeratu kuti iwo omwe sakhudzidwa nawo mayendedwe apamwamba pakusintha kwa Stestotypes, kusokonezeka: zomwe zidawoneka zaka zambiri, ngakhale zaka mazana ambiri, zimakhala zoletsedwa komanso manyazi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati zinali zachilendo kwambiri m'mbuyomu, zimawerengedwa kuti ziyembekezere kuchokera ku Cavaier yolipira ndalama zolumikizira, lero lizionedwa bwino ngati zowoneka bwino. Kodi chitseko - kapena chidzanyoza mkazi amene amaganiza zogonana mokoma mtima? Kodi Babulo Banja ndi? Kodi ipita ku lamulo kapena kufunsa mnzanu za izi? Tiyeni tichite ndi zomwe timakana ndi zomwe timapita.
Ana aakazi a mwana wamwamuna
Chifukwa chake ...
1. Kenako. Tonsefe tabwera ku paradig ya makolo akale: Mwamuna ndi wophunzitsira, woyang'anira. Mtunduwu ndi wokalamba monga dziko lokha, koma liyenera kuvomerezedwa kuti masiku ake akuganiziridwa.
2. Tsopano. Makina osanjikiza ndi kusinthika kwake, miyambo yatsopano ndi malamulo - zomwe tikuwona tsopano. Chifukwa cha izi, ndizotheka kuwona zowonekera zodziwikiratu zakumikirana - mayendedwe achinyengo, omwe Zano amateteza ufulu wawo. Pamodzi nawo, palinso zinthu zofunika zomwe sizikufuna kusintha.
3. Kenako. Kale lero mutha kulingalira momwe mtundu wa akazi umawonekera munthawi ya posachedwa. Ufulu wofanana umamalalikirani ku maudindo ofanana, chifukwa ntchito yankhondo, malo ena akuti "kugonana" ena akhoza kukhala wamba.
Tonsefe tinachokera ku ubwana, ndipo kuli komweko, timatengera mtundu wa machitidwe, zomwe tidzatsatila muukalamba. Gawo lomveka bwino lachikazi ndi wamwamuna likuchitika chakukhalitsa, ngakhale khandalo ndi lalikulu mpaka zaka zitatu zikadalipo, zoseweretsa zamtundu wanji zomwe zili ndi - anyamata kapena wamkazi. Koma abambo ambiri akulefuka, ataphunzira kuti ana awo akusangalala kukhala ndi chidole kapena kukwera chofunda - ndichakuti, atsikana "! "Ndani adzakula ngati asewera kuchokera ku barbie m'malo mwa mpira?" - Abambo ang'onoang'ono, osokoneza komanso amadera nkhawa za tsogolo la mwana wawo. Moletsedwa palibe zoseweretsa kapena zovala zina, komanso kuwonetsedwa kwa malingaliro a anthu ang'onoang'ono. Kufuwula, kukhala owoneka bwino, kukhala oweta - mu liwu, kufotokoza momwe ana amadziwira: ndizosatheka kupatsa atsikana kuti apereke mopitilira, komanso kupitirira.
Imafika komanso pansi yofooka: Kwenikweni, makolo sapangidwa ndi atsikana opanda mphamvu komanso opanda chitetezo, omwe sanamasesedwe mokweza, akufuula kapena kuthamanga kapena kusokoneza dothi. "Ndiwe mtsikana!" - zoletsa zonse ndipo taboos zimakutidwa ndi mawu otumbira. Atsikana sayenera kukangana mpira, kuwombera kuchokera ku Luka, kukamenya - ndipo chifukwa chake ana aakazi amapita ku ballet, nyimbo, nyimbo zolimbitsa thupi. Komanso ana omwe akufuna kuvina, amapatsidwa magawo azigawo.
Wina adzati: Iwo amati, Mthenga amadziwa zambiri. Kalanga ine, koma ayi. Masiku ano, akatswiri azamisala amapendekera ana kuyambira kubadwa - umunthu wa payekha, ndipo ndikofunikira kuphunzira kulemekeza zikhumbo zawo mochedwa. Izi, m'njira yayikulu m'mabuku a psychology - ndikupangitsa, anthu anali kuchita khama kwambiri. Tsopano makolo ochulukirachulukira amasankha khalidwe la demokalase pokhudzana ndi abale awo, kuyesera kusatsatira zofuna zawo, koma zofuna zawo ndi zofuna za mwana.
Nanga bwanji za maudindo a jenda? Kalanga ine, sizabwino kwambiri nazo. Mantha kuti chifukwa cha zidole za pinki kapena zidole, mnyamatayo "wamphamvu kwambiri, wamphamvu kwambiri ngakhale atakhala ndi makolo ndi akazi.
