Mumutu wambiri wa anthu, lingaliro lidakutidwa mwamphamvu kuti iwo anali kupereka makolo awo akale okalamba komanso moyo wachimwemwe, makamaka akamapuma pantchito, ataya kuyanjana kwawo.
Ntchito za ana okalamba makolo a akuluakulu zimaphatikizapo chisamaliro chachuma komanso zopereka. M'badwo wachikulire ukuphatikizanso zidzukulu, khalani nawo kunyumba, perekani zolumikizana, pezani, itanani kangapo patsiku, tengani zovuta zambiri zapakhomo.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti kuwerenga anthu ambiri kumati: "Vuto ndi chiyani? Chifukwa chake ziyenera kukhala, ndi njira yolumikizirana ndi m'badwo wakale. "
Inde, izi ndi zina. Koma tiyeni tikambirane zoletsa zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta.
Choyamba, kuimba mlandu ena mwa zipani kuti sikukufotokoza, palibe mfundo. Pali zolinga zakuya popanga makolo awo ubale womwewo monga ana.
Monga lamulo, zimachitika m'mabanja omwe ali ndi nkhawa pa nthawi zovuta: Mmodzi mwa makolowo ndi odwala, zakumwa, zopsinjika kapena sizingathetse mavuto azachuma. Nthawi zina zimachitika makolo akamabedwa. Ana amvera chisoni kwambiri ana awo, yesani kuchiritsa ululu wawo komanso kusungulumwa, mwakufuna, achikulire ena ambiri mokhudzana ndi abale awo.
Izi zimafooketsa zofuna za m'badwo wakale. M'malo mokwanira kukumana ndi ukalamba wake, kusungulumwa, kutayika kwa ntchito yomwe kale ndi chiwindi, pumulani moyo wanuwo, amadalira mkhalidwe wa ana ang'ono, kusiya luso lawo, nzeru ndi kuwongolera, kukhala odalira ana awo.
Zachidziwikire, munthawi imeneyi maubwino ambiri Moyo womwe umayikidwa mwamphamvu mu moyo wa ana ako, ngati kuti ukukhalanso ndi moyo.
Eric Erickicson, yemwe adafufuza zaka zachitika, adalemba kuti msinkhu wokalamba momwe kuphatikiza kwa zonse zomwe zidaphatikizidwa ndi moyo womwe unaphatikizidwa unali wolemera. Ndipo ukalamba womwe Regrenks umachitika m'maudindo akale amapezeka kwambiri ndi alamu, mantha, malingaliro olakwa ndipo kusowa kwathunthu kwa chidwi.
Ana omwe akhala makolo awo amakhalanso osasangalala kwambiri. Kumbali ina, malo amphamvu amphamvu amawapatsa mwayi wowongolera. Nkhani zonse zazakudya, zosangalatsa, chithandizo, kuphunzira kumayang'aniridwa owongolera. Nthawi yomweyo, moyo wawo umagonjera kwathunthu udindo wa kholo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti pali katundu wowonjezera kuchokera pakuwona ndalama, nthawi, kuchuluka kwa zinthu zotembenuka. Zovuta kwambiri za kholo sizinali kupatsa akulu akulu kuti apange banja lawo ndipo amabereka ana awo. Ambiri sangathe kudzipulumutsa okha ku kumva kuwawa ndi ngongole pamaso pa makolo awo.
Ndipo ngati mungapangire, ndiye kuti banja ili, monga lamulo, limapangidwanso ndi nyimbo za munthu wachikulire kuti: "Muyenera kupita kwa amayi anga, amayi anga ayenera kutchedwa amayi anga, amayi anga ayenera kutchedwa amayi anga, amayi anga ayenera kutchedwa amayi anga, amayi anga ayenera kutchedwa amayi anga, amayi anga ayenera kutchedwa amayi anga, amayi anga ayenera kutchedwa amayi anga, amayi anga ayenera kuyitanidwa, ziyenera kutengedwa nafe, ndizothandiza kupuma. "...
Ofufuza aku Russia akuwonetsa kuti mabanja ambiri mdziko muno amakhala pansi pa denga limodzi ndi makolo ndi ana awo. Alibe gawo lapadera. Amayi kapena abambo, ndiye kuti, m'badwo wakale uli ndi ufulu wosokoneza ana awo akuluakulu, patsani upangiri wolera ana kapena paukwati. Ana oterowo ngakhale ali ndi zikhumbo za moyo wachikulire, kwenikweni sanagwere mwa iwo. Amakhala olumikizidwabe ndi makolo awo ndipo sanadutse mawonekedwe olefuka, ndiko kuti, kusudzulana, kulekanitsidwa ndi makolo. Amakhala okonzeka kukhalabe pamtunduwu mtengo uliwonse, ngakhale patadutsa kuyang'anira m'badwo wa m'badwo woyamba. Chifukwa chakuti kulumikizana kumeneku kumabweretsa zovuta zambiri, koma kumateteza ku ukadzadzala, ufulu ndi ufulu wangwiro.
M'dziko lotereli, munthu amakhala ndi udindo wonse womwe amakhala komanso mfundo zoyenera zomwe zidapangidwa. Ndiwo mkangano chifukwa cha iye ndipo palibe amene adzalembe kusokonezedwa kwake muzolemba zilizonse. Ufuluwu ndi ulesi ndi wamphamvu komanso wosadziwa kuti ndizosavuta kubisa mantha awa ndi phokoso losalekeza ndi kupulumutsa okondedwa anu.
Mwachitsanzo, mwachitsanzo, ukalamba ndi kupatsa mwayi kwa makolo awo okalamba kuti apulumuke ndi izi, kuphatikizapo mantha a imfa yonse, ndipo m'njira zawo kuti azolowere zokumana nazo, osawazindikira .
Ine sindikuyankhula za zomwe tiyenera kuiwala makolo anga ndi kukana kuwathandiza. Koma muyenera kuyang'ana mu moyo womwe mumapanga. Mwinanso izi zimatilepheretsa ntchito zanu, banja lanu kapena nzeru wamba. Kenako ichi ndi chizindikiro chabwino kuti mukhalebe oyambitsa bwino.
Maria Donakkova (zemykova), katswiri wazamisala, wothandizira pabanja komanso akuwongolera kukula kwa uphunzitsi wa Mary Khazin