Kulowelela
Pali malingaliro angapo pavutoli. Mwachitsanzo, mabungwe othandizira amaganizira kudalira kudalira modalirika ngati chizindikiro cha banja lonselo. Ndiye kuti, wina ndi amene akudwala, ndipo vutoli limathandizira dongosolo lonse. Chifukwa chake, motero amagwira ntchito ndi banja lonse. Ndi odalira - m'magulu a osadziwika ndi chithandizo chaumwini. Ndi achibale amagwira ntchito m'magulu a com-omwe amadalira chithandizo chamankhwala, kufufuza zabwino zilizonse zomwe munthu wapamtima wadwala.
Mankhwala okhudzana ndi umunthu akunena kuti wodalira satha kuthana ndi manyazi, mantha, zokumana nazo zina zowonjezera pogwiritsa ntchito chinthucho (mowa, kapena chakudya chokwanira .).
Barry ndi Jenia Purete akuti kudalira kumakhala kovuta kwambiri pankhani zakale kwambiri. Wina wofunika kwambiri kwa mwanayo nthawi zonse ankakonda komanso wowopsa kapena wosadalirika. Ndipo pambuyo pake, mwana sanalandire thandizo kuti awonetse chidwi, zofuna zanu ndi zosowa zawo, adalangidwa kapena kuchititsidwa manyazi kapena kuchititsidwa manyazi.
Chifukwa chake, lingaliro la ife, chifaniziro cha "Ine" kwa munthu wodalirika. Wodalira amadziwopseza nthawi zonse. Kudya chinthu - njira yodzaza ndi zochulukirapo, mudziteteze kapena kusungunuka, kuti musamve zowawa kwambiri.
Anthu odalira amadalira chinthu chodalira. Iwo sazindikira zosowa zina, pokhapokha ngati kukhudzana, chifukwa cha kukhutitsidwa kwa omwe ali okonzeka chilichonse.
Chifukwa chake, gwiranani ndi wodalira ndizovuta, nthawi zambiri amabwerera pachiyambi. Odalirika athyoledwa, chifukwa sangathe kudalira chilichonse pomwe agwidwa ndi mawonekedwe a tulo.
Kudalira
Chidziwitso cha co-chizolowezi choyesa kuwononga kwambiri kuti musunge ku vuto lowononga. Ndikosatheka kuona machitidwe odalira ngati chokhacho. Odalirika sakhala ndi mphamvu yochokera kwa mayiko odalirika, koma khalani ndi kuphatikizapo kuphatikiza ndi okondedwa awo, i.e. modalira.
Izi zimawonekera zokhazokha kuti mumupulumutse moyo, machiritsani zosokoneza bongo, sinthani gawo lililonse kapena kukhala moyo wowoneka bwino.
Kudalira Chikhalidwe Chilengedwe Chimodzimodzi mkhalidwe womvetsa chisoni wofanana: zomwe zimachitika mopwetekedwa ndi kuyesa kubwezeretsa ubale wowonongedwa ndi "kumamatira" ndi munthu wofunikira yekha. Ndikofunika kunena kuti kudalira kwawo, kudalira kwa kuvutika kuvutika, kungakhale koopsa, koopsa, kwankhanza. Nthawi zambiri ndimamva nkhani za amayi kapena ana omwe adawulukira chovala chambiri kuchokera kwa abambo oledzera, omwe adatengedwa ndi mpeni ndi zinthu zina zoyipa mnyumbamo. Komabe, zitatha zotsitsira izi, mabanja ambiri akupitilizabe kukhala mosemphana ndi malingaliro wamba ndi chitetezo chawo. Ambiri aiwo amakhulupirira kuti ali pansi pa kuya kwa abale awo, omwe akhala wankhanza komanso wachinyengo kwa iwo, munthu wovulala komanso womasulira yemwe ayenera kuthandizanso kuyima panjira yoyenera.
Kugwira ntchito ndi wodalirika mu mankhwala kumakhala kovuta chifukwa chosawona mwachindunji kugwira ntchito yawo pakuchirikiza mawu osokoneza bongo. Nthawi zambiri amatembenukira kutchalitchi, zipatala ndi zipatala omwe ali ndi mawu oti "kuchiritsani!".
Monga lamulo, wodalira, komanso wodalirana amapezeka mu awiri, komwe gawo la odalirika limapezeka lokha limatenga imodzi mwa achibale, pomwe tsogolo la odalirika ogwirizana.
Aliyense m'banjamo mkati mwa malo oderatsa amakhala ndi zochitika zina, kupulumuka komwe kumakonzedwa ndi udindo wake.
Kukhala osokoneza bongo ndikumva manyazi komanso kusayenera kusintha chilichonse. Kukhala wodalirika - zimatanthawuza kugwera mumphepo yamkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa kusataya mtima komanso kukhumudwa.
Ngati nkhaniyo idawoneka yokhumudwitsa komanso yopanda chiyembekezo - mwina mukunena zoona. Ndi vutoli, siosavuta kupirira. Komabe, mwina.
Pali m'maiko ambiri komanso ku Russia, makamaka, njira zokhazikika zogwirira ntchito. Intanetiyi ili kuti ikhale ndi chidziwitso ichi, komanso pali othandizira malo omwe angafotokozere kuti ayambe ndi momwe angagwirire ntchito.
Ngati muli m'banja kapena zochitika ngati izi, ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndikufufuza thandizo la akatswiri panthawi. Zinthu zomwe sizidzakonzedwa zokha.
Ndikulakalaka mutapambana!
Maria Donakkova (zemykova), katswiri wazamisala, wothandizira pabanja komanso akuwongolera kukula kwa uphunzitsi wa Mary Khazin