Maubwenzi ogwirizana amafunikira ntchito yayikulu pa mbali zonse ziwiri. Pali zochitika ngati kuli kofunikira kupanga chisankho chovuta, motsutsana ndi maziko omwe mavuto wamba sawoneka akulu kwambiri. Tikulankhula za Chiwembu.
Nthawi zambiri, mnzakeyo amasintha theka lake, onsewo ndi omwe akuyenera kudzudzula za izi, kuyambiranso kuneneza wina ndi mnzake pazomwe zinachitika. Kuphatikiza apo, palibe cholakwa chakunja, komanso chamakhalidwe, chomwe sichinthu chophweka kuzindikira, chifukwa panalibe kukhudzana kwakuthupi.
Kodi Chiwembu Chiri Ndi Chiyani?
Chilichonse ndi chophweka - ngakhale kukhala nokha ndi wokondedwa wanu, mwamunayo "amaphimba mutu", mosalekeza za mutu wa kuterera kwake komwe, mnzake nthawi zambiri satero. Izi zitha kutchedwa belu lakudera la theka lachiwiri: Monga lamulo, chiwerewere chimakhala chotsogola.
Koma nanga bwanji za chiwembu?
Monga momwe talankhulirana kale, chifukwa munthu wina wakuthupi ndi wogonana wopanda malingaliro, ngati munthu ali kale ndi wokondedwa, sakuchitika mbali. Pang'onong'ono pali chikondi, chifukwa ndizotheka kusankha pamwano kuti muchepetse malingaliro olimba.
Kodi ndizotheka kubwezeretsa chibwenzi pambuyo pangozi?
Tsoka ilo, ambiri mwa onyengawo sangathe kuvomereza chiwerewere cha theka lawo lachiwiri, makamaka ngati awiriwo ali pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali. Komanso zimachitikanso kuti abwenzi amadziwa bwino kwambiri kuti ngakhale mlendo sangawawonongeke, ndikuyamba kugwira ntchito pa ubale wocheperako, womwe ndi wa mmodzi wazofooka pang'ono. Mla uliwonse ndi munthu payekhapayekha, chifukwa chake ndizosatheka kunena ndi chidaliro momwe munthu wina angachitire.
Chinthu choyamba kuchitidwa mzakawo utavomereza kwa "mlandu", sankhani ngati muyenera kuyanjana. Ngati mwasankha kuyanjanitsa mgwirizano, mukukumbukira kuti mtsogolo muyenera kuyesa kuti musatchule gawo lomwe sikosangalatsa kwa inu, simumawabwezeretsa mnzake wolakwa. Kumbukirani kufooka kwa ma havelo awo sikungayambitse chilichonse kupatula kukwiya, ndipo kudzatsogolera kutha komaliza.
Kodi akatswiri azachipatala a mabanja amaganiza chiyani?
Akatswiri ambiri amisalari ali ndi chidaliro kuti nthawi zonse pamakhala mwayi wobwezeretsa banja pambuyo pake, koma kulimbikira kuchira kumakhala kovuta, kwa izi muyenera kukonzekera. Akatswiri amalimbikitsa awiriawiri, musankhe mwanzeru zamtsogolo za banja lanu, kwinaku pothandizidwa ndi mtima wamphamvu. Dzipatseni nthawi yoti muchepetse. Ngati ndi kotheka, kulumikizana ndi katswiri wazamisala yemwe adzakupeza njira yomwe mungayang'anire inu mwachindunji kwa inu. Kumbukirani kuti kusiyanitsa chiweto sikuli konse koyenera, koma malinga ndi zomwe anthu onse ali okonzeka kusintha.