Zikuwoneka kuti dzulo limodzi mwawerenga limodzi m'mabuku, adasaka zaluso mu kindergarten ndikusinthidwa pa Mathinee Chaka Chatsopano. Ndipo masiku ano, mwana wanu wamkazi anamaliza sukulu kusukulu, analowa mu Institute ndipo anapeza ntchito yanthawi yanthawi. Kodi ndi nthawi yoti alowe mu kusambira kwaulere? Ndipo momwe mungazindikire mphindi yomwe mwana wogwira ntchito nthawi yayitali ndi nthawi yoyamba kukhala mosiyana? Alina Dessse amagawana malingaliro ake pankhaniyi komanso njira za chisankho chake.
Chifukwa chiyani mwana samafuna kuchoka?
Nthawi zambiri, mutha kumva momwe zitsanzo za ubale wa makolo ndi ana zimatsogolera ngati chitsanzo cha "moyo woyenera", pomwe, mwana amadziwika kuti ndi achikulire ndipo ayenera kukhalirana. Nthawi zonse zimakhala zosangalatsa kuziwona pa zikondwerero za banja ndipo kumapeto kwa sabata, makolo sasiya kukonda, mwana amangosintha malo okhala, amayamba kumanga zisankho. Koma malingaliro athu achi Russia amasiyana kuchokera kudziko lina. Zidachitika kuti kwa zaka zambiri kukhala ndi makolo, kufika zaka zokhwima komanso ngakhale kuchitira banja lenileni - chabwino. Osati gawo lomaliza mu izi limaseweredwa ndi mtengo wapamwamba wa nyumba, kaya ndi kugula kapena kubwereka. Kuphatikiza apo, katswiri wachichepere amene akuphunzirabe, kapena akangomaliza kumene ku Institute, zimakhala zovuta kupeza ntchito yokhala ndi malipiro apamwamba. Koma momwe mungakhalire munthawi yake, ngati wachinyamata ali ndi mwayi ndipo amalandila mokwanira, motero, angakwanitse kukhala ndi nthawi yomweyo, koma munjira iliyonse amakoka nthawi ino ndipo sakuyenda bwino kuti achoke mnyumba ya makolo? Mvetsetsani chifukwa chake ana safuna kuti achoke pansi pa mapiko ndi amayi ndiosavuta: amakonda kukhala kunyumba. Makamaka ngati banjali lili ndi ubale wabwino, aliyense amakhala ndi chikondi ndi ulemu. "Chifukwa chiyani kusintha zonsezi?" - amaganiza zachinyamata.
Inde, ndipo makolo nthawi zambiri samathamangira kuleka mwana wakhanda. Kuyambira ndili mwana, amapanga mwana ali ndi chidaliro chonse pamatumba ao. Ana samagwiritsa ntchito luso la kudziimira pawokha komanso wodzipereka pabanja. Alibe ntchito zapakhomo, satenga nawo mbali pakupanga zisankho, koma amasangalala ndi zabwino zonse zomwe amapatsa makolo. Kuphatikiza apo, amayi ena achikondi ndi abambo ena nthawi ndi nthawi amaponyedwa m'mandanso a ana aanthu "pa zosangalatsa". Kodi ndikudabwa kuti wachinyamatayo sakufulumira kutseka chitseko pambuyo pake?
Wolemba, wazamisala Alina Dina Dissi
Zipangizo zamagetsi
Kodi zidatenga nthawi liti?
Ndiye nthawi yabwino kwambiri yoyambira kumakhala liti? Alina Disses amakhulupirira kuti mwana aliyense nthawi ino amabwera mu nthawi yake. "Ngakhale akatswiri azamakina otchuka padziko lonse lapansi sangaganize za malingaliro wamba. Ndikofunikira kuthana ndi vutoli limodzi, makolo ndi mwana. Ngati mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi sangasankhe, tengani yankho, osathamangira. M'malo mwake, thandizani chitani izi ndi zotayika zochepa, chifukwa mu mphamvu yanu kuti mupange zofunikira zonse izi: kuchuluka kwa mgwirizano, nyumba yokhayo, nyumba yomwe ili mtsogolo, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo osasiyitsa vutolo, musawopseze mwanayo ndi "strashilki" zakula. Alina anati: "Vomerezani kuti kufunikira kwa kudziyimira pawokha ndi imodzi mwa magawo omwe atukuka kwa munthu.
Osawopa kukambirana za tsogolo lanu.
Kodi maphunziro a kudziyimira pawokha amayamba bwanji? Pambuyo polandila mwana, malo ophunzitsira apamwamba sangakhale operewera kuti akambirana naye mapulani. Kodi akuwona chiyani moyo wake wopita? KODI MUKUFUNA KUGWIRA NTCHITO KAPENA KUFUNA KUGWIRA NTCHITO YABWINO KWAULERE? Kodi ikufunikira thandizo la ndalama komanso kuchuluka kwa kuchuluka? Ngati salowera ku yunivesite, chidzachitike ndi chiyani?
"Vomerezani, kuchuluka kwa" kukhazikitsa "kwakonzeka kupereka ndi kulipirira wachinyamata. Ndipo zidzakhala chiyani kwenikweni? Maphunziro olipidwa, maphunziro okhala ndi namkungsi kapena maphunziro kwakanthawi? - Alangizeni wolemba. - Ngati mwana sakufuna kuphunzira, muli ndi nthawi yochuluka bwanji yomwe mwakonzeka? Kodi wachinyamata adzayamba liti kufunafuna ntchito? Ndi thandizo liti lomwe likufunika kwa nthawi yoyamba? Ndipo adzathandizira liti ku Bajeti ya Banja? Zonsezi ndizofunikira kwambiri, Mwana kapena mwana wamkazi ayenera kukhala ndi malingaliro osaganizira, ngakhale mumakonda ndi chisamaliro, iye angafunike, ndipo amatenga nawo udindo wawo, ndipo amawasunga. "