Ndi anthu ena okha ndi omwe akufuna kuti azikwaniritsidwa, ndipo ena omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chokhazikika amakhalabe pamlingo wa zikhumbo. Zimatengera chiyani? Chabwino, osati kuchokera pama miyambo yodabwitsa ngati kulemba maloto awo papepala, kuwotcha pansi pa nkhondo ya mbime ndikumeza phulusa mu kapu ya champagne.
Kupatula apo, nthawi zambiri pama zidutswa ngati izi amalemba zokhumba zomwe amakonda kwambiri, monga cholengedwa cha banja, kubadwa kwa ana, kutukuka pantchito. Sizokayikitsa kuti phulusa wowerengeka wokwana. Koma anthu ali osimidwa, chaka ndi chaka, yesani njira "iyi" iyi. Osati icho.
Pazokhumba zilakalaka zikhumbo, tanthauzo lapadera limanama. Zimakhazikika pa Chitetezo chofunikira kwambiri zamalingaliro zamatsenga chotchedwa "Matsenga Matsenga". Maganizo oterowo ndi luso lathu polingalira zenizeni ndi zolota za mpulumutsi. Timaphunzira kuthawa kuchokera ku zenizeni, pamene dziko lozungulira dziko limakhala losatetezeka, lowopsa, losungulumwa ndipo palibe amene akufuna thandizo.
Chitsanzo chabwino cha kuganiza koteroko ndi kolol kuchokera ku "matayala ofiira". M'moyo wake watsiku ndi tsiku panali zifukwa zochepa zosangalalira, kudzipatula kochepa komanso kusungulumwa, kuthana ndi zomwe amalola munthu yekhayo amene amamuyendetsa pansi pa sitima yapamadzi. Ndipo ndi izi ndizochepa: kukhalabe ndi moyo komanso kukhalabe, ndikudikirira. Makina omwewo akugwiranso ntchito pazokhumba zathu: Posakhalitsa chilengedwe / chilengedwe chonse / chikondwerero / Lamulo la chilungamo kwambiri lidzafalikira kwa iye wokoma mtima ndikupereka. Kucokela kwa munthuyo, palibe chomwe chingafunike, kuwonjezera apo kufunsa moyenera. Mwanjira ina, osachita chilichonse chomwe chingabweretsere kukwaniritsa chikhumbochi.
Asol ndi chitsanzo chowoneka cha wolota yemwe amangodikirira kukwaniritsidwa kwa zikhumbo zake. Chimango kuchokera mufilimu "ofiira".
Mutha kufunsa za thanzi la anu ndi okondedwa, pomwe mukumwa patebulo labwino koposa, zimakhala zovulaza, komabe khulupirirani kuti kulakalaka kulakalaka chidzakwaniritsidwe.
Mutha kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna "kusiya kusuta", koma usiku wonse kukankhira mtolo mpaka kumapeto. Kapenanso kulota kalonga wokongola, kusiya chikondwerero ndi abwenzi makamaka pokomera mtima makolo. Kupanda kutero, kwiyitsa! Ndipo khalani pagome m'banjamo ndi olivier, akuyerekeza kuti "kuwala kwabuluu" ndikosangalatsa. Mwanjira ina, chikhumbo chopanda chidwi chopanda izi ndi njira yodzitetezera ku zenizeni zanu. Chikhumbo chathu chilichonse, chomwe sichinaphedwe, chimatanthawuza kuti sitigwiritsa ntchito njira zokwaniritsira. Ndipo pofuna kubweretsa chandamale, kuchokera pa njira izi ndikofunikira kukana kapena kuzisintha. Ndipo ichi sichikufunanso, izi ndi zochita zina.
Ndipo ngakhale ambiri omwe ali ozunguliridwa amayembekeza kukwaniritsa zokhumba, ena amayambabe kuchita nawo.
Komanso, dikirani ndikuchita ndi zomwe zimapangidwa ndi mibadwo yosiyanasiyana yamaganizidwe osiyanasiyana. Mutha kukhala olumala / azatsamba, koma amakhulupirira chozizwitsa. Ndi ana angati omwe amakhulupirira mu mphamvu ndi mphamvu za makolo awo, komanso zomwe zimamvetsetsa kwenikweni ndikupanga zonse zomwe azifunikira kukhala ana. Gawo la ana ili limakhala kwa aliyense wa ife. Ngati timakhala makolo omvera komanso omvera, ndiye kuti zosowa zathu za chisamaliro zimakhuta. Nthawi zambiri timakhulupirira dziko lapansi ndi anthu ena. Vuto ndichakuti kukhala waukulu, mutha kukhala ndi ubwana, kudikirira kuti agwiritse ntchito mphamvu zakunja kuti akwaniritse cholinga chanu, ndikofunika. Ngakhale kwa akulu kuti izi sizokwanira. Palinso zolinga, zolinga, zochita, zokakamizidwa, kufunikira kosiya zizolowezi zowononga ndi zowononga kuti akwaniritse ntchito zawo, yesani, kulakwitsa, kuyesa. Ngati mukukhala ndi moyo wamba, osasintha mmenemo, koma ndikuyembekeza zabwino, ndiye kuti palibe chomwe chingasinthe kwambiri komanso chaka chamawa, kumatsenga, "matsenga" omwe mwasintha.
Chifukwa chake ndikufuna ndi kuchita!
Maria DonaCkova, zamatsenga, othandizira am'banja komanso akutsogolera paubwenzi wapakati pa Marika Khazin