Kuchokera m'malo
Zikuwoneka kuti vuto ndi chiyani? Koma muyenera kuzindikira kuti: m'malo ochezera, pafupifupi amuna ndi akazi omwe adakhalapobe, ngakhale atamveka zodabwitsa bwanji. Osamakana zinthu zakuthupi (zingakhale zopusa komanso zopusa zomwezo ndife ofanana), anthu omwe amapita patsogolo kwambiri akuyesera kukhala ndi chikondi ndi ntchito. Munthu wamakono azidabwitsidwa kwambiri ngati mukukamba za ntchito zachimuna kapena zazikazi kapena ntchito: Aliyense akhoza kuchita zomwe akufuna, komanso osamveka kapena opusa. Ku Finland, kalekale, mayi ndi munthu wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi moyo wandale. Amuna (omwe angaganizire izi?). Mtsikana yemwe amalunjika phwandolo (momwe ma Anderson ochokera ku Finnton sakhala chozizwitsa osati chowonadi chosiyana, osati chosiyana. Amuna amakhala ojambula ojambula bwino, ma stylists - kukumbukira tsitsi la Hollywood Chris mcmillan kapena serzhrhrh.
Chilichonse ndichoncho, koma ngakhale tiribe-ayi, ndipo tikuyang'ana pa lalikulu mpaka mnyamatayo yemwe ali wokonda kwambiri luso la mantidic, kapena mtsikana yemwe amalota. Kuphatikiza apo, tsoka, koma m'maiko akale, nyenyezi zimacheperachepera kuposa amuna, ngakhale kuti azimayiwo amakhala ndi maudindo omwe amakumana nawo monga anzawo.
Mwamuna ndi mkazi wamakono sizofanana, koma zofanana
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Malangizo omwe ali ndi zovuta zambiri akusintha, ndipo izi ndizabwinobwino: simuyenera kuyeserera kukambirana nokha. Kodi Mungakhale Bwanji? Kuti muyesetse kumvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza: Zowona, aliyense ali ndi zosiyana, ndipo munthu wapafupi akhoza kuyang'anitsitsa chabwino, koma zoipa. Ponena za anthu a anthu ena, tengani mosavuta kapena zochepa, koma pamene kufunsa kumaonekera mwa okondedwa - mwa ana, mwa abwenzi, omwe timakhala nawo mwanjira ina. Ndikofunikira kuthana ndi zigawenga zanu zamkati, osayankhidwa ndipo posawonjezera okondedwa ake: m'malingaliro anu, palibe amene angachite, koma kusakhulupirirana pakati panu kudzawonekera.
Pansi mwamphamvu, pansi mofooka ...
Kuchokera pazokambirana zambiri - kuti achite. Tinazindikira kuti tili mkati mwa kusintha kwa dziko lapansi, ndipo zinthu zimasintha zinatitengera ife patokha. Chitsanzo chophweka komanso chololera: Munamangirira mnzanu watsopano wachikondi. Ndipo pali amene alipo mafunso. Ndani adayandikira (adalemba, otchedwa) woyamba? Kodi zimatheka bwanji kuti "kulandiridwa" tsopano? Kupatula apo, anthu abwino, abwino satha kuwonetsa ntchito; Zinangokhala modzichepetsa kuwombera m'maso ndikumwetulira modabwitsa (makamaka mwakachetechete). Tiyeni timwe molimbika komanso kwaluso: chilichonse chomwe mungathe! Palibe amene adzakutsutsani kuti mukweze, ngati mupanga gawo loyamba la loyamba - ngakhale mkhalidwe wanu wowagwira kapena wosagwirizana.
Ndipo tsopano nthawi ndi tsiku. Ndani angasankhe malo? Kumbukirani kuti timakhala ofanana, motero khalani omasuka kukambirana zosankha ndi chotchinga, kupereka malingaliro athu. Chifukwa cha zokambirana, sankhani malangizo omwe mumakonda onse awiri. Funso lolakwika lokhudza akaunti silinapeze yankho limodzi. Zoyenera, muyenera kukambirana "m'mphepete mwa nyanja" - ndiye kuti mupewa kuwawa. Tsatirani lamulo losavuta: werengani nokha ndi ndalama zanu. Sili koyenera kuchiza mnzanu watsopano, komanso kudikirira kuti adzakugulira chakudya chamadzulo, musatero. Simunalumikizidwe ndi Uzami wamphamvu, osadziwa wina ndi mnzake ndalama za wina ndi mnzake. Kupatula apo, simumayembekezera kuti mudzalandiridwa ndi mnzanu amene mudamwa khofi, kapena kukwera kwa mnzake muofesi?
M'tsogolomu, ngati msonkhano wosasinthika udzakula kukhala chinthu chinanso, vuto lachuma liyenera kufotokozedwa mosiyana komanso moyenera. Palibe chilichonse chowopsa komanso chachilendo polankhula pamitu yotere - kuwonjezera apo, zokambirana izi ndizothandiza, zimalimbikitsa chidaliro. Banja lirilonse limakhala lomveka bwino komanso lomasuka kwa iye, chifukwa chake kulibe mayendedwe oyenera ndi mayankho. Kodi mumakonda lingaliro la bajeti yodziwika bwino? Kapenanso ili pafupi komanso kumvetsetsa lingaliro kuti mukhale ndi ndalama zomwe mumataya "ngati kuli kotheka? Mwalandilidwa! Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti onse awiri amagwirizana ndi chipangizocho cha banja.
Ngati mupita tsiku loyamba, osasankha momwe mungakhalire ndi akaunti yomweyo, kulipira! Osadikirira kuti zikondwerero za munthu wosadziwa, ndikuyembekeza iye ndi malingaliro ake pazomwe zili zolondola. Mapeto, iye sakakamizidwa kwa inu.
Ngati malingaliro a wokonda kuzolowera mpaka ufulu wofanana ndi maudindo omwe akukudziwani, osakuchereni, simuyenera kuyembekeza kuti muli ndi mgwirizano wopambana.
Ndikotheka kusintha munthu nthawi imodzi - ndi chikhumbo chotentha komanso chokhazikika. Kupanda kutero, kusiyana kwa malingaliro omwe akutsuka mbale kumatsogolera ku chowombolo.
Mwa njira, amuna amavutika kwambiri ndi zobera, zomwe pafupifupi zidadziwonetsera okha, komabe nthawi ndi nthawi ndikukweza mutu wake. Tikunena, zoona, za chithunzi cha wofera a Dymipothy ndi mzanga, zomwe mwakupatsa banja. Zachidziwikire, mnzake amene amatha "kubisa kumbuyo" ndi zakumbuyo kwake momwe alili pomwe ali ndi moyo, ndiye njira yabwino, koma tinkagwiritsa ntchito mwadala mawu oti "bwenzi". Udindo wopeza ndalama, kapena mabanja sangakhale munthu yekhayo, ndipo palibe chigawenga. Oimira ena a "olimba" (ena), panjira, ndi njira) amalimbana bwino ndi kasamalidwe ka banja. Ndipo ndani, osati mkazi, zaka mazana ambiri omwe ali mnyumba ndi ana, akudziwa mtundu wa ntchito yovuta komanso yofunika! Osasokoneza chipilala cha wokwatirana naye ngati mungapeze zokwanira ndipo sizimayambitsa chisa. Kumbukirani kuti: aliyense amatha kuthana ndi zomwe akumana ndi moyo.
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Ufulu wofanana umayankha maudindo ofanana, chifukwa ntchito yankhondo, malo ena akuti "ogonana" akhoza kukhala ofala
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Mwa njira, za ana. Ku Europe, mwa njira, m'mbuyomu kuposa ku Russia, kufupika kholo kwasintha kale. Kusamalira ana kwatha kukhala ndi pakati pa amayi - kufikira mayiyo atatha kusiya ntchito paulendo wa amayi (pokhapokha ngati muyenera kuyerekezera kungokhalira kukabasa mwachindunji kwa mwamuna wake. M'dziko lathu, njirayi ingaoneke ngati zambiri, kuyika modekha, modabwitsa - moni, stereotypes! Ndipo ngati mwanjira inayake, ngati mwana wakeyo anamvetsetsa bwino kuti pali ntchito zomwe ayenera kuchita, koma mkazi wake ayenera kuchita chiyani?
Kuchokera pano ambiri osudzulana omwe amachitika zaka zitatu zoyambirira "Zauzimu sizingavomereze, amayi omwe angopereka kumene" amapuma "ndi ana, abambo amaphedwa kuntchito, ndipo Madzulo, kubwera kunyumba, kumafuna chakudya chamadzulo ndi bata. M'banja momwe kulekanikirana kwa maudindo ena, ndipo makolowo anali okwatirana, ana amazolowera mtundu wina wa machitidwe - njira zothandizirana ndi thandizo limodzi. Kuwona koyenera kwa mgwirizano kumabweretsa bizinesi wamba, komwe aliyense ali ndi udindo pa aliyense.
Tinkakhala nthawi yovuta komanso yovuta kwambiri komanso yosangalatsa: Timachita nawo gawo la dongosolo ndipo mwanjira ina amatenga nawo mbali pazosangalatsa kusintha maudindo a jenda. Osawopa kapena kutsutsa. Kumbukirani kuti kusintha ndikofunikira kwa moyo, yang'anani pa nzeru, khulupirirani malingaliro ndi zikhumbo zanu. Kupatula apo, ngati mungawatsatire, mudzazunguliridwa ndi omwe akufuna kuti awone m'bwalo lathu loyandikana nawo.