"Inde, ingogwirizanitsa ku Frendzone," bwenzi lotsatira msungwanayo akukangana ndi inu, omwe amakhulupirira kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi maiko osiyanasiyana, omwe amagwirizana ndi zomwe zimachitika. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti bwenzi lanu silikulakwitsa - Mtsinje wa Alkhhhhhhhhhhhhda wa Allhka kuchokera ku Yunivesite ya Wisconsin adayankhulana ndi mabanja 88 omwe amawayankha mafunso 88, kuwapatsa mayankho. Malinga ndi zotsatira zake, amunawa anali okonzeka kuonana ndi abale awo kuposa iwo. Ndinaganiza zolimbana ndi funsoli ndikugawa malamulo a "mayendedwe otetezeka" ndi abwenzi a anthu.
Sankhani zabwino zanu
Mukakhala kuti simuli mu kukoma wina ndi mnzake, zimakhala zosavuta kulankhulana. Chifukwa chake mutha kudya chakudya limodzi ndikumwa kapu ya vinyo, popanda kuganiza kuti kupsompsona ndi kugonana kunatsatiridwa. Ndikofunika kukambirana za zabwino ndi bwenzi kuti azindikire kuti mulibe ndipo simungakhale mtsogolo. Zonsezi zimatheka mukakhala anthu awiri odziimira okha omwe amalemekeza ufulu wosankha wina ndi kusakonda kwake kuti awononge chibwenzicho. Inde, ndipo ngati pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya abwenzi anu omwe ali pafupi ndi malingaliro anu, sizingafanane ndi zina ngati zolaula.
Gwirizanani pa chiyambi choyambirira
Osayamba kucheza ndi munthu ngati mumvetsetsa kuti amakupatsani. Chifukwa chake mumangokhumudwitsa izi mtsogolo, pamene malingaliro anu akatuluka, ndipo udzasokonekera chifukwa cha kusintha komwe zinthuzo ndipo zidzakakamizidwa kusiya kulankhulana nanu. Kuyambira kuyankhulana kuposa momwe zimangokhalira kungodziwa, ndikofunikira kukambirana za ubwenzi wanu kuti ukhalenso wotsimikiziranso kufanana kwa zolinga. Ndikhululukire kuti palibe mwayi wochokera kumbali yake, kupatula chikhalidwe, monga kutsegula chitseko kapena kuthandizidwa ndikuvala malaya, simudzatengedwa.
Lankhulanani ndi gulu limodzi ndi mnyamata wanu
Makina bwenzi ndi chibwenzi
Awiri akumvetsetsa kuti muli mu maubwenzi olimba achimwemwe, simukukonzekera, mudzatsimikizira bwenzi pamenepa. Ndizotheka kuti mnyamatayo adzakhala mnzake wa mnzanu yemwe angasangalale kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu yaulere. Khalani odzipereka komanso omasuka kuyankhula za momwe mumakondera wokondedwa wanu. Simuyenera kuda nkhawa kuti mnzanuyo adzamvapo kanthu panthawiyi: Ngati mukumuyembekezera mwachidwi, ndiye kuti mulifupi kwambiri kuti adzakusangalatsani - chisangalalo kwa inu ndi munthu wanu.
Onetsetsa Toply
Kukumbatira mnzanu wa bolly - izi ndi chikhalidwe. Koma kumpsompsona patsaya kapena kukulolani kuti mudzikweze nokha m'dzanja - zilinso. Sinthani machitidwe a mnzanu: Ngati mukumva bwino kapena kukayikira, zikutanthauza kuti pali cholakwika ndi kulumikizana kwanu. Osatenga mphatso ndi mitundu popanda chifukwa, ndipo ngati mnzanu anena, izi ndi zakonzeka kuloza moona mtima za chifukwa chake simuli ngati kulumikizana kotere.
Pezani angapo
Pangani mnzanu wokhala ndi atsikana omasuka kapena abwenzi. Akangopeza chikondi chake, kulankhulana kwanu kudzakhala pafupi kwambiri - izi ndizabwinobwino, monga momwe anthu amakonda kugawana nkhani ndi abwenzi pokhapokha pokhapokha ndi anzanu. Komabe, kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa komanso kuyenera kulingalira ngati munthu ali ndi vuto lanu kuti azilankhulana, osatinso chiyembekezo chodzalanda.