Nthawi zina zimapangitsa kuti mitundu yodabwitsa, ikukankhira anthu kunanama wina ndi mnzake komanso tsogolo lawo. Mutha kulankhula zilankhulo zosiyanasiyana, kukhala m'maiko osiyanasiyana, konda zakudya zosiyanasiyana, kukondwerera maholide osiyanasiyana. Ndipo zonsezi sizikhala zofunikira kwambiri ngati mutakumana ndi munthu wanu, mnzanuyo, yemwe mukufuna kukhala limodzi zaka zambiri.
Ndipo ngati mukukumana, dziwani ndi kukondana ndi zaka za zana lathu, matekinoloje anchinelo ndi osavuta amanga ubale wokhala ndi mlendo, akwatire ndikusangalala ndi moyo zaka zambiri?
Kumadzulo, monga ku Russia, pali amuna osiyana ndi onse. Kuti mupange ubale wogwirizana, muyenera kungodziwa ndi kutenga miyambo ndi mawonekedwe a malingaliro anu. Izi zikuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse malingaliro ake, malingaliro ake pa moyo wake, maziko ndi zomwe akuyembekezera kuchokera kwa mkazi wawo. Nthawi yomweyo, banja losangalala ndi munthu wachilendo ndi weniweni, ngati tilingalira zozizwitsa zina.
Julia Lansk
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Mawonekedwe a ubale wapadziko lonse lapansi
Mbali 1: Amuna akunja amayankha motsimikiza za chilengedwe ndi kumanga kwa kachisi wa banja lawo. Monga lamulo, amakhala okonzeka kukwatiwa kwina kwa zaka 33 mpaka 340, pomwe njira yosinthira umunthu wawo idzachitika, ndipo nthawi imeneyo isanachitike, omwe akuchita nawo.
Ku Russia, pakadali pano, amuna ndi akazi onsewa amatha kupanga banja, kubereka ana ngakhale kuphwanya chibwenzicho.
Mbali 2: Munthu wakunja akamatenga mayi wina wolankhula Chirasha ku Russia, amadzimva kuti ali ndi udindo wonse, chifukwa chimamvetsetsa bwino kuti iye, akusamukira kudziko lina, amasiya chilichonse pano ndipo amasintha moyo wake. Amazindikira kuti simudzakhala wovuta kupeza ntchito m'dziko lake: Tsimikizani zolemba zanu kuti muphunzire, phunzirani chilankhulo chake ndikupeza ntchito.
Ndipo onetsetsani kuti: Ngati munthu wachilendo ali wokonzeka kukakamiza udindo wake, ndiye kuti ndinudi mkazi wokondedwa kwambiri komanso yemwe anamupempha. Ndipo lolani kuti mtundu uwu uthetse mantha omwe ali nanu ndipo akuthandizani kuti mukhale okonzeka kusintha zinthu zenizeni, dziko, anthu ndi chikhalidwe.
Zolemba manambala 3: Ndikofunikira kumanga ubale ndi munthu wachilendo mwakuya, chifukwa pali zina zokhudzana ndi azimayi onse olankhula Chirasha, kuti amayi onse ochokera ku Sporch-Soviet Space (kapena gawo lawo) kukwatiwa ndi munthu monga dziko lake.
Ndi "Khoma" ili lomwe muyenera kumangidwanso, kugwedezeka pa njerwa. Gwiritsitsani osankhidwa anu, momasuka komanso mwaulemu, ndipo koposa zonse, khalani odzipereka. Ndiwoona mtima, kutseguka ndi kuya kwakukuru kwa malingaliro ambiri akuyang'ana alendo omwe amuna awo akunja.
Mbali 4: Munthu wachilendo ndi wofunikira kwambiri kwa moyo wosankhidwa ndi zizolowezi zake. Ndikofunikira kuti azigwirizana nanu, mwachitsanzo, mutha kutsimikizira kuti mumalongosola za kudzilimbitsa.
Kupatula apo, ku mayiko ku Europe, simungapeze mwamuna kapena mkazi yemwe sangasamale thanzi lawo. Azungu ambiri akuchita masewera ambiri, m'malingaliro awo, nthawi zambiri, kufunika kwa moyo wogwira ntchito ndi kofala.
Mgwirizano wanu udzakhala wolimba ngati ungaganize za kusuntha momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito, "kuchitika" mdziko lomwe ali okonzeka kuchoka
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Mbali 5: Muyenera kudziwa zomwe mumayembekezera m'moyo wanu. Chitani izi pachiyambipo, popeza mlendo angafune kumva kuchokera kwa inu kumvetsetsa bwino momwe mumawonetsera moyo wanu muukwati ndipo zinthu ziti zomwe mukufuna kuzolowera muubwenzi wathu. Nthawi yomweyo, mwamuna wachilendo nthawi zambiri amadziona kuti ndi iye payekha, nthawi yanu ndi kutengeka kwanu, zomwe mwakhala okonzeka kupeza ndalama polankhula naye.
Munthu wakumadzulo adzafuna kumvetsetsa momwe mungapangire ubale momwe mungakonzekere kusamukira kuposa kukonzekera kuchita, kusuntha, ndi zomwe mukuganiza kuti mudzipeza.
Mgwirizano wanu udzakhala wokhazikika ngati ukuganiza zosuntha momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito, "kuchitika" mdziko lomwe muli okonzeka kuchoka, chifukwa kuphatikizika kwanu kudzakhala kofunikira Inu. Monga lamulo, amuna aku Europe amathandizira chikhumbo cha zomwe adasankhidwa kuti azizindikira, kuphatikiza pantchito.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale mbanja lanu ndi munthu wachilendo?
Wanu "Achilulte Fielte" akhoza kulephera kuyankhula momasuka chilankhulo cha wosankhidwa wake ndi osadziwa kusintha.
Inde, pagawo loyamba la chibwenzi, ndinu othandizira otanthauzira aliyense pa intaneti. Komabe, chitukuko cha maubwenzi chizifunikira maluso a mawu oyankhula, apo ayi ubale wanu ndi osankhidwa pang'onopang'ono.
Ndikofunikira kuti muyang'ane dziko lapansi "popanda magalasi a pinki" osawongoleredwa ndi mfundo ya "Kumene sitilipo." Simuyenera kupita kudziko lina, kokha kuti simungazindikire kunyumba ndikuyembekeza kuti mudzapeze kumadzulo. Kuthekera kwa zoterezi ndi zochepa. Zimakhala zovuta kukhala "anu" m'dziko la munthu wina, ndipo mwa inu, limodzi ndi thandizo la okondedwa anu, lingakuthandizeni kudziwa zambiri, chidziwitso ndi chikhumbo chokulirakulira.
Mwa njira, kupumula kunja ndipo kumakhala kudziko lina ndi chinthu chomwechi. Chifukwa chake, sikofunikira kupanga chisankho pa malo okhazikika kudziko lina kupita kudziko lina, kumangotengera zomwe zalandilidwa patchuthi. Alibe chochita ndi lingaliro la moyo watsiku ndi tsiku mdziko muno ndi zinthu zosiyana kwambiri.
Chinthu chachikulu pakukonzekera kulumikizana ndi wosankhidwa ndikuyika mfundo zonse "Ine", ndikumvetsetsa ndikumachita zatsopano ukwati wanu ndikusamukira kudziko lina
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Malangizo atatu apamwamba 3 kuti mupindule pa ubale wanu ndi munthu wachilendo:
Unikani nthawi yomwe mungaphunzire chilankhulo chomwe bambo wanu anena. Muyenera kukhala okhoza kupangira malingaliro anu ndikumvetsetsa zomwe ananena popanda zosokoneza.
Khalani nawo nawo chidziwitso cha psychology yamphongo. Izi zikuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse bwino ndi munthu yemwe waleredwa m'miyambo inanso kudziko lina. Zotsatira zake, mumalimbitsa kulankhulana mosavuta ndi kusankha kwanu ndikukhalabe okanikirana pa mitu yosangalatsa kwa iye.
Yesani kudziwa zambiri za NRAVAS, miyambo ndi miyambo ya amuna omwe ali ndi mlendo kuti akhale bwino m'banjamo, agwirizanenso, osawoneka, osawoneka, mkazi wake wachimwemwe.
Tiyeni tibweretse chidule chaching'ono
Ngati mukufuna kukwatiwa ndi mlendo komanso wachikondi komanso kusiya kukhala kudziko lina, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti chiyembekezo chanu chogwirizana ndi zomwe mukuyembekeza, malinga ndi zomwe mukufuna:
- Makhalidwe ndi Zoyembekeza ndi Zomwe Amayembekezera kwa Hafu Yawo Wachiwiri mu Ukwati;
- kuphatikiza kwanu kukhala mgulu ndi mwayi wotsimikiza;
- Malingaliro pazinthu zazikulu zokhala limodzi, mwachitsanzo, kubadwa ndi kulera a ana.
Chinthu chachikulu pakulankhulana ndi Wosankhidwa ndikuyika mfundo zonse zokhala "Ine", kuti mumvetsetse ndikutenga zenizeni ku ukwati wanu ndi kupita kudziko lina. Ndipo kenako mayiko osiyanasiyana ndi zopinga za chilankhulo sizingakhale chopinga cha ubale wanu wachimwemwe, chifukwa pamwambapa ndi zotheka kuchotsa zomwe mwakumana nazo zambiri ndikuwongolera zomwe mukulowa mdera latsopano